This morning, an 11-year-old boy was sexually assaulted in a cinema toilet in Melbourne’s north-east while his mother waited outside. It sparked a discussion among our readers: what can parents do when their sons need to use public bathrooms…
I like men, I do. I’m married to one.
I have two sons who will grow up to be men. But until they are well into their teens, I will not allow them to use male public toilets.
And a sign like this? Well, I’d just ignore it.
Try to stop me. A boy of seven is not a man! He is a vulnerable child. And he needs to be protected.
The risk of sexual assault, abduction or even worse, is just too great. A few years ago I read about a child who was followed to the toilets in a shopping centre and then raped and murdered. And I’m certain that many less serious cases just don’t make the news. No shopping centre or cinema chain want anyone to know that there are predators lurking. But there are. It’s a fact of life that’s been hidden for far too long and as a parent, my only job is to protect my son.
So like many mothers, I take them with me to the women’s toilets whenever we’re out in public. And if my husband is with them, he sends them into the women’s toilets and waits outside.
Right now, this isn’t too much of a problem. My youngest son is only five and my eldest is eight. They don’t complain about having to go to the ladies room.
Top Comments
There are female predators out in the world, too, yet you think it's better for your husband to send your sons into the women's bathroom by themselves, instead of going into the men's bathroom with them? That makes no sense and it's weird that your trust a bunch of strangers to protect your sons, but not their father. You say protecting your kids is your job, but you aren't actually protecting them. What are your kids going to do if a woman tries to molest/kidnap/murder/etc your sons? It would be better to teach them what to do if something does happen, such as screaming, running away, and basic self-defense techniques that even young children are capable of doing
As a woman & the mom of 3, including an almost 8-year-old daughter, I DON'T want your son in our washroom. I need to protect my daughter too and I've seen how sexual some 8, 9 & 10 year old boys are. It's illegal in Canada for persons over age 8 to use washrooms of the opposite gender. Use the family/disabled washroom or go somewhere else (use a bloody tree if necessary) but I WILL & have been that person that says something if your son is in my daughters 'safe' space!