It’s the club 55,000 Australian women are unwillingly granted exclusive membership to every year. Mamamia reader Rachel* is one of these women and she needs some advice. She writes:

I am now suffering through my third miscarriage, my second this year. I need to know how am I supposed to keep picking myself up and trying again? How do I not give up hope? When do I know when enough is enough?

I have two boys, am I being greedy wanting more? How do I stop blaming myself? The pain gets worse each time and I just feel so sad and like such a failure. Everyone keeps saying “its not your fault” but how do I start believing that? I need help seeing the light again as its getting harder and harder each time to let myself be hopeful.

My husband says we should stop, he doesn’t want to see me upset any more, but I know he wants more kids as much as I do, if not more!

I know so many woman have been in my position and I thought I would be okay if it happened again. I thought I was prepared but I’m not. I want to scream and cry and yell and have someone explain to me why my body won’t do what it’s supposed to!!

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