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OK, maybe not really. But after taking a look at some of the Twilight fans’ response to her public admission that she cheated on Robert Pattinson, we would HIGHLY RECOMMEND that Kristen take some serious precautions. (If you’re not yet up to speed on the second biggest breakup of the year you can read all of the details on Kristen’s apology HERE).

They call themselves the Twihards. That is, Twilight Die Hards. They are fans of the movie franchise Twilight and they take the term ‘fan’ to a whole new level of obsessed. And they are reacting to the news that Bella cheated on Edward like….well…..watch this.

Exhibit A.

A homemade video called “HOW COULD YOU DO THIS TO KRISTEN?”

Yikes.

Exhibit B.

And in more evidence that the fans of “Robstan” (Like TomKat or Brangelinda – this is the widely used combined singular name for Kirsten and Rob) are more than a little bit loony, check this out.

They are creating these graphics in their thousands, they’re all over the internet. This is supposed ‘proof’ that the affair NEVER EVEN HAPPENED. That’s right, it was ALL AN ILLUSION.

Here, fans show you how all of the images could have been made in Photoshop. Even though she made a public admission. We’d like to suggest that maybe it’s time for these fans to find a hobby…

From the Twihards

But here’s the thing: Kristen didn’t commit armed robbery, she didn’t murder any cute puppies or teacup pigs, she didn’t talk shit about Ryan Gosling (heaven forbid!) The girl isn’t a criminal – she’s a 22 year old who cheated on her boyfriend.

Perspective.

This from Jezebel:

Kristen Stewart is 22, a very young adult. Find me one person who didn’t screw up, in ways large or small, a relationship at that age. And Robert Pattinson is just her boyfriend, as in they aren’t married. I am no Kristen Stewart fan — the polar opposite, in fact — but I almost feel bad for her that she has to go through that sort of awful “teachable moment” so publicly (even if what she did was exceptionally stupid, even if I believe playing the tabloid game is now part of a celebrity’s job, even if I acknowledge being complicit in that game).

Moreover, Stewart exists in a very permissive Hollywood bubble where celebrities can generally behave however they please, and she didn’t violate the sanctity of some social/legal contract. Nor was she involved in any criminal acts (as far as we know, anyhow, but there could’ve been some hot Bonnie and Clyde role playing); adultery isn’t illegal in California. And who the hell knows the state of her relationship? That press release is boilerplate. According to the tabloids — which are positively renowned for their accurate insight into the private lives of the rich and famous — Rob was cheating, they were ready to build a happy family, they totally broke up, they’re planning the wedding of the year, and god only knows what else.

None of this makes Stewart’s behavior even remotely excusable because it’s not, not even if the relationship is on the rocks or he’s the world’s most popular vampire. Say it with me: Cheating is wrong! Kristen Stewart Did a Bad Thing. She acted like a crappy person. But she did it to her boyfriend, and she’s young, and chances are she’s learned her lesson. Assuming Pattinson and Stewart’s relationship was in an otherwise happy place full of hearts doodled on notebooks, she certainly does owe him an apology. She doesn’t, however, owe him — or any of us — a press release. Stupid girl did something stupid. The end.

Kristen and Rob

You can read more about Kristen and Robert’s split over at iVillage.

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  1. Emma

    Wowee that girl in the video is something else! So are we leaving them alone or telling them off about cheating? hahaha it seems she is very confused

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  2. speccygirl

    I actually find the girl’s video sadder and more shocking than the affair. How sad that so many young women are so tied up in the lives of celebrities…

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  3. Hmmm

    I think that video is a fake.

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  4. whatahooha

    I guess I can just thank my lucky stars that all the crazy things I did and learned from in my 20s weren’t photographed and published.

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  5. Laugh lots

    FROOT LOOP ALERT! Oh my goodness! Fancy investing so much emotional energy into the lives of celebrities and sci fi movies! Who cares? It’s their lives, their decisions and they have the right to live their lives as they see fit, just like the rest of us – mistakes and all.

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  6. Sabrina M.

    “… she didn’t talk shit about Ryan Gosling …” This line made my day. ;-)

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  7. Anonymous

    Young or not, she still cheated on her long term boyfriend with a MARRIED man. I was propositioned by a married workmate (that I had a massive crush on) when I was 20 but I had the decency to say no even though I was young!
    As far as I’m concerned, the director is a pig for hurting and embarrassing his wife and children like this, and she’s a homewrecker for getting involved with the man.

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    • vanessayoung

      He is her boss, he is twice her age, he is the one who is married and SHE is the homewrecker!! Give me break!
      I am glad you resisted your married workmate, I, too,have been a faithful partner for over 30 years, but I have some sympathy for this poor young woman, I wish she had not felt the need to apologise to the public, it is none of our business.

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      • Anna

        The guy is over 40. In a marriage.
        Kristen is 22. Dating someone.
        Pretty sure it is the guy who should be issuing an apology, if anyone.

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      • Jil

        I found it a bit much that the media were calling her a ‘home wrecker’ too.

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  8. Anonymous

    That girl was a little bit scary and a little bit confused. Was she upset at what Kristen did to Rob or was she wanting everyone to butt out? Gosh that was funny. Sorry if I’m lacking empathy for the girl with issues.

    All this publicity is fantastic for the next twilight movie coming out soon. They timed it beautifully

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    • Nicky H

      I laughed my head off at that girl. I know she must have issues but I couldn’t help it!

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    • Just sayin...

      I don’t know if the publicity will be good to be honest. Their real life relationship is why so many of the “twi-hards” are so obsessive – oh their love is real! So many seem to be cranky “How could you do that to poor sweet Rob” and may abandon the last one in cinemas. I can’t remember which one, but one of the directors of one of the films said a few years ago that once they were together, if they broke up it could be an absolute disaster. A lot of worried movie execs right now!

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  9. Tallulah

    Many of you evidently have not had much contact with the strange, terrifying abyss that is The Internet if you think that is super crazy.

    At least she’s just upset about it, she’s not like the morons who made those graphics thinking it was an illusion. I find THAT scarier.

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  10. shanny

    i’m reading lots of comments on here implyling they only swapped spit…did i miss something? to me when someone says ‘cheating’, it’s sex….well that’s what i thought she did.

    otherwise, it’s hilarious how the twi-girl referenced chris colfer. all i could think watching that was, “leave britney ALONE!” LOLOLOL (until she broke down around 3:30; when i thought “holy shit, this girl has SO MUCH invested in their relationship.”) it’s like she’s the one who’s been betrayed. scary and not normal!

    love to hear a psychologists’ perspective on these uber-fans.

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    • Just sayin...

      According to Gossip Cop (who is actually pretty credible, his MO is to debunk the crap and report the truth) and People Mag (ditto) – there WASN’T sex involved. It was apparently a stupid moment, one time only thing that didn’t go that far, which is why she’s hoping to be forgiven.

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      • Mel

        I know Kristen (or her people) are trying to portray it as a ‘one time oops’ but what are the chances that the one time they make out they happen to get photographed. I guess it’s possible, but highly unlikely. What a mess!

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  11. GeeElleDee

    Twi-hards. Always good for a laugh.

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  12. jenlol

    I don’t even need to watch the video to know that it’s gonna be 50 shades of psycho

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  13. clarinette

    Wow. “crazy girl” goes from “how could you do that to Rob, Kristen?????” in the beginning to “it’s their private life, how could you think it’s ok to butt into their personal lives” “f**ing leave them alone” at 1:30/1:50, then she goes back to “if you loved him you wouldn’t have cheated” at 2:40, seriously this girl is lost in her own head, she doesn’t even know what she says…..what a crazy person. Wow.

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  14. Just sayin...

    A lot of the time, when married men have an affair, they lie and say they’re separated, or it’s a marriage of convenience, or staying together for the kids but sleep in separate bedrooms – how do we know he hadn’t said something like that ? I’m not condoning cheating, but I’m just thinking about the fact that HE is the married one. He’s the one who has kids. I hope they all make it through ok, learn from it, stay with their respective partners if it’s the right thing or start out fresh if the relationships can’t be saved. I’m trying to hold off on judgements until some more definite info comes out – its all just rumours

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  15. Jen

    I wish the break up of these two was the biggest drama in my life, like it appears to be for the first chick.

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    • Rose

      I’m not a huge fan of hers or of twilight in general but you’re comment bothers me slightly. We don’t know if this is the biggest drama to face in her life, in fact it appears in general she is as private as she can be given her career. Let’s not pretend we can know everything about her life or the hard/easy things she has gone through.

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      • clarinette

        Jen was talking about the girl talking in the first video, I think.

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      • Erin

        I think Jen was referring to the ‘twihard’ in the YouTube video? Or maybe I’m wrong?

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        • Jen

          Yep, I was referring to the scary ‘twihard’ in the first video.

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          • Rezso

            So it’s pretty clear then that the break-up is not the biggest drama in this poor girl’s life. She’s pretty unstable, don’t ya think?

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  16. anon for this one

    … while we’re busting ourselves on the rumour treadmill, any truth to the one about Miranda Kerr and Orlando Bloom going their separate ways? Say it ain’t so …

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  17. theoriginalpinny

    If I was Kristen Stewart I would be about 70 types of terrified right about now.
    One of those fanatical fans will stab her in the street – she needs protection around her all the time, and for a long time too.

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  18. Simone

    Good lord!

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  19. LisaF

    Oh My Lord.

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  20. katehunter

    I would NEVER have cheated as a 22 year old. Mainly because I didn’t have a boyfriend.

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  21. LJ

    To quote Charlie Brown…….”Good Grief!”

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  22. Emma

    HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. Wow.

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  23. Nina Funnell

    YIKES!

    I suspect that if we drill down we’ll find that many of the outraged Twihards are confusing their moral judgement over Kristen betraying Rob with their peronsal feelings over her betraying the FRANCHISE and- by extension- the fans. Perhaps it’s time for a reminder not to invest so heavily in a franchise which is based purely on making bank.

    (ps. Sorry if this has posted- twice my first post appeared to be deleted by accident).

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  24. a

    That video is 10 different kinds of scary. O_O

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  25. gypsy

    Oh dear but I found that video hilarious. Goodness knows what will happen if that poor girl ever has a partner cheat on her – how on earth will she cope if she’s reacting this way. Funny Friday afternoon giggle and yet sad that there is such an obsession to a celebrity couple

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  26. amyfizzer

    Does anyone else, when they read “Twihards”, automatically think “tryhards”.

    I feel this description is quite apt.

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    • Caitlin

      That’s actually where the term came from. It was around online ages before they adopted it (whether purposefully turning it into a positive for them or just mistaking it’s meaning) so I always have a giggle when I see them describe themselves as twihards.

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      • Ozlicious

        I thought “twihards” originated from “die-hards”? As far as I know, the term “try-hard” is Australian and has not taken hold in the rest of the world.

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  27. girly

    Wow, those twi-hards are freeeeaaaaaky! I hate cheating and I think it is the most heart breaking of betrayals. I couldn’t live with myself hurting someone I love like that, the thought of it makes me sick.

    I hope they can mend their relationship. They are people, humans, and even though I don’t rate Kristen as an actress, people need to be more compassionate. She was an unknown before Twilight and doesn’t seem to have the maturity to deal with being thrown into superstardom. I genuinely hope she can move forward positively and not go down a bad path….

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  28. Wow

    That. Video. Is. Hilarious. Can’t. Breathe.

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    • Nina

      Found that little gem yesterday. Still funny! Thanks for sharing Mamamia x

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      • Wow

        My entire office enjoyed that one!

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  29. S

    “And Robert Pattinson is just her boyfriend, as in they aren’t married.”
    I think this sentence is an insult to anybody in a committed relationship. There are many couples who are as in love with one another as a married couple would be, with all the same feelings and emotions, but for whatever reason have not legally bound themselves to one another. Maybe Kristen did not have those feelings for Robert, but considering they were in a three year relationship, it was bound to hurt him deeply. She admits that, herself, in her public apology. Please do not trivialise relationships between people who are not married (gays, lesbians, heterosexuals included). Just because they were not married does NOT make the act of cheating any less serious or any less painful.

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    • anon

      I dont think the wife and children of the man she cheated with would agree with you there. She’s just a young girl with a boyfriend but she cheated with a mature man who has a family. Big difference to me.

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      • Ems

        Totally agree Anon.

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      • Michelle

        S I agree with you and Anon, everyone can feel love, young or old, how dare you say oh ‘She’s just a young girl with a boyfriend.’ There are many people who are married and have children and are in loveless relationships. If you love each other what difference does it make if you’re married or not. I am getting married in a month, but I would never trivialise relationships between people who are not married and claim that people who are married have a more valued or ‘serious’ relationship.

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      • Anonymous

        It’s the husbands fault as much as Kristen Stewart. I HATE when people blame the women more than the man. They were both involved in “cheating”

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  30. phoodietweets

    THAT VIDEO is the SOLE REASON I would NEVER wish to be famous!

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  31. JACS

    I just hope the girl in that video gets some professional help but that was sad and just a little scary.

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  32. Anonymous

    I cheated on my boyfriend of 6 years. We were going to get martied and he was a beautiful boyfriend, my first love. I had a year long affair. When I came clean, i could only tell him that i slept with another guy for ‘one dumb drunken time’ and he forgave me. It was difficult but we moved on. I then eventually told him it was a long time affair and we broke up. Took me 2 years to move on with life, and every now and then it still hurts. Cheating is tempting but too much pain to go through. You judge yourself so much more than others.

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    • Sienna

      WHY on earth did you tell him? Some things are best kept a secret!

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  33. Keely

    I shudder at the thought of recalling all the dumb stuff I did….

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  34. petal

    I am 21, and I recently kissed a married man who is nearly as old as my dad and who has a son who is 2 years younger than me. I feel absolutely awful, particularly as I was cheated on in my last relationship and I know how much it hurts. The worst part is that I work in a bar, and this married guy regularly comes in – sometimes with his wife.

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  35. Kerri

    I cheated on the first 3 boyfriends I had. Never felt the need to apologize. We were kids, it’s not like our relationships meant anything.

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  36. sally K

    I cheated on numerous boyfriends when I was in my early 20s. And I was cheated on myself.
    Years later I realise it was stupid, but at the same time I know I was young and silly and I needed to do that do end up where I am now.

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  37. Ros

    I honestly thought “twihard” was a term to mock the uber fans, as in try hards. They give this name to themselves? My mind boggles.

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    • Tallulah Alice Mae (@Luvagoo)

      Yeah, but it’s meant to my ‘die hard’ not ‘try hard’.

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    • clarinette

      Lol ros I thought the same thing; I am now sooo confused, why would you give yourself such an easily ridiculed name?

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  38. anon

    Lets lay the blame with the much, much older male director who has a wife and children, who shoud have know better, and be done with it.
    Kristen made a mistake and is paying for it now.

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  39. jb expat

    I like to think she did break a “social contract” – that between women…where if you know a man is married, you back-off…Ok, I get that it’s not her marriage, not her children, that she is 22. BUT I have seen the impact of cheating close up (someone very near and dear was cheated on)…let’s just say if you believe in Karma, you should not aid and abet a cheater. I have to assume that for the wife and children there is a lot of pain – KS played a role – I like to think that as a society we “agree” to avoid “optional” actions that inflict pain on others – double so where it’s a woman harming another woman (and her children).

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    • Rose

      She played a role, but he was the married one. Is he not more to blame as he is the one who made vows with his wife?

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      • jb expat

        More? Less? that wasn’t really my point – I was addressing the part of the quoted Jezebel article where it stated that she didn’t break a social contract. The director was indeed older, her “boss” [I think - I have no idea really how Hollywood works], and married – but she is an adult and she knew he was married. That’s just plain wrong in my book…and she has to take responsibility for the pain and suffering of the wife and children…the fact that she can share such pain and suffering with the director…doesn’t make her role a supporting one…she still had a lead role (albeit a co-starring one) in the affair/cheating situation.

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  40. Anonymous

    “She cheated. It was probably just a stupid mistake, but i think issuing a public apology confirming it all, was a bad idea.”

    She had to because of the pictures. If it had just been a much talked about rumour I doubt she’s have ever commented. But because of the nature of the pictures she had to address it. Had she simply done a “please respect my privacy” statement speculation would have continued over the nature and health of her relationsip with Pattinson. With her statement she accepts full blame, which stops the usual speculating about whether Pattinson cheated on her first or if their relationship was already over.

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    • Cait

      No I really think it was a dumb idea. If she did a ‘please respect my privacy’ it would have been a typical hollywood story over and done with in a week. I doubt the speculation would have continued much further.

      Her PR should (and could) have teamed up with the Directors PR, and Robs PR, and simply released a statement saying ‘Kirsten and Director were discussing/acting out a role etc, nothing untoward, everyone is happy, must be a slow news day at US Weekly’ and left it at that. I have seen the pictures, and believe that its plausible to play that line, or deny deny deny and the media would get bored.

      The public should not be deep in discussion about someone elses dirty laundry, and they should have been able to deal with this pain privately, rather than issuing statements to try to mitigate PR damage.

      Then all the couples could have dealt with it in private like normal people. If they stayed together, the public (and Twihards) would be none the wiser to this issue, and if they broke up, it can be over X, Y or Z and no ones character is called to question.

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  41. kee

    that video was both hilarious and terrifying at the same time

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  42. jamilarizvi

    She cheated. It wasn’t smart and it wasn’t nice. But hell, she kissed a dude – I’m not sure why the world is treating her like a pariah. Other than the possible vampire-retribution from Edward AKA Robert, I’m honestly not sure what all the fuss is about. She made a mistake.

    And since the rest of you seem too chicken, I shall kick us off… Dumb things I did when I was young, the list is long y’all so this is just a little taste test:

    - Drank so much Midori that my vomit was highlighter green
    - Wore jeans with zips up the side (oh the shame)
    - Lied about a death in the family to get an extension on a uni assignment
    - Cheated on my boyfriend and didn’t apologise as nicely as Kristen.

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    • Jess

      - Stayed with a violent boyfriend for three years
      - Cheated on that boyfriend and finally got away
      - Drank so much at 16 I got my stomach pumped
      - Wore glitter jeans teamed with a top that said ‘Sexy Kitten’ in pink glittery writing…and have to live with the fact there are photos of that!

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      • Tess

        We want sexy kitten photos!

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    • Mia

      Plagiarised uni assignments.
      Drank until I vomitted. Many times.
      Accepted lifts home from people who may not have been sober.
      Oh this is not even scratching the surface….

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      • wdidn

        I made a comment a little earlier about these lists, and not making light of actions with serious implications i.e. – cheating with a married man and father.
        It just doesn’t compare to drinking until your vomit is green or wearing ugly fashion choices. Why was it either not published or taken down? I didn’t breach any rules. Did my comment get taken down as it disagreed with the fun you’re all having making “dumb things I did under 25” list? I did dumb things too – but I didn’t sleep with a married guy, youth doesn’t excuse that one!

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    • Alibee

      I feel like it’s time for another confessions post!

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    • Sue

      Hang on a second, didn’t she admit to having an affair with her boss who happens to be married with children? And you are comparing this to wearing embarrassing jeans with zips and having once drank too much Midori. That’s a bit of a stretch, Jamila you must be the most tolerant and symphatetic person in this world.

      And I would hardly call having your publicist write a cerefully constructed apology in order to save your movie career, a nice apology. She has always been so miserable when she’s had to deal with the public, I highly doubt she would have ever “apologised so nicely” if someone didn’t strongly stir her in this direction.

      I will openly admit to judging anyone who sleeps with a married man, I knew better when I was 16 so age is no excuse. I am not married and have never been cheated on (that I know of) so no personal bias here but some things are just wrong.

      Having said all that, Twihards are absolutely nuts and I don’t for one second condone anything they say.

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      • amelia

        Let’s just remember that HE is the one who was married, not her. HE is the one who holds the greater weight of responsibility in this situation. Kristen doesn’t owe anything to this man’s wife.
        Sorry, but I’m kinda over the whole woman-blaming culture we have going on in our society.

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        • S

          If you met a man that you were attracted to, would you act on your feelings if you found out that he was married? And then convince yourself that you were not in the wrong because you owe no obligation to his wife? If you answer yes, that is disgraceful.

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        • Sue

          So what if he is married and who is blaming the woman? Obviously they are both to blame here but regardless of your gender and marital situation you are responsible for your actions, you can’t just blame it on the married man.

          And if you are the type of person to have an affair with a married man and refuse to take any responsibility because “you don’t owe his wife and kids anything” then I really wouldn’t want to know you.

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          • amelia

            I guess it is lucky we don’t know each other then!

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            • Sue

              Luck has nothing to do with it……but seriously, are you just trolling now?

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    • Lucy Ormonde

      I see your midori green vomit + jeans with zips and raise you vomiting in the gutter outside my grandpa’s house wearing a lyca halter neck top.

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      • katehunter

        I vomited in the gutter outside romance novellist Danielle Steele’s house in San Francisco. I had been at a party there. I was 20. True story.

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        • Natalia

          I once walked out of a club, vomited in the gutter and then walked straight back in again. I think the security guards were too shocked to do anything.

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        • jamilarizvi

          Bad ass Kate!

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    • zepgirl

      I threw up from into the Thames from the London Tower Bridge and when a kindly old lady asked me if I was okay, I lied about my hangover and blamed it on morning sickness.

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    • Anon just this Once

      *Kissed a guy I really liked even though he had a longtime girlfriend – a girl who I had hung out with several times and I knew to be a lovely person

      *had a relationship (non-sexual) with a man 10 years my senior – when I was 16!
      Then lied about it to my parents (they still don’t know!!)

      *told many big fat lies over the course of my teen years and early 20s

      *took coke, e, speed and drank lots of alcohol all in one night (more than one occasion!)

      *kissed a guy who really, really liked me, then told him I was moving overseas to get away from him!

      What this young actress did was wrong, sure. But she is not the first person to cheat, she is not the first person to kiss someone else’s boyfriend or husband – nor will she be the last. She still hurt her own boyfriend whIch is not nice, but THAT is what she should be scolded for – its the bloke she kissed who should be scolded for being a ‘homewrecker’. He was the one with a wife and children.

      We all forgave Brad and Ange when they began their relationship before brad’s marriage with Jennifer was over. Brad didn’t have kids, no, but he was still married. And Ange knew all too well. I think starting a proper relationship is also far worse than a fleeting make put session.

      Cheating is awful, but it’s not black and white – I know a woman (in her late 40s) who has been with her partner for 15 years. He is married. He still lives with his wife. I’m certain his wife knows, I can’t see how she couldn’t. The woman I know has been judged and Judged. But she’s also In social work and works tirelessly helping teenage girls who have become mothers. Through her work she has saved countless girls from ending up on the street, or from letting their babies die because they were drugged up to the eyeballs and forgot to care for them, or because they didn’t know how. She has defended girls who are no more than children themselves from those who would cast them aside as sluts and drug addicts. She is a good, kind person who does a very upsetting, difficult job for a very measly wage.

      I can think of things far far worse than kissing a married man that a young woman could do.

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  43. Anonymous

    I’m finding it annoying how many people are getting on their high horse about cheating. If you would never cheat, good for you, but there are plenty of other shitty things people can do to the people they love and most people have caused someone pain by being an asshole at least once in their lives.

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    • wdidn

      When you’re under 25 (generally speaking) and swap a bit of spit in a dark corner with a partner who is not your own at a party – it hurts like hell, but is not uncommon. At least half the population do dumb stuff like that in youthful relationships trying to figure it all out.

      What you are forgetting to consider (and I hope you will should you ever meet a man whom you fancy, but is married or in a relationship) is that there the ‘victim’ isn’t just 20-something Robert Pattinson. There is the 41 year old director’s 33 year old wife, Liberty, and his two very young children. They are *parents* together – meaning they share more than a bed and a puppy. They probably have investments, debt, businesses and property that are tied up together. More importantly (and the worst part) is that they’re a family who could very well be splitting apart as a result of his actions, as well as Kristen’s – and that IS a massive deal.

      If, when you were under ten, your dad had had an affair with his 22 year old co-worker, and it turned your world upside down, uprooted your life, family and home and things would never be the same, perhaps you’d be getting why it is a huge issue. That is why people are on their high horse about it. It’s life changing stuff.

      if you are under 25: then in about 8-12 years, with a little more life experience, having perhaps carried and birthed a few children, and with much more to lose in your personal life, perhaps you’ll understand what’s at stake then. Life experience (thus age) whether you like it or not, *does* make a huge difference in understanding why her actions are appalling. It’s not that he cheated on Robert – it’s way beyond that. It home wrecking. Being 22 does not excuse it.

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      • Anonymous

        Right. Lets see. I’m well over 25. I’ve been with my partner 12 years. We’ve gotten through him cheating and me cheating. My parents actually did break up after my mother cheated, though really that was just the straw that broke the camel’s back.

        I do think cheating is wrong. But people leave families or break-up for other reasons too. People stay in relationships and are completely faithful but treat their partner terribly. People string people they know love them along to boost their own ego. People cruelly lash out at their partners, their family and their friends because they’re unhappy.

        What bothers me is the hypocrisy. Today I’ve had to listen to two people I know have treated past partners like absolute shit rant on about how they would never cheat. That’s great, but it doesn’t mean they aren’t capable of deeply hurting people in other ways. If you can honestly say you’ve never made a mistake that’s hurt someone you love, whether it was cheating, or lying or saying something terribly cruel, you’re doing a whole lot better than most people.

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        • Sue

          I don’t agree with you anon. I think most people are decent human beings that don’t go ruining the lives of those they love. Of course most of us have told a white lie or similar to a partner but you can’t compare this to cheating, physical and emotional abuse etc.

          So you cheated on your partner and he cheated on you and you got over it, good for you, but please don’t assume that this is acceptable behaviour for everyone. Some of us have different values and I don’t understand why this upsets you.

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      • Anonymous

        Even if it’s homewrecking, the guy was the one with the kids and wife was also part of this. I Don’t think it’s necessarily more one’s fault than another, but to just blame the woman in the situation is ignorant, if you are worried about the family of the man, then why not condemn the man for his actions? I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t have just passively let her kiss him and not reacted on his own desires. Calling her a homewrecker is stupid, why not call him a homewrecker or at least both of them, that would make far more sense. And just as you said being 7-12 years older than Kristen at 22, shouldn’t the man have been aware of his ‘huge difference in life experience’ and the fact that he ‘has so much more at stake’? I would place the blame equally with him if not more so than on Kristen alone. Both were aware of what they did, and to be honest this stuff happens all the time it’s not that shocking.

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        • wdidn

          I *do* blame him equally, but this article is all about Kristen. Lots of people are playing down her part in it, and lots are using ther age to excuse it or to imply ignorance of youth, or that it isn’t a big deal. I was responsding to those comments. He’s just as much a douche, if not more.

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        • FHB

          I don’t think this is “blaming the women” though, I think it’s that she is famous and the guy is very much not. She’s in a high profile relationship and that’s the story.

          I think most people are blaming both their roles pretty equally, they’re both cheaters.

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  44. Lani93

    Can we please stop making it about her age? As a young person I find it insulting. I keep hearing people say “Oh, but she’s young.” people everyday of all ages make mistakes and cheat. If I was in her position and made that mistake I would be mortified if my family and friends told me “Well it’s not ok, but youre young.”
    Of course, their behavior is appalling but I don’t believe her age has anything to do with it.

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    • Lisa Jensen

      It’s not intended to be insulting, but her age is certainly something to take into consideration with all this – yes people of all ages do dumb things, but I know for sure in my late teens and early twenties I was still trying to figure out who I really was, who I wanted to be and what I wanted out of life. I wasn’t sure about anything and I sure as hell made some big mistakes and bad decisions that I cringe to think of now, all because I hadn’t had the life experiences to really teach me the tough lessons. Of course there are some incredibly mature and insightful people in this age group who have direction and focus and have that stuff pretty much figured out, but I was one of the majority who didn’t. It’s not meant to be an excuse for her or an out, or an insult to any young person – but the mantra “live and learn” is so true. Look back over the last 10 years of your life and see how much you have learnt, changed and developed as a person from your experiences of the world – the same will be true over the next 10.

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      • Anonymous

        Also, just because you do something wrong doesn’t mean you think it’s right. I’ve done plenty of silly, stupid and plain bad things knowing it wasn’t the right thing to do.

        No one’s saying “Oh, she’s only 22 so therefore how could she know cheating isn’t a good thing to do”. Just pointing out that young people often make a bad choice here or there as they figure themselves out.

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  45. FHB

    I agree, what she did was wrong but in a world where 30% of people admit to cheating (that’s just those who admit), I think those getting huffy and puffy over it are possibly hypocrites, well, at least 30% are.

    People cheat, therefor celebrity men and women cheat, but there’s never any need for abuse, which is a form of violence.

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    • S

      Actually, FHB, abuse is not exclusively violent. Have you ever heard of the term “emotional abuse”?

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      • FHB

        I agree and I’d say there’s a lot of that here today.

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  46. Anonymous

    That video sure has some mixed messages. “Everybody leave them the fuck alone, their private lives aren’t your business”…”How could you do this Kristen, you’re so stupid, you don’t really love him blah blah blah”.

    I really feel sorry for Kristen. Everyone’s made a stupid mistake in their life. For all those people who say “I’d never cheat”, good for you, but there are plenty of other equally shitty things people can do to each other. You may have never cheated, but no doubt you’ve caused someone pain by being an stupid asshole at least once in your life.

    What I’ve taken from this is just how desensetized we have become to the actions of paparazzi. Essentially some guy stalked a girl all over LA, then hid and took pictures of a couple being intimate. If someone did this to a regular couple they’d be a branded a pervert, but because Kristen’s an actor it’s ok?

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    • Em

      Yeah, I find paparazzis very disturbing. I know they are “doing their job” but as a comment on society it’s pretty creepy – not only that these pics are taken but that we all get in on it and have our say (I know I’m definitely guilty of this!). I feel sorry for everyone involved – totally shitty thing to do, but its got to be hard having it splashed all over the place. The price of fame, I suppose!

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