In what has been dubbed the latest trend in public oversharing, women are filming the results of their pregnancy tests and uploading the videos on YouTube.
These ‘wombtubers’ are bucking the trend of waiting out the first trimester (when the risk of miscarriage is much higher) before sharing their news with the world. In some cases uploading their pregnancy test videos before they’ve even told their husbands or partners. Excited, much?
US psychologists are warning there could be emotionally devastating consequences for sharing the news too early and too publicly for those who may suffer a miscarriage.
Not all of the videos have a happy ending either. Women who find only one line on the wee stick are still uploading the videos, sometimes several of them. One ‘wombtuber‘ says she finds it a way of sharing her fertility frustrations with people who understand or are potentially going through the same thing. Many of the WombTube videos have over 50,000 views so there does seem to be an audience for them.
I immediately filed this one in my brain under ‘things I would never do’, but then I watched a few and thought what a great memento that video is to show your future child. You could show it to them when you had been a particularly bad parent, as a way of showing them how wanted they were. Note: this probably only works if you do it for all of your children. I actually told my husband our baby news over Skype, yes, very modern I know. He was away for work for a month and I knew I couldn’t keep it a secret until then, in fact I was bursting to tell him. Just like these women, take a look:
Warning this one will probably make you cry:
The little girl in this is seriously adorable:
And maybe don’t watch this one if a cup of urine makes you squeamish:
Would you ever do this? What are some of the situations you’ve been in where people have overshared?
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Adorable. I did cry lol. We kept my first pregnancy a secret till 12 wks- but then I miscarried at 16 wks. After that we didn’t wait to tell people. 12 wks wasn’t a guarantee for us and after losing one baby we felt like we wouldn’t want it to be a ‘secret’ loss anyway. Because it was a big deal for us. I wouldn’t go so far as to YouTube it though!
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Hi I was wondering can you actually use the Utube video as a memento? I didn’t think you could download a Utube video? Will Utube be around in the future. Not even sure that the video you take will be able to be used in the future. Remember the 3.25 inch diskette???
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You know there’s the real video too? It doesn’t disappear off your hard drive if you upload it to YouTube.
And you can download off YouTube. I think you can if it’s yours, and even then, there are programs that do it for you.
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I will try and check that out – that would be really neat to be able to actually download and “keep” some of the Utube things
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**YouTube, not UTube.
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i saw these a few months ago…cute but definitely not something i want to do.
a few comments about other peoples comments though…the problem people have about posting ultrasound photos on fb is mainly related to ‘fb friends’ like someone else already pointed out. but its not only that…my husband and i had been trying for 10 months and absolutely nothing happening, and then i open up fb to find one of his friends has accidently gotten his girlfriend pregnant and announced it on fb with their ultrasound photo. it was pretty upsetting for me (and i know that is totally irrational).
in terms of oversharing – i wanted to tell no-one that we were trying but he pretty much went and told everyone. i told a handful of my closest friends, but we agreed not to tell our families. i think it is important to tell other people because it gives you greater emotional support – problems with concieving can put a lot of strain on a relationship and its great to have other people to talk to.
noone ever tells you how long most couples take to concieve; all you ever hear about are the people who had ‘oops’ babies
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I know what you mean… it can be upsetting when you’ve been trying so hard to fall pregnant and everyone else seems able to do it at the drop of a hat. But I wanted to offer you some hope. I was told I was practically infertile at 19 years old and even through a long term relationship where we tried for years I was not able to conceive. 10 years after the diagnosis I conceived my baby girl. I’m glad no-one was recording me taking the test- after 10 years of thinking it would never happen I was a total blubbering mess. 2 minutes later my housemate busted in and said “Someone just crashed into your car and its totalled!” I could have cared less. I couldn’t stop crying. Most women I know have taken 6-12 months or even more to conceive. But no-one tells you about it. All the hope and love for you… don’t give up yet. xx
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Ugh this made me cringe.. I can think of only one reason someone puts these intimate moments on you tube .. attention.
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I think the internet can be a vehicle for too much oversharing and too little genuine connection!
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Yes, nice vids and stuff but WHY DID THAT LAST WOMAN HAVE BLOOD SPLATTERED ON HER MIRROR?????
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Where I can’t see it… there is a bit of a smoodge of something though… lipstick maybe? You should probably be on CSI Sackville.
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Oh I don’t need to be on CSI. It’s in the FIRST FRAME. The long mirror behind her, not the bathroom mirror! You can’t miss it! And it’s kind of freaking me out…..
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OH MY GOD!
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OH yeah!
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OMG youre right….scary.
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That is freaking me out big time!
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notice that her top says “psychopathic” on it as well…..scary!
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Just guessing that it might be related to the ghost/witch type thing reflected in the bathroom mirror – I would say its probably nothing more sinister than some halloween decorating!!
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I hate wombtube it just seems so phony! That first video is fake. I also hate when people tell you they are trying for a baby, as soon as they start trying. One friend tried for 2 years and a colleague announced very early wife pregnant “first try…nothing to it…I’m the man” kind of way, I remember saying really happy but maybe tone it down a notch as he told the whole company very early on. Every little detail. She miscarried and he took 2 WEEKS off work to support her and she took a month off work. For the last 6 months they have been trying, he talks abt it every month, and she now hasn’t fallen pregnant. Another lady just announced she was 5 months pregnant after years of silently trying to have a baby and suffering multiple miscarriages. I’d be somewhere inbetween but when it comes to Pregnancy and babies, I still don’t dare to ask as you never know what’s going on unless the other person wants to share too.
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I also want to add he took 2 weeks off work when this was a very early stage pregnancy, and I found this very difficult when people turn up to work gg through cancer treatment and having family die, and we were all expected to stop work and grieve with them for a month. I don’t want to sound selfish but I was shocked at the length of time and such public grieving in the workplace and this time he is still oversharing with the babymaking. I don’t think it’s just women who overshare, but remember that the quieter one who might remain silent may be trying to have her own baby too.
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I think he sounds like a great husband. I wish my husband had been able to take 2 weeks off. Him sharing their journey has no effect on anyone else’s.
Your comment made me rather sad.
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They lost a baby. Their baby was important to them and a part of their lives from the moment they knew of it’s existence. My husband took a week off work when I miscarried. I took two. We were devastated and we needed to mourn. You wouldn’t begrudge someone mourning a child and for many people who are trying for a child that pregnancy is much loved and there is a huge emotional involvement with it. Telling people early is just one way some people express this love. Yes some people keep it quiet and that doesn’t mean they are any less attached- but for some talking about the baby is just a reflection of how much a part of their lives it already is. If it’s kept a secret your not allowed that option of mourning, and it also creates a culture of secrecy around pregnancy loss. When I miscarried I felt so alone- no one can possibly understand who hasn’t miscarried a much longed for baby. As it turns out MANY MANY women have suffered it. It’s just no talked about. It’s bourne in silence and shame.
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I’m sorry but what difference does it make if they lost the baby at 5 weeks into the pregnancy or 25 weeks?!? A loss is still a loss and honestly if you’ve NEVER experienced one, you have no idea how much it can affect your life – so please refrain from JUDGING how other people deal with such a loss.
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My husband took no time off at any point during any of my miscarriages, not even a day, not even THE day that I miscarried – his choice, I was going to beg him to stay home but I wish he had of. What it meant was time to myself to think about my loss[es], to ponder what might have been, to blame myself over and over – too much time. I needed him to be there for me and he wasn’t, I think it was his way of dealing with it but still it hurt that he chose to go into work instead of staying home with me.
Don’t judge what you know very little about – loss affects different people different ways – there are no rules, so please don’t try to apply any.
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A month off work for a miscarriage!!! I know this isn’t going to be a popular comment but in my opinion that is waaaay over the top. And her husband taking two weeks off????
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Slightly off topic – but I’ve noticed lots of people having issues with friends’ ultrasound pics on Facebook…and I don’t get it? How is that annoying or offensive? I think it’s super exciting, as 9mths is a long time to wait when it’s your friend. I just want to see that baby!
Thoughts?
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I think their issue is with ‘Facebook’ friends rather than ‘real’ friends.
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It’s TMI – I don’t need to see the inside of someone’s womb, sorry…
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the only issue i have is with those 3D ones that terrify me to my very soul!
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as someone who has lost many pregnancies and been trying for many years, i don’t need to see ultrasound pics on facebook, it’s painful and it hurts and it just reminds me of what a failure my body is.
am i happy for the people sharing the pics? of course but i don’t need to see them, some days i can “handle” pregnancy and pregnant people, other days sees me in floods of tears – i know which days are going to be bad and i do everything in power to avoid pregnancy, pregnant women and babies – nothing worse than to be blindsided by a ultrasound pic on Facebook on one of these days.
i actually hide my facebook friends if they’re pregnant, this way i can decide what i want to read about their pregnancy on the days i can handle it – means no blindsiding.
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over used expression, much? annoying online turn of phrase, much?
Please stop using this, much. It is driving me crazy!!!!
Much!
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Rude much?
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it feels like such a private, loving, special moment that should not be shared with anyone other then the parents-to-be.
I still remember when we first found out about both our pregnancies, they were so special, and all ours to keep forever and ever in our hearts.
Each to there own of course – but surely some things are best left private and sacred?
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Sorry to leave this as a reply it’s really just a comment but my phone doesn’t show an option to just post?
The first one is the only one I watched and the first thought I had was how sad that the husband/bf filming doesn’t get to react himself because he’s holding the camera?! It seemed wrong that she was getting all excited and he was filming her that should have been happenig together!
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What I find so uncomfortable is the women (friends) who insist on sharing their very personal and graphic photographs of their babies just seconds after birth on Facebook. Is nothing private or sacred anymore?
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That first one when the lady bursts into tears and is so happy made me cry! So sweet!
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I think people share waaaaay too much these days, nothing is private any more, not even what is going on in people’s bathrooms. Honestly, I don’t want to read people’s blogs about their miscarriages, and pregnancies – it’s not that interesting (especially the latter) to anyone but the pregnant person. I wish people would keep their pregnancy news to themselves for as long as possible, or else the rest of us feel like their pregnancy has lasted as long as an elephant’s.
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If you’re not interested, then just don’t read the blog! Many people are very excited for their friends and enjoy hearing about and sharing their experience of pregnancy and their joy at the initial news.
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Initial news, yes, but the continual updates about every little gory detail as though they are the first person ever to pregnant in the history of the world I can do without.
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Actually women who are pregnant for the first time often find these other womens blogs helpful and exciting to be sharing.. just because you do not agree with them there is always someone who does..
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No way I would do that myself, but I did love watching them…
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i’m perhaps a pessimist, but that first one seems so staged. cute couple, clean bathroom, picture quality is good…. i wouldnt be surprised if its not a viral marketing ploy for some pregnancy test company…
i told my close family and friends as soon as i found out… i didnt tell the wider community until the obligatory 12 weeks. seems a bit overshare to me. i am always weary of people sharing the news before 12 weeks, i’ve had a few friends miscarry before then, and its awkward when people say “so hows the pregnancy going” and they have lost the baby weeks beforehand but havent got around to telling that person…
does anyone else feel awkward these days asking people how they’re pregnancy is going in the early days? i always feel its going to be bad news.
pessimist again!
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Good thinking about the viral marketing campaing gh – I reckon you might be onto something.
I don’t like being told about people’s pregnancies early, it makes it seem sooooo long. I waited until at least 12 weeks both times and I’m glad I did. Also, my husband and I agreed that we would not continue with a pregnancy if the Downs etc tests were not ‘normal’, so that was another reason we waited.
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I’m shocked how many people tell you when they are trying for a baby! I would never tell anyone we were trying. I have 3 people I know of who are trying. One told us 2 months before she started and that was 8 months ago… I don’t know what to do. Am I meant to ask every time I see her? Pretend I don’t know? I would definitely rather not know this.
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yeah the whole ‘we’re trying for a baby’ thing is a little strange, like you’ve just announced ‘GUESS WHO’S GOING TO BE HAVING ALL THE SEX? THIS COUPLE!’ to everyone.
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Wow cant believe that you just decided to share that information “if the Downs etc test were not normal” you wouldn’t continue with the pregnacy, you obvousily have not had to make that decision.
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Why is that a bad thing to share? I am 100% sure that we would not have continued with a pregnancy if the baby had Downs. Plenty of people abort abnormal pregnancies. Why the shock Anonymous?
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Sorry just a little to close to home at the moment. Oh and sorry my coment may have sounded rude,not my intention.
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Sorry you’ve had to deal with something so major, can’t have been easy. No offence taken.
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That first clip made me bawl. It’s very much like my reaction was, only my husband wasn’t home so I ran around the house, spinning the cats around and crying. I wish I had a video, even though, sadly, Peanut wasn’t strong enough to “stick”.
I have always been an oversharer, and my miscarriage has taken me to a whole new level. I didn’t tell many people we were trying, because I expected it to take a long time and didn’t want to broadcast what I felt was my failure. When Peanut was conceived we told close friends and those I knew would be so happy for us that I couldn’t wait to see their reaction. When we lost Peanut I was shocked by how many women I knew had miscarried in silence, so I went public for the women like me who felt so lost and needed an insight into someone else’s experience. That was what I wanted in the days immediately after.
To protect myself a bit from my overshare, I keep about a fortnight between writing my letters to Peanut and blogging them. I warned my friends that it was a bit nuts sometimes and a lot gross sometimes, but I think most people expect something of that nature from me anyway!
You can read my story at withoutpeanut.com.
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In the same spirit, I should say that we are trying again now, and I’m going to tell more people sooner. I’m the kind of person who needs people to talk to whether I’m happy or sad, and what’s the point of keeping it secret when I’ve already put myself and Peanut in the public sphere?
Wish me luck!
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good luck, i hope everything works out for u!
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I’m glad I wasn’t the only one that got teary at that first one. Good luck Kate C x
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Thank you for your post and your blog. I just found out at 8 weeks that our baby conceived through IVF was “non viable”. I had my D & C today. I actually wish I had told more people because now I feel very lonely in my grief. Good luck x
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I’m so sorry you lost that baby you fought so hard for. It sounds like yesterday would have been a very hard day for you. If you need to talk, please stop by withoutpeanut.com and leave me a message. I’m here if you need someone to go over it all with. Look after yourself x
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*Hugs*
That’s why I think I’d tell people quite early, if I were pregnant. There’s nothing shameful about miscarriage or what you’ve had to go through, and you need all the support you can get.
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as someone has lost a lot of pregnancies, i wouldn’t be uttering a word to anyone until i was well into the second trimester – really it’s no one elses business anyway and if people are “offended” that i hadn’t told them, i wouldn’t care. when you’ve experienced as many miscarriages and as many years ttc and still come up with empty arms, THEN you can be “offended”, until then my body, my baby my choice when and even IF to tell.
i’ve had that much disappointment that i wouldn’t believe that i was coming home with a baby until i did. once you’ve lost and especially once you’ve lost more than once, pregnancy isn’t a happy glowing experience, it’s something that leaves you holding your breath for months on end and one that only lets you breath out once you’re holding a wriggling, crying, BREATHING little bundle of joy in your arms.
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Twice now I have told family about being pregnant and then had miscarriages and it was hard to tell. This time around we have not told anyone other than the two mothers but I understand the wish to share and I recall being hurt when my friends only told me after the 12 wk mark. Of course as far as tradition goes this is only a relatively recent thing since medical science has worked out that miscarriages occur more before a certain time (I think it is actually earlier than the 12 wk mark more like 8 wks ((gestation)) and dating has become more accurate. We did tell our daughter aged 4.5 about us expecting the last baby and when we lost it she was fine – ‘lucky you have me then’ she said and so right she was. Bless her. Kids often handle these things better than we think.
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Eventually….the actual moment of conception will make it to YouTube.
If we ever get pregnant, no one is going to find out until we’re sure that everything is running smoothly. And I do mean “no one”.
Okay….maybe I might share the news here.
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Wishing you luck!
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Why do people say ‘when we get pregnant’? WE are not pregnant, SHE is pregnant.
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Well obviously she’s the pregnant one but I think the phrase is ‘we’ are pregnant because it takes two people to make the baby..
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I know, it just annoys me for some reason – FWP really…
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Already has it’s called you porn
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We lost our first baby at 20 weeks which was way after we’d told everyone that we were pregnant. It was one of the hardest experiences of my life to then have to tell everyone that we had lost the baby. With our second baby we didn’t tell everyone until we couldn’t hide the pregnancy anymore.
Although I did want the support of people while I was grieving it was much harder because everyone knew. It made for some very awkward conversations and people didn’t know how to treat me. It was much easier to be around people who didn’t know who treated me like “normal”.
So maybe only tell your closest friends rather than the whole world.
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Jess, I’m genuinely very sorry to hear of your loss. Take care.
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It can be very sad to lose a baby at any stage. It just reminds one too that the 12 wk mark is by no means a certainty that it will go ok. I am thinking of waiting till I have a baby in arms this time around!!
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LOL – I think I need my eyes checked. I first read this as WORMTube… honestly, it’s still silly either way.
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Is nothing private any more – seriously???
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My husband told his gym instructor before the pee was even dry on the stick. I thought that was too much. Broadcasting it on the internet? WAAAAYYY too much sharing. Some things can be kept private.
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I wouldn’t film myself taking a pregnancy test. But I’ve been through two pregnancies now. The first during which I miscarried and hadn’t told anyone I was pregnant except my husband because of some stupid rule I thought you had to keep and not tell people you are pregnant till the second trimester. So I miscarried during the first trimester and I was absolutely devastated and no one knew! No friends. No family. My husband wasn’t affected the way I was and I felt so alone in my grief. So the second pregnancy I told close friends and family as soon as I knew, so that if I miscarried again I would have support around me. Thankfully though that pregnancy I carried to term and had a beautiful little girl.
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I agree , I have lost several pregnancies and there is absolutely no shame in it. I think it is Important to have people know you are pregnant so they can be there for you should things not work out. Not sure if the whole world needs to know though? Each to there own .
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Thanks for sharing KatK. I’m a few years off starting a family but in my mind had always thought I’d wait until the first scan before I told anyone… but you raise a very good point about building support networks which has given me more to think about.
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I am a big sharer! My partner and I have been trying to conceive for a year now and all of my close friends know this (as it is a big thing that is happening in my life and I feel I would be lying if I didn’t share that with my friends).
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But moving forward, if and when we do fall pregnant, I really do not know what the “rules” so to speak are in terms of sharing that news. I couldn’t possibly hide it for 12 weeks and also I guess, if something terrible happened I would want support from my friends and I wouldn’t want to be ashamed of it hence hiding it. So can I ask….what are the “rules” with sharing that kind of news (don’t worry, I love sharing but I wouldnt videotape it for the world
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I’m a sharer too, I told my closest friends when we were TTC. I found it nice to share but also then people were always asking “Are you pregnant yet?” and “Gee it’s been a long time!” (Reality: 6 months of trying and then 8 months, with a 2 month break for medical reasons = not a ‘long time’ in the grand scheme of things when trying to make a baby)…
People always go on about “Ohh don’t say anything before 12 weeks!”, but as people have said sadly things can go wrong at ANY time, and if you’re the kind of person who would want your friends and family to know what’s going on and help you through it then to me it makes sense to tell people.
I haven’t made a big facebook announcment yet, because I am waiting until I have seen my closest friends in person to tell them, and we havent had a scan yet. Once we’ve had an ultrasound and gotten the ok, then I’ll do the facebook thing.
IMO there aren’t any hard and fast rules though, just go with what you’re comfortable with
Good luck with TTC, I hope you get your BFP soon!!
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Thanks LJ, my poor friends I think by now know each month when I am due so if/when I am late they will know. Ill take them along for the ride too then, doesn’t feel so lonely then!
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We weren’t planning to tell anyone but when we saw our obstetrician at 9weeks he recommended we tell our family and very close friends as we had a higher risk pregnancy (with-twins). He also said you shouldn’t Facebook as then EVERYONE will know if there turns out to be a problem.
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We have told family and close friends each time before 12 weeks, and then told everyone else once we had the ultrasound at 12 weeks. I guess the main thing for me was keeping the number of people who knew under my control so that if anything did go wrong, I knew who I needed to tell.
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12 weeks is “tradition” cos of the higher miscarriage rate. Tell close friends and family before then if you wish, but wait til the 12 weeks to make it public
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Wow you must be all so good at keeping secrets! Thanks for the tips
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All my friends knew we were trying, and EVERYONE knew from 8 weeks on. If we were iunfortunate enough to lose the baby I wanted the support around me… luckily I’m now 35 weeks and counting!
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Thanks Anonymous, we’re working on it!
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Gosh how timely… I’m “late” and I really should take a pregnancy test but after such a long and difficult “trying to conceive” path I’m terrified of home pregnancy tests. In my experience they are nasty, horrible things that never tell me what I want to hear but I’m also NEVER LATE so I’ve been at work all day today (doing absolutely stuff all) trying to negotiate with myself about when I will take a test. I’ve concluded that I will do so on Sat (will be very late by then). There is no way in the world I’ll be youtubing my reaction (happy or sad) but I have to say watching these made me smile.
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Oh how exciting! Totally feel for what you are going through and I hope you get the results you want
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Oooh all the best!
I’d be impatient and go and grab one now. That way if it is negative you can put it out of your mind and see what happens, start again next month, and if it’s positive then you can be releived and get to tell your partner!!
I agree though, pregnancy tests can be evil little things… Good luck though!!
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Ooo I am the opposite, I love the feeling of hope in those days so as long as I can feel that before I do the test the better.
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good-luck!
i used to do the same thing, wait until i was 6 or 7 weeks before i did the test maintaining a level of denial until then. weird but i did about 50 tests trying to conceive my first so went the opposite way with the other two.
fingers crossed for you.
xx
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Good luck!
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We are trying again after losing our first baby, and I’ve made the decision not to take a test until I have physical symptoms, which I did very early last time. It’s just too hard seeing the negatives. I also don’t want to go through losing a chemical pregnancy which was never a real possibility of a baby.
But thats me, and my crazy cycle means picking “late” is tricky. I hope you get to Saturday, with your partner by your side, and get to see those 2 lovely lines!
Good luck! xxx
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I would never dream of doing it but I don’t find it offensive at all. I enjoyed seeing the happy moments of these families. each to their own
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God, I think its weird when people keep there pregnancy tests!
I’ve done a lot of pregnancy tests and had a lot of positives, not only would I not film it and stick it on the www – I chuck ‘em straight in the bin as soon as I’ve got the result!
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Anything that is performed in your bathroom should not appear on YouTube or anywhere else in public.
Remember people- Bathrooms have a door on them for a reason. Bathroom=Privacy
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I would never even think to film a pregnancy test result, but I did find them videos entertaining – more so the second one because that little girl was sooo cute!
I couldn’t imagine filming each test I’ve ever done, and the memories of what it was like to get each positive result will stick with me no matter what
I am a weirdo though and I still have 5 positive pregnancy tests – 3 from when we conceived our daughter and I have two more still sitting in our bathroom, as we have recently found out we are expecting again. The ones from my daughter are in a sealed ziplock bag waiting to be scrapbooked, and the new 2 are the kind that have the cap on the wee-tip so the wee isn’t exposed, if that makes anyone feel I am less gross lol.
As for people sharing ultrasound photos on facebook etc, to me there’s nothing wrong with it, I do the same thing, but honestly to me all ultrasounds look pretty much the same…
I’m a chronic over-sharer. I don’t see anything wrong with it, I don’t go out of my way to do it, but if someone asks whatever (what was childbirth like or something) then I don’t lie or sugarcoat it. Plus I think I just have that kind of relationship with my friends, we are all honest about most things, and there’s not really any subject that is out of bounds. I like that.
I’m also a hopeless secret keeper. At the moment I am using all my willpower not to put our new pregnancy news on facebook, because it is new. We are only 5.5 weeks along, and with no ultrasound yet I am not going to put anything on there, even though I am telling pretty much everyone I know when I see them.
I’d love to film the birth of our next child, or at least get it photographed, but there’s no way in the world I’d put it online – maybe some birth shots but nothing where you can see ‘too much’ of me!!
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i don’t think it’s an issue. It may be oversharing to post this on youtube but it’s not affecting anyone else. No one is being forced to watch it. However like some comments before, i don’t feel comfortable with the ultra sound photos and things like that on facebook. i know i can choose to hide people so they don’t appear on my feed but i think that’s going a bit far. again though, it doesn’t really affect me all that much in the scheme of things. Some people love sharing their news with anyone who wants to listen and others don’t.
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Is this just another step in the crazy ‘everyone wants to be famous’ phenomenon that seems to be going on? Like we’re unable to have a beautiful, special and private moment in our lives without feeling the need to publicise it to the world to see how many people ‘like’ it?
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Wow.
I remember we got really excited about a positive result on my first pregnancy, and then ended up miscarrying. Telling family and close friends that news after our happy news was hard enough, but filming the news and posting it for all to see online would have been a pretty awkward thing to have to follow up.
I’d also imagine it would be pretty tough to have to tell a small child that there wasn’t going to be a baby anymore if the pregnancy wasn’t a success in the first trimester…
The next pregnancy, we ended up keeping it a secret from everyone until we hit 12 weeks and knew everything was OK. Seriously, if I filmed one of these every time I did a pregnancy test, I’d have hours and hours of footage!!
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My two best friends were pregnant at the same time several years ago (after both trying for YEARS) – and they had both told me privately – but hadn’t told each other. When the moment came for them to tell each other – I caught the entire thing on film – it was just magic.
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that would have been amazing to witness! lucky!
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My cousin and I were due on the same day. My mother had just written to her sister overseas to tell her, when her sister rang my mum.
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While it’s lovely to see their excitement it is an over share. I really really disagree with sharing so early with the little girl,I had 2 early miscarriages when my daughter was that age and I would have hated trying to explain it to her.
I’m glad I didn’t film the test we did for my second daughter, I shrugged and said ‘we’ll see how we go’.
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We have a two and a half year old and my partner kept telling her she was going to be a big sister etc the day after got our new positive test, I quickly (but nicely!) told him to stop it for exactly the same reason, plus she has no concept that the baby is still a loooong time away.
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Awww the first one was so beautiful & happy!! Filled my heart with love
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I’ve been wondering if I’m on my own with this for a long time…but does anyone find it too much that so many women (read, most) now put their ultrasound pics online/facebook/twitter as profile pics etc. I just think it’s a private and special image to be shared with family members only and not hundreds of acquaintances.
I don’t mean to offend but I’m just really over seeing them.
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I guess it depends how people use thier facebook. The people on thier friends list might only be thier family and close friends?
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They’re not as some of these people I haven’t seen since High School or they’re ex work colleagues (ie people I barely know these days)…
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Oh wow, maybe cull them then lol. Or hide them from your newsfeed
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I agree.I don’t have children, and have quite a number of friends who have just had their first baby. I’m constantly amazed at the amount of hoo ha that comes with having a baby – and by hoo ha I mean baby showers (please, no!), discussing babies, looking a baby photos and, my personal favourite, being told at a first birthday party that “Katherine looks like she wants to have a hold” when Katherine is perfectly happy holding a glass of wine in one hand and a canape in another.
I do love my friends, and I am genuinally happy for them and their new family, and I do eventually want children, but my point is – keep this stuff for people who are genuinly interested, don’t force it upon those who just want to watch from the sidelines.
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And also some of the ‘My baby is now X weeks old and going through X development’ facebook apps, it all just seems too much!
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Baby showers have been going on for years, it’s not new.
I guess it’s boring to those that don’t have children (the hooha), but not to most parents.
While I don’t think it’s appropriate to push someone to hold a baby/toddler, is wine appropriate at their birthday either?
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We had champers at my girls 1st brithday. I thought we deserved it!
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I can completely agree where you are coming form KatLizzy. I was in the same position as you until I found out late last year, I was preggers (oops!). She might be a surprise baby for us, but not unwelcome.
Something strange does happen, you are thrown into a world which is very unusual and has a strange way of taking over your thoughts. As the ‘first cab off the rank’ of my friends (all in our 30′s), I am very aware that baby and baby talk isn’t high on list of topics, but it is very hard when it consumes your world and all of a sudden you are very excited about something you know nothing about.
But I hear you (that was me at the baby parties) and YES, I do miss drinking wine and no, I’m not interested in hold/hanging out with everyones children now Im pregnant.
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Wow, I’m glad you’re not my friend! Agree that constant talking of babies/kids isn’t fun for everyone but why wouldn’t you politely decline the 1st birthday invite rather than go and bitch about it afterwards?
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I don’t want to sound cynical but that first one looks very professionally shot. Looking at the reflection, yes it is a good camera but the lighting looks too perfect.
Otherwise, not something I would do. And I can definitely see the harm if the pregnancy doesn’t end up being viable. I was a little nervous as we ended up telling a lot of people before the 12 weeks – I knew from 5 weeks and was just too excited. Luckily all was fine but I don’t know what I would have done if it wasn’t.
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I agree, and why do they have an appointment booked to confirm either way?
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Good point. I can understand having an appointment booked to confirm the pregnancy but when you don’t know yet???
But I have to say the reaction was very, very real. Otherwise, she is a fantastic actor.
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They were probably going through an IVF cycle – which would also explain the reaction – and had to have hormone levels checked throughout the process.
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I can’t even understand why people put photos of the pregnancy test itself on facebook etc. Everyone’s writing congratulatory comments and I’m just sitting there thinking ‘…..that is a stick with your pee on it’
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Totally ignoring all the deep emotional questions in relation to this – I just dont think I could react naturally infront of a camera…
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That’s exactly what I was thinking! I’d be too worried about what my reaction was to actually have a genuine reaction at all. I look forward to that being a precious, intimate and private moment between me and my husband.
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Okay, I didn’t even watch the videos. I would feel.. I don’t know..icky. I don’t want to see those private moments. Don’t people have any sense of the sacred or the private anymore? I feel the same way about people who post their ultrasound pics on FB. Not for me. But we’re not all ‘me’, I know. So each to their own. Its partly that I had 3 early miscarriages..and I think they are much more common than people know.
I’d say film it, fine, but keep it for the private home files!
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I totally agree – filming it is one thing, publicly sharing it is something else!
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I just posted about the ultrasound pics without seeing your comment first, I totally agree!
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