Seriously though, more people need to have the gay talk (I call myself a lesbian though) because even if you don’t agree from a religious or cultural perspective making your child feel less like a pariah particularly as a teenager has got to be a good thing. When you grow up and there’s no discussion about gay and lesbian issues its another thing that can break the balance of a teenager. The risk and reality of (particularly male) gay teen suicide is much higher than people who identify as hetrosexual. For that reason alone the gay talk is important, even if you don’t agree with it, keeping your child alive and safe through the teenage years by supporting their choices should be driver to have these conversations little and often.

You are right concerning the different sets of prejudice that gay women face, however, I’d like to think that these aren’t the fault of the gay community, and don’t feel the need to separate myself even further by branding myself with a name to distinguish me from my gay brothers.

And yes, the “gay talk” is mostly as easy as everyone says. Life and love is mostly this way, but sometimes that way, with no judgement. And after eleven years of experience bringing up two boys in a home with two mums, I could count the negative experiences we’ve had on the fingers of one hand, and there’s been nothing getting to know us hasn’t fixed.