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Danni Minogue with newborn baby Ethan and husband Kris Smith

Why any right-minded person would watch an episode of Grey’s Anatomy of their own free will defies comprehension. Ditto All Saints, House, Chicago Hope or any other medical drama ever made.

Not even the prospect of a young George Clooney was enough to entice me to tune in to ER.

No amount of implausibly beautiful actors and soap-sudded storylines can disguise the fact they all take place in hospitals. Yes, hospitals – those buildings filled with bad food, overworked nurses and sick people.

Fictional or otherwise, surely a place best avoided wherever possible.

So I can sympathise with Dannii Minogue when she claims an aversion to hospitals was her motivation in attempting a home birth for the arrival of her son almost two years ago.

Speaking out recently in defence of the controversial practice, Minogue cited her older sister Kylie’s high-profile battle against cancer as the first of two harrowing experiences that left her wary.

“The second time I was in hospital for a friend who died of cancer,” she added. “She never came out again.”

Growing up with a mother who was fighting aggressive cancer I lost count of the afternoons my siblings and I spent perched at the end of her hospital bed for an after-school visit.

The corridors of her ward, staff in the radiotherapy unit and well-worn gossip magazines in the oncologist’s waiting room are among the familiar fixtures of my childhood.

Although I didn’t realise it at the time, hospitals became inextricably linked with feelings of helplessness and fear.

Then, when I was 17, my mother died and for several years those once-regular treks to hospital became confined to my paying the occasional bedside vigil to a friend or relative.

But the moment I would walk through the doors, and breath in that distinctive smell of disinfectant, the memories would come flooding back.

It was not until I reached my thirties and my husband and I decided to start a family that I was forced to confront my fears. I suspect this probably isn’t the technical term, but basically I had to “get over myself”.

This wasn’t just about me anymore – there was now a baby involved. And it is here the home-birthers and I part ways.

Advocates of shunning hospitals are fond of arguing that as a natural act, giving birth should not require medical intervention. Well don’t look now but “natural” doesn’t always equate to safe.

While pregnancy is not a disease – several months of nausea notwithstanding – it is a condition that requires close monitoring and professional care.

Scenarios peddled by home-birth lobbyists, wherein hospital patients are routinely bullied by unsympathetic surgeons, sit at odds with the dominant presence of midwives and the happy medium of birthing centres.

Another popular tactic is to point out, as Minogue was quick to do, that “Things can go wrong anywhere”.

Well of course they can. Nobody ever said checking into the maternity ward came with a problem-free guarantee. Human beings are fallible and sometimes, tragically, mistakes can happen.

But in the event of unexpected complications, a baby’s best chance at survival is in a hospital – as is Mum’s.

Despite the feelgood platitudes parrotted by home-birth champions, women in this country already enjoy a good deal of choice regarding where and how to deliver. And rightfully so.

But that should not extend to the right to give birth at home.

While heavily pregnant with my first child almost three years ago I was diagnosed with a rare condition that made a caesarean delivery the only option. If I’d attempted a natural birth without medical intervention both my son and I would have died.

For that reason I am particularly mindful it is a privilege to be living in a country like Australia where mothers-to-be are able to access hospitals with modern equipment and highly trained staff.

Why would anyone turn their nose up at that?

I must confess even two decidedly non-traumatic stints in hospital following the arrival of my beautiful sons has failed to soften my loathing of medical dramas.

But I’ve certainly learned that when giving birth, there’s no better place to be. To insist otherwise would be both reckless and selfish.

Sarrah Le Marquand is an Associate Editor and columnist at The Daily Telegraph. Visit her blog here.

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  1. Anonymous

    I don’t think anybody diagnosed with a rare medical condition that made vaginal delivery impossible would attempt a homebirth. This article is quite aggressive in tone, language such as “parrotted” and “peddled”. You’re not giving us any new info, just same old same old. I agree, lately it’s all been very pro-choice re bottle-feeding and making sure we all know that womens’ bodies are digitally manipulated every second in the media, but we also need to make sure we conform when it’s a bit outside anyone’s comfort zone, such as a homebirth.

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  2. Jamie

    What a surprise, another article on Mamamia attacking homebirth and homebirthing women. Notions of ‘pro-choice’ only seems to extend as far as a baby is unwanted around here, apparently?

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    • Um what?

      Yes! My thoughts exactly. It’s all about the mother’s choice when it comes to termination or breast/bottle feeding but how dare anyone choose to birth their baby at home.

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      • Anonymous

        Why risk your life if you don’t have to . That is plain stupidity and selfish on your behalf as a mother.

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        • Helen

          The female body is designed to conceive, carry and birth a baby. Our body/mind holds fears around birth due to our own perceptions of what we see, hear and feel. Each and every person is as unique as their finger print and the one size fits all approach doesn’t fit everyone. Today there is lots of information in which to educate ourselves on this most precious time of our lives ~ it is a right of passage from maiden to mother and the mothers choices around that need to be honored.

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          • Happy mumma

            If it is designed to do all that, then I would complain bitterly to the designer, as it does not work as it should for a lot of women.

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      • Jamie

        Don’t forget ‘if abortion isn’t universally legalised women will go underground and die’ but if we ban home birth women will all just go on and enter the hospital system and be saved from themselves?? Classic doublethink.

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    • Natasha

      Calm down Jamie… At the end of the day, Hospitals are the best & safest place to give birth. Simple & a fact.

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      • Um what?

        As a Neonatal Intensive Care RN in an area that has a higher proportion of homebirths per capita I have NEVER seen a baby brought in with problems following a planned homebirth. I have, however, seen many, many cases of (unnecessary) medical interventions having detrimental effects on newborns.

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        • Natasha

          I dont believe you..

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        • Happy mumma

          As a nicu nurse myself, you are very lucky. I have seen numerous complications from home birth.. Have withdrawn care for a few because of catastrophic hypoxic brain damage, and had others live with serious disability. I have also had a baby born in hospital after being transferred tha would have definately died at home due to an undiagnosed congenital condition that would have been picked up on ultrasound if the mother had had any.

          So i sm calling bull**** on you.

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      • Jamie

        Sorry Natasha, I won’t calm down! The evidence is nowhere near as black and white as it’s constantly painted on this site. I love my babies just as much as Mia and Sarrah do, how dare they publicly tar me and my friends as “reckless and selfish” on a basis of nothing more than the different choices we made as to where we birthed our babies? Choices I am legally entitled to make, choices they were not a party to, choices about which they have no idea of the details or safety of?

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    • Sophia

      I believe that if a mother decides to go ahead with a pregnancy (her choice which I totally support) then the baby’s well-being should then take priority over the mother’s wish to have a certain type of birth.

      And respectfully (doin’t want to offend anyone!) I don’t believe giving birth at home is the best thing for the baby. The mother, maybe but not the baby.

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      • Anonymous

        But wouldnt it be beneficial if mum comes out alive to take care of baby. What a ridiculous post Sophia

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      • Jamie

        The problem is, Sophia, that the mother’s desires to go ahead with a pregnancy is not actually the legal or medical ethic on which abortion is based. The legal and social approach to abortion in Australia revolve around the concept of personhood, and the fact that a fetus is not afforded human rights. It’s the same concept that those controversial medical ethicists showed could be logically extended to allow the killing of newborn babies. It’s also the same concept which means that people cannot generally be charged with murder or manslaughter for causing the death of an unborn baby.

        My point is simply that ‘wanting’ or ‘not wanting’ a baby is a deficient and arbitrary ethic on which to base the value of that baby’s life. And that it’s ludicrous to demand that women be afforded the rights to choose what happens to her body and her life, while in almost the same breath condemning women who wish to exercise those choices at the point of birth, and attempting to rob them of agency in the name of a being which at the end of the day our society has decided has almost no moral or legal standing.

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  3. Natasha

    I agree beautiful article

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  4. Phoodietweets

    Brilliant article Sarrah! Thank-you for sharing.

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