Having a PhD in science makes my job as a mother easier, but maybe not in the ways that you might expect.
My PhD is in Nutrition, so you would think that getting my kid to eat well would come easy for me. Unfortunately, that has not been the case.
I’ve logged more than two years of postdoc research on fetal programming, which is basically how the uterine environment affects outcomes in babies. You might think that this has helped me to do everything right during my pregnancy. Instead, I think it just led to more worry about all of the ways I might be damaging my unborn child. Stress! Sugar! BPA! Lab chemical exposure! OMG! More stress!
Sure, I have had access to more scientific information than the average mother. Sometimes this is helpful. But sometimes it is not. For instance, knowing how to do a literature search to answer my parenting questions often leads to further sleep deprivation, especially since slogging through Pubmed hits leads me to come out on the other side with more confusion. Sometimes my drive to find scientific answers for my parenting questions just distracts me from my instinct – not that my maternal instinct is all that amazing, but I do know my baby better than anyone else in the world.
So how does being a scientist make parenting easier for me? As a scientist mother, I trust other scientists. And I trust doctors. I even trust government agencies, which bring together the best scientists and doctors in a field to review the research and make recommendations for the good of public health.
I trust scientists and doctors because I have worked side-by-side with them for a decade, and I know that they are not only knowledgeable, but by and large, they are overwhelmingly good people. At some point, you have to trust someone. For me, those “someones” are scientists and doctors.
I trust scientists because I know that the vast majority of them are just underpaid nerds who are really passionate about what they do. They are driven by the desire to find the truth about a question and work, day in and day out, in that pursuit. In addition, I know that scientists don’t always agree, so when there is a general consensus among the majority of scientists about something, such as vaccine safety or global warming, I feel confident with the majority conclusion. Contrary to many claims on the Internet, scientists are not in bed with Big Pharma, conspiring make millions at the expense of your child’s health. They are in bed with their husbands and wives, probably chatting about their latest failed cell culture experiment.
I also trust science because I understand the peer review process all too well. Although it has its flaws, and as maddening as it is when I am the one being reviewed, I have confidence that the peer review process is highly effective at weeding out the kooks and pseudoscientists and the conflicts of interest. (Unfortunately, there are a few kooky psuedoscientists out there with serious conflicts of interest, and it just so happens that one of them managed to publish fraudulent research linking the MMR vaccine and autism. Many studies have since shown that such a link does not exist, but it took 12 years for Andrew Wakefield’s Lancet paper to be retracted. How many dollars have been spent and how many people made sick or worse in the continuing fallout and confusion about this public health scare? When the peer review system fails, it can be truly devastating.)
I trust doctors because I know that most of them are, first and foremost, humanitarians at heart, especially those that have chosen to work in primary care. I know how hard doctors work to become competent in the vast ocean of information about pathologies of the human body. I know how seriously they take their responsibility of our health. I especially trust pediatricians. They have chosen one of the lowest-paid specialties simply because they love working with kids. I know that every pediatrician, at some point during her training or career, has likely cared for a child who was dying of a disease that could have been prevented by vaccination, and that memory haunts her as she faces parents afraid of vaccinating their children. Doctors are not conspiring against us. They want to help us make the best choices for our children, more than anything in the world.
Because I trust scientists and doctors, I didn’t question the CDC’s vaccination schedule. I didn’t pore over vaccine research or agonize about the decision to vaccinate my child. Instead, I trusted that the committees of experts at the CDC and AAP carefully make the best recommendations possible based on the data available. Maybe that is naïve. Maybe I am a lazy mother for not trying to become a vaccine expert before I allowed those first needles to enter my daughter’s thigh. Or maybe not.
What would be naïve is for me to think that I could become an expert on vaccinations. It would be naïve for me to think that I could understand the vaccine field better than the committees of scientists and doctors who have made this their life’s work. I know how much work it took me to become an expert on one or two corners of nutrition and fetal physiology. It took thousands of hours of reading textbooks and journal articles, sitting in lectures, attending conferences, and struggling at the lab bench before I started to feel even a little bit comfortable calling myself an expert in any field. So I think it is naïve for a parent to think that she can become an expert on vaccines by spending some time on the Internet reading questionable sources, almost all of which have some agenda. I accept that I can’t know everything, and I have enough faith in humanity that I trust others who know more than me.
It is not that I don’t question scientists and doctors. I do. For example, I recognize that government agencies and medical organizations often have a lag time for adopting the latest science into their recommendations. I recognize that tradition, culture, politics, and economics all influence those recommendations, and they are not without fault. I certainly question my doctors because I know they are each fallible human beings and they can’t know everything.
For example, I brought a stack of journal articles to my OB to convince her to delay cord clamping at my delivery. I did so much research on infant iron nutrition and came to my daughter’s 9-month checkup with so many questions that my pediatrician looked me in the eye and said, “You’re worried enough for both of us about BabyC’s iron.” Although I question my doctors, I also trust that they are adept at discerning fake science from real science. If I bring my doctor the sources I am using to inform my questions or concerns, she should be able to judge whether or not they are trustworthy and have a real discussion with me about factors that I may not have considered.
In truth, I do follow the vaccine debate closely, but not because I wonder if I am doing the right thing by vaccinating my child. I follow the vaccine debate out of interest for how misinformation can explode in a way that creates a public health crisis. I find myself increasingly concerned about the low rate of vaccination in my own community. I worry for the newborns in our town who have not yet had a chance to be vaccinated and for the individuals who cannot be vaccinated due to health conditions. I am starting to feel like I have a responsibility to share accurate information with mothers and fathers struggling with the decision of whether or not to vaccinate, because misinformation is doing real harm.
It is good to question our parenting decisions and in doing so, become more educated about them. However, as a scientist, I’m happy to defer to other scientists about some of the biggest parenting decisions I have faced. I am grateful for their decades of research forming the foundation of our understanding of child health and for the good-hearted doctors who care for my family. They have made my job as a mother a lot easier. I can spend less time worrying and more time playing with my daughter and soaking up the time with her as she grows up way too fast.
Thanks, science, for making it easier to be a mom.
Alice Callahan is a research scientist turned stay-at-home mom. She writes about the science of parenting, as well as her adventures in mothering, at Science of Mom. You can also find her on Twitter as @scienceofmom and on Facebook.
This article was originally published on Mother Geek and has been republished with full permission.
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I’ve used this comment before, but it’s well worth repeating:
I don’t believe in Santa
I don’t believe in the Tooth Fairy
I don’t believe in Conspiracy Theories
People who peddle in conspiracy theories are peddling in lies and misinformation…they live in a world where they must think that every movie Nicholas Cage has ever made is a documentary…that every episode of the X-Files is as legitimately real as 4-Corners…
I am increasingly convinced that I live in a world of adults and children…
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I normally post on MM but am going anon because I was left absolutely dumb founded that a reasonable, intelligent member of my family is still certain that the MMR vaccine is linked to autism. This person doesn’t want to immunise their 12 month old because of all the hoopla created by celebrites (yes, you
Jenny McCarthy) in regards to MMR. Even though Andrew Wakefield’s research has been discredited, it is still continuing to do harm.
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Jenny McCarthy makes me ill. Her uneducated ravings make it difficult for people with autistic family members.
Why can’t she just love and accept her son and spend time with him, instead of moaning about HER fate and trying to find someone/something to blame for her son’s autism.
I have said before, here, that our granddaughter has autism, she is vaccinated, she continued to be vaccinated after her diagnosis. I know a lot of families with autistic kids. They are all vaccinated, they all continue to be vaccinated.
Thank you for this reasoned article.
I have said here before also that the causes of autism, if ever discovered, will turn out to be complex.
Can I just put in a plea for people to realise that kids with autism are as loved by their familes just as much as you love your typical children. These ravings about vaccination make it sound like one needle and your child turns into an uncontrollable monster with no future. This is not the case.
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There has been something in the media today about the identification of DNA responsible for autism for the first time. They believe that they will be able to diagnose newborns. The article make reference to Fragile X syndrome as well. Keep an eye out for it.
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all i can say is thank you for having the courage to speak the truth.
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Thank you so much for this piece, Alice. I am truly grateful for the work you and your colleagues do – and I’m grateful for your honesty about how your knowledge influences your parenting
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I also have a Scientific background, although not in human physiology. And in a similar way become frustrated by seemingly intelligent people making ignorant statements about vaccination. I find it difficult to explain how the risk of not vaccinating is far greater than the risk of vaccinating. Usually I think I just come off as sounding self-righteous and arrogant. Next time I think I will just hand over this article. It does a good job of telling the whole story in a personable way. Thank you, I feel so relieved.
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Fantastic article and very well written! I too have a science background and you have just articulated all the sentiments I generally have about vaccination and other practices that are recommended by child health care professionals and government organisiations. I know enough to know that I don’t know everything and I would never assume to know more than scientists who have made the study of vaccination, foetal and child health and development their life’s work. I too trust the experts to give me the information I need to undertake the biggest challenge of my life!
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Bravo Alice
I’m always amazed by people who think that anecdotal stories or limited personal experience makes them an expert on anything. This article helps non-scientists (like me) appreciate the rigour of scientific research.
Hopefully it will help convince the dills who make statements like “all the vaccinated kids i know are always sick” or “I reckon it’s getting colder, not hotter, global warming is BS.”
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As the daughter of one of the last people diagnosed with polio in the 60′s I will ALWAYS vaccinate my children. To watch a strong, independent woman go through post-polio and be confined to a wheelchair or mobility scooter outside of the house before the age of 50 is something I wouldn’t wish on anyone and she will continue to deteriorate. Ok, there may be some risks involved in vaccinations but the pros far outweigh the cons in my opinion. I also trust Doctors and Scientists to provide the best for my children in areas in which I’m definitely not an expert.
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Great article! Agree 100%.
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So interesting. I am a scientist and I think that contributes to my motherhood difficulties including pnd and constant anxiety and need to research everything! Would love to do some research in this area, as at least half of my pnd support group are scientists!
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I think intelligence is a risk factor for depression in general, for the exact reasons you say – instead of just accepting stuff, you consider all the variables (no matter how remote) and all the possible outcomes, rather than just going “right, lets do this and just deal”.
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Excellent. Of course it is good to think critically in all aspects of parenting. So many anti vaxxers pride themselves on their going against of the status quo, just for the hell of it. “The majority vaccinates? Well, I wont. Just because I’m different.” That’s my observation of it, anyway.
Anyone who goes with the status quo is “ill-informed/sheeple/brainwashed.” When someone has researched (not on GoogleU) facets of parenting, and has decided to TRUST government agencies, paediatricians and the CDC…that is a legitimate and well informed decision.
I also love how MM continues to publish articles about vaccination. I love that this information is getting out there.
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I read in a parenting magazine about a mother who,said she wanted her baby given vitamin k orally instead of injected, because she “needed to feel a sense of control”. No acknowledgement that the injected vitamin k is to prevent hemorrhagic disease of the newborn, which can cause bleeding on the brain and death!
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Oral vitamin K is just as effective in preventing hemorrhagic disease of the newborn provided all three doses are given. The reason a single injection has been chosen by our health care system as the preferred mode of delivery is because not all parents can be trusted to see that their baby gets the three oral doses at the right time.
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The point isn’t about the efficacy of the vaccine, orally or injected. It’s that the mother wanted to be in control rather than saying anything about why it’s medically warranted.
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But oral vitamin K is just as effective, isn’t it?
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As long as you are diligent in getting the 3 doses, yes. They have the jab option because it’s only the one dose and it’s done, so much easier and less room for parents to forget about the other oral doses. 1 little jab or going to the doc/baby health centre for 2 more oral doses. Can’t throw a jabbed dose back up, either…
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I really don’t get this Vitamin K refusalism. Vitamin K is – you know – a vitamin. Not a vaccine. Haemorrhagic disease of the newborn is rare, but can be catastrophic. Is it better to give every baby a dose of vitamin, or to wait for one to have a haemorrhage?
Why is there a certain percentage of the population who feel they know better by reading on FB groups than the health professionals know from training, knowledge and experience? You don’t think that midwife who gives the vitamin K has seen thousands of babies just like yours?
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I recently saw something about the vitamin K jab, and the issue seems to stem from a study that found a long term link to the jab with childhood leaukemia (sorry not sure about the spelling), where as the oral for didn’t have such a link.
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“I accept that I can’t know everything, and I have enough faith in humanity that I trust others who know more than me.”
So well said, Alice. Just like we respect the knowledge of engineers to build bridges and pilots to fly planes, we don’t leave other aspects of our families’ safety in the hands of amateur zealots. So why would anyone do so in this crucial area?
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Brilliant article, Alice. Thanks for taking the time to express your thoughts so eloquently and thanks MM for publishing this.
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Science is 1 of many important areas to support parenting…
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Sometimes, it feels like the same sort of article appears on here every few months – baby names, books and childcare. But I will never ever complain when I see another article about vaccination. This team pushes and pushes for vaccination, because it’s the right thing to do. Thank you, and well done.
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What’s wrong with constant articles about books?
LET THE FLAME WARS BEGIN!
LOL. #justkidding
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Great article, immunization is a totally researched, safe way of life here in the Lucky country.
Those who take issue with it really need to spend some time nursing victims of polio, measles, whooping cough……wait, that isn’t so easy because the cases are few to none in Australia….I wonder why that is?! The recent recurrence of whooping cough and the devastation it can bring to families of infants, should be evidence enough to trust in Australia’s immunization system.
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Spot on!
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