I just finished reading the wonderful news about Sonia Kruger’s pregnancy. Even though I don’t know Sonia personally, I am truly thrilled for her and am so proud of her for being honest about the reality of her conception.
I too conceived my daughter through a long IVF tour of duty and also needed the help of an egg donor. (In summary, six years, 11 rounds of IVF and two egg donors). I gave birth to our gorgeous girl at 42, and I am planning on trying for number two next March with our remaining embryo. I will be close to 45 if the second pregnancy is successful.
Too many times these days the headlines read of celebs having babies in their 40s. I think it has almost become kind-a hip and cool to say you had your successful career and now you’ve managed to squeeze in a baby before it’s too late. But whenever I see this, all I think (and say to anyone who will listen), there is no way that baby was conceived naturally and it most likely came from a donor egg.
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Age has nothing to do wih being a great parent – By Rebecca Sparrow
Without one of her girlfriends, Sonia Kruger would not be pregnant.
At 35, my marriage of seven years was heading downhill. In an attempt to make things work, we moved to my home country to be closer to my family. Somehow we made it through those bad times and decided to try for the family we had always dreamed of. I was merrily going along my baby making plan until I ran into a pregnant work colleague in the tearoom one day and we started talking baby. She confessed she had been trying for years, IVF – the works. She was in her early 40s. She asked me how old I was and how long I had been trying. I was 36, and had been trying for 12 months. I was ordered to get myself off to a fertility specialist, pronto!
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When my husband and I started trying for a baby I was 26. Nothing happened so after 16 months we decided to see a specialist. After countless tests it was found I had blocked fallopian tubes and IVF was our only option. After unrelated surgery I somehow fell pregnant naturally with my beautiful miracle daughter. I was 29 when I gave birth and we haven't stopped trying for a second (our baby is 10 months) My point of his goes to show that the need for IVF can strike at any age and the length of time it takes for baby to come is a long time. I have a friend who did IVF for 5 years before she too was blessed with her daughter. I also know someone who is a father to his 8 year old and he is 72. People may be older nowadays when having children but we don't know how long they tried or if there were issues. I was lucky. It only took 3 years. For others like Sonia it is a lot longer. Maybe we shouldn't focus on the age of people giving birth on focus on the fact that they have a child they love and can care for.
I'm one of the very fortunate ones, now pregnant with my third however I was gobsmacked at each of my appointments this pregnancy from doctors through to my scans, each and every person was very quick to point out I was now "35". I honestly didn't realise what a big deal 35 was in terms of baby making. The one thing in our lives we have little control over, I know how fortunate I am and wish babies to all of those who so desperately want them x