By FRANCES FARADAY
OMG you had a baby!
That’s pretty sweet. You actually grew a human and pushed it out and now it’s a thing. Awesome job, well done you.
The thing is, I know it’s a big job. I know it’s life changing.
I know you’re tired from being elbow deep in vomit and poo and frustrated with a fussy eating regime.
I know you haven’t slept properly in a year until finally you tried controlled crying and it worked. I know you’re now enforcing a strict routine that is really working.
I know the patch of eczema on his neck is a worry but apart from that, he’s really relaxed. He’s actually smart. Mega smart. He knows colours already.
Know how I know?
You told me.
You told me at a party. I had glazed over. You didn’t notice.
So, I’m sorry to have to break it to you, but parenting has made you officially the most boring person in the world.
Is there something that happens in the child-rearing process whereby parents forget the skill of balanced conversation that spans across different topics? Where they don’t recognise a stiff smile or eyes that desperately shift across the room?
Parents: this is going to be hard to hear but you need to know it. Much like when someone has spinach in their teeth, I’m not being cruel by telling you, I just think on balance you’d rather know.
Top Comments
I'm pregnant and dear God, I'm fed up with hearing about labour (and the horror stories), all the terrible things I'm in for and, of course, mothers expecting me to listen to them drivel on about their babies/kids just cos I'm pregnant. Apparently, cos I'm now pregnant I couldn't possibly have anything else going on in my life. Apparently now that I'm pregnant I cease to be me and have a mind and interests of my own ... apparently I should be all consumed by this baby. I'm so bored of it all, already!
And for the record, I FEEL FINE! (why is that the only thing people ask me now ... "how are you feeling?").
I love this article! Exactly where I'm at with so many friends and peers right now. Unlike the author however, I am a mother of one 17 year- old. The difference is, I had her very young, and so was always acutely aware of not boring my friends to tears, and always retaining my identity as 'Michelle the woman, health professional etc'. I always had a life beyond being Mum and still do. I loathed mothers groups, Playgroups etc and actively avoided the 'school Mum set' simply because kids were ALL they talked about....oh and where they lived and what their husbands earned and how BUSY and HARD their lives were. Perspective is a wonderful thing.....