We’ve all been there.
You open the cupboard to find a scene that resembles the aftermath of the boxing day sales, instead of the place where you’re supposed to store your stuff.
There are clothes shoved into every crevasse. Plates are piled on top of the frying pan, which leans on a water jug, which rests dangerously upon the lettuce spinner.
Think Jenga. Take one piece out and everything’s coming down.
New figures suggest that up to one million Australians also avoid spring cleaning (and summer and winter cleaning.) They hold onto things. They don’t use them. But they also don’t throw them away. They’re hoarders.
According to researchers from the University of NSW, hoarders often “started in their teens but others began hoarding after traumatic experiences, such as divorce, later in life.”
Fairfax media reports:
University of NSW psychologist and hoarding expert Jessica Grisham said it was originally estimated that about one per cent of the Australian population faced hoarding-related issues.
But current estimates put the figure as high as five per cent, Dr Grisham said.
She said hoarding was now deemed a separate mental disorder, not a sub-classification of obsessive compulsive disorder.
One famous hoarder: is singer, Courtney Love.Courtney Love’s hoarding habits killed the cat. Or so her daughter says.
Frances Bean, said in a statement to the courts (when she was filing from a restraining order from her mother in 2009) that the family’s beloved cat died after it became entangled in piles of fabrics, paperwork and mounds of trash.
In the US, they’ve almost made a competitive sport out of hoarding. Entire TV shows are dedicated to people’s compulsive hoarding habits. Take a look:
But the reality is that hoarding is far from a joke. It’s a serious condition that impacts people’s lives in a big way.
And anyone can be a hoarder according to Dr Morgan, who says the “condition” doesn’t discriminate on the basis of age either, according to this article from the ABC.
Dr Chris Mogan, who treats compulsive hoarders in Australia, describes the problem as a “severe over-attachment to things”.
“Their relationships with people are affected … [it] is very difficult for the non-hoarder to understand, but the possessions become part of them,” he told ABC News Breakfast.
The CCS report found most hoarders are living in public housing but Dr Mogan says the condition affects people regardless of socio-economic status.
“It becomes more noticeable in [lower socio-economic groups] because people may not be able to manage the amount of things they gather,” he said.
“But hoarding is in every leafy green suburb of Sydney and Melbourne and across all occupations … this is the frightening thing about it.”
He says the condition does not discriminate on the basis of age, either.
And here we were thinking that we were just being sentimental.
Do you think of yourself as a hoarder? Where’s your line on what to keep and what to throw out? What have you kept and what have you saved?







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Hello my name isjennifer.
My mother in law she is a hoarder she wont let anything thing go the house and the rooms, lounge room and all the 3 shed even out garage and there is a gazibo is full of just junk we do not need and it getting harder to walk through anywhere in the house. i currently do not have a photo at the moment but if you be gladly to help me i be more thn willing to do whatever take to have a whole house again to see… she probs hate me for it but it what need to be done so we can all move on. my fiancee is getting over living there as his mother never does anything but complain and play the computer and sleep all day. PLEASEEEEE IM BEGGING YOU ALL HELP US HAVE A HOME AGAIN.
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Hi, I am a volunter at GIVIT. We organise for goods to be given to charities. If you are having a clean out please remember http://www.givit.org.au It can all be done so easily. It makes you feel really good too.
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leiah2006, that was a tough upbringing and I can well understand that it’s left you unsure of the ‘right’ things to keep or not to keep. You’re right that the key is to find the right balance for you (and those you live with) and that getting rid of too much can cause problems as well as holding onto too much. I help people all over the world declutter and create homes they love (I provide a free masterclass at http://www.mygreenandtidylife.co.uk) and this doesn’t just mean helping people to let things go. Sometimes I gently question people’s decisions to get rid of things. People who are challenged by clutter can get so desperate to be free of all that STUFF that they reach a state of ‘Oh, just chuck it all out’. I don’t make decisions FOR my clients but I do check in with them sometimes as to whether they’re sure about their decisions. If someone ‘declutters’ something that they later regret, it makes decluttering even harder for them in the future. They end up afraid that they’ll make ‘wrong decisions’ again.
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A tip for those who want to spring clean/declutter but aren’t sure how to start: boxing things up and putting them in storage for a set period of time can give you the benefits of a tidy space without the emotional angst of throwing them away.
Once you’ve left something for 3-6 months and not once needed it, you can get rid of it. Don’t open it again – you’ve already proven that you don’t need it and have broken the attachment that made you hang onto it. Opening it will bring up those feelings again.
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A lot of people have an over-attachment to things. It’s not surprising, given our consumer culture.
I am not a hoarder to the extent of being featured on that show (makes me want to cry and clean just watching it), but this is something I have been working on lately as part of my foray into minimalism.
We cannot live healthy lives when our houses are cluttered and full of emotional baggage. Letting things go can be hard but it is ultimately cathartic and freeing. I would absolutely recommend everyone go home and remove things from their house that no longer serve them – I’m not done yet but just beginning has done wonders for me.
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One of my friends has an immediate family member who is a chronic hoarder and it’s heartbreaking to hear about. Opening the door to the house is often an issue, there is food in all kinds of unexpected places, the fridge is constantly filled with unidentifiable objects that were once edible, bad smells permeate everything and it is hard to step anywhere without touching something that makes you want to shudder.
I know there are varying degrees for any mental disorder, but at it’s worst hoarding is devastating.
I’m quite a sentimental person, and a love for costumes (that I can justify keeping in case I need it “for an acting gig”) means my cupboard is often full. But these days I take photos for sentiment and throw out/donate whatever I can. I guess I’m kind of scared of extreme hoarding and the impact it has.
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My hubby is a hoarder of cars and car parts!
Thank goodness his family owns a large farm and most of them are there though we do have 6 vehicles in various states of disrepair/rust around our large yard.
His parents recently had a massive clean-up on the farm and got rid of approx. 5 semi trailer loads of scrap metal!!!!
It is an issue which runs in his family – his parents and all his siblings are exactly the same!
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My mother was the opposite of a hoarder in the most terrible way you can imagine.
No I mean really she was, unlike the commenters who proclaim that and then say “I just can’t stand clutter”. Being the true opposite of a hoarder means you cannot hang onto anything that reminds you of your past, even from the good parts of the past.
My mother’s PTSD meant that we moved house several times during my childhood, to start afresh. It has greatly affected me in many ways, my identity as a person my entire life.
I have no keepsakes, no photos, no baby clothes, no books, no toys, no school records/certificates, no drawings, no poems, no pressed flowers, no pottery, no records from my childhood. I didn’t even have a birth certificate until I applied for a copy as an adult.
I would come home from school and all my things had been thrown away. Things that I was using – even my diary as a little girl. She had to rid herself of things. But this was only one of her disturbing habits and only one of the things that consumed my childhood, not the worst.
I have had to struggle to find a balance – I have anxiety that things will be taken away, but I also feel like I’m doing the wrong thing if I have too many possessions. I keep things for too long, I get attached to them, and don’t deal well with change, although strangely I feel unsettled most of the time.
Very interesting topic!
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I am just abou to complete my studies and can’t wait to throw out my 6 years of crap…I have kept it all along the way as often you can refer to things from one unit to another…but now I am really looking forward to the cathartic experience of chucking it….I only wish we were allowed to have a burn off!!!!
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Even though I finished high school last year, and will NEVER again need to know about Pythagoras’ Theorem, or the Petrov Affair, or the theme of mortality in Shakespeare’s Hamlet, I still have every single one of my schoolbooks. And textbooks. And folders of summary notes.
… I just found an expander folder to put my uni stuff for the year in. Massive academic hoarder right here.
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I’ve kept all my things from year 12, now I’m in my first year of university and it looks like I’ll be keeping my assignments and books. My reasoning is that I can always use the books for referencing in the future. I know a person who has every school book and project since prep (they’re now at university) I find that a bit extreme.
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So what is the measurement to classify yourself as a hoarder? I’m not one (although I do have a lot of unopened boxes in the garage gathering cobwebs)….
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I meet and assist all sorts of people trying to deal with clutter (I’m a professional organiser). Sometimes it’s time pressures or major life events, perhaps grief and loss, illness or all kinds of things that get in the way of being organised. These people aren’t hoarders…just life seems to have got in the way of being as organised as they would like. And on a busy week…my home can look chaotic too for a while
I also work with people who hoard and hoarding is a little different…there are really 3 main things to look out for…
- acquiring and accumulating stuff and then have great difficulty letting go of it (often other people might think these things are worthless or have little value)
- the clutter affects the living space so that you can’t use it for what it was intended for e.g. not being able to cook in the kitchen because of the clutter
- the problem causes significant distress and affects daily living
Hoarding is one of those problems that has been hidden away (literally behind closed doors) and we’re only recently discovering how we can help. And I think it’s great to see hoarding being talked about and on TV so we can understand it better.
Angela
http://www.organiseforlife.com.au
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my mother is a hoarder. Her worst room, you can literally only open the door – the entire room is filled to shoulder height (at the lowest point) to roof height with CRAP – books, op shop stuff etc. I used to think it was funny, then annoying and now I find it extremely sad and distressing. She clings to stuff as if it is her security, keeps on buying more and more. Very defensive about it when raised. Very stingy with money, obsessive and greedy about food. It’s obviously a mental health issue and I just find it so upsetting.
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Is it hoarding if it’s books? That picture looked like my house when I run out of bookshelves … (sigh)
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is it hoarding if it is neat and tidy?
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I am the opposite of a hoarder as well. I cannot stand clutter.
We have several charity shops close by, so I have a clean out every 3 months and donate to them.
If I want to keep something, its goes into a labelled plastic storage container in the shed. I have kept keepsakes from the kids school years, good quality toys for future grandkids and sentimental stuff of my husbands but everything else that is not used goes either to St Vinnies or if its broken in the council cleanup.
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My husband is a hoarder – he won’t throw out clothes, tools, gardening equipment, old technology long out of date, books, old bikes, broken bits of furniture. Fortunately he married me, and he goes away alot for work….I’m a chucker, everytime he goes away, I get a skip (he has never, not once, been able to tell me what it is that I threw away while he was gone). This seems to work for us.
FYI – my getting the skip is NOT a secret, he knows what I am going to do, I just don’t detail exactly what it is that I threw away, it seems to stop it from being traumatic.
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Good move. My husband while not a hoarder is probably closer to it than I’m happy with. Our garage gives me the shits just walking into it and it needs a damn good sweep too. I may get some prices for skips as well. He doesn’t go away, just works a lot on weekends.
My mother was last of the great chucker outers and while I’m definitely not like her, I do have regular spring cleans. I do like keep sakes but can see how you could become over attached to “stuff”.
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Reminds me of South Park:
“I’m a sheep herder.”
“It’s pronounced hoarder and yes you are.”
But seriously, am I a hoarder? … Noooo, of course I’m not….
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There is a bit of hoarding behaviour in both my parent’s sides of the family. My nan still has tenancies to keep old foil, underwear, singlets and plastic bags because of the depression and my grandpa kept a LOT of car related things in the garage but my aunt and uncle (mother’s side) are the worst.
Going to their house is like being in an episode of ‘Hoarders’. They both work for an op shop and the boss gives them things the shop doesn’t want to sell. The garage is literally full, it is hard to open it without items falling down onto you and inside the house is almost unbearable for me. They care for my cousin’s child and his room is full of old toys and clothes and random crap that have been piling up for years, you physically cannot close the door. There’s something like 50 mugs in the kitchen, among many (broken) appliances.
Luckily I’m not like this at all.
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I work casually doing de-hoarding work. The people encompass every age group, socio-economic status and type of dwelling. From years worth of yellow pages, bottles of urine, months worth of rotten food to things that someone has been meaning to put on ebay for a really long time…
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My grandmother was an obsessive hoarder – her home appeared lovely but every possible storage space was PACKED with crap. Hangover from WWII I think but I just couldn’t stand it.
My mother has hoarding tendencies which I am perpetually trying to keep in check (and failing). Unfortunately she has a large house and while it appears pristine, there is masses of crap hoarded away. Infuriating. As an example, she has NINE sleeping bags. Why the fuck does a 60-something woman who never camps and lives in a house with 4 spare bedrooms for guests need 9 sleeping bags?!?!
Like most other posters I am a complete anti-hoarder. I hate excess crap and can’t function with it around. I love clear surfaces. I do a serious cull about every 3 months and am perpetually throwing out my partner’s crap (he never notices!). I am on first name terms will all the ladies at Vinnies! Living out of a suitcase for several years has made me unattached to stuff I guess …
Some friends are massive hoarders and always ask me how to go through it all – I always tell them to be brutal:
* scan in any documents that might be needed and bin the rest
* throw out any clothes that don’t fit, need repairs or just don’t suit you
* throw out anything needing repairs – you won’t get around to it
* throw out all kitchen stuff you don’t use
* throw out presents that you hate/don’t like/have no use for
* throw out all excess clutter you don’t like or have no use for – books, ornaments, ugly furniture – again, brutality!
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my grandparents kept all of the things. I think it was definitely a WWII/ Great Depression thing.
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That’s just it, though… I *can’t* be brutal… I love my old stuff. Even though I agree I could probably live without *some* of it. By the way, I have seven eskies!
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Sarah,
Your advise is true but unfortunately hoarding like obesity is often a major psychological probalem and as such rationality doesn’t work. You need to work on the underlying insecurities that have created the problem. You may have some success with mild cases of hoarding in giving tools to assist but for the really bad cases this won’t work.
At the end of the day it also comes down to a question of respect. If your mother wants to have 9 sleeping bags (that have storage space) then that’s her business. If the house wasn’t tidy and having adverse affects then you perhaps you may have a reason to say something, but you should endeavour to anser the question you asked “Why does she hoard those things?” …That is what needs to be worked on.
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The best thing I ever did was marry a non hoarder…I can’t bring myself to throw stuff away..but I either leave stuff hanging around knowing he will throw them out or I hide stuff where he will find it and then he just gets rid of it. I don’t even realise what’s gone or missing most of the time.
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Complete opposite of hoarder here. I love nothing better than to have a good tidy up of a cupboard, re-organise is, throw out broken stuff and donate useable stuff. I make my kids do it at least 3 times a year. just cleaned out my office the other day as all the “stuff” was driving me nuts, crafty things from the kids, papers, magazines etc. I feel like I can concentrate in there now as every thing is on order and minimised. I even have my house decorating in a very minimal style, not many pictures up, no dust collecting nic nacs, when my house gets too full of “stuff” I feel like I am suffocating and just have to get rid of it all.
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OK I will be the first to ‘fess up that I have…. hoarding ‘tendencies’. I am a huge fan of the TV show Hoarders as it makes me feel so much better about myself. But having said that, I have to admit that I do tend to hoard stuff. You’d never know it, to see my house, unless you went poking around and found where I keep the stuff, and the type of stuff I keep: old documents – drivers licences, old power bills and letters and school references and reports; meaningless old sketches from years ago; legal and tax stuff that no longer needs to be kept; old magazines dating from the 1970s (just a few, to look back on with amusement); old ads; tearouts from decorating magazines that are now looking quite dated; all my old records (no longer have a record player); a stick that my long-dead dog once chewed on, and her collar from when she was a tiny pup; many other things. I keep them because they remind me of the time when they were relevant, and to compare ‘how things were’ with ‘how things are now’. I don’t think I have any major traumas that make me do this, I just enjoy looking back every now and then on stuff that shows ‘we did this, we went here, we achieved this, we dealt with that…’ Although, my own analysis of it is that I came from quite a deprived childhood: Get something nice? Save it and use it very sparingly, as you won’t be getting another – eg. perfume, colour pencils, nice paper. Call me crazy? Maybe just a little.
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I am not a hoarder but much prefer to give things away to people who really need them / will appreciate them. I prefer to do this than send things out into the universe randomly and hope someone who needs it walks into Vinnies and finds it one day. I was thrilled to find out about ” Backpacks for Aussie kids” because they need specific items like nappies and kids pjs. Also was able to give some furniture to the Gold Foundation here in Adelaide when they were setting up their headquarters for the work they do with children with Asperger’s. Is anyone else like me? Does anyone else know of worthwhile charities / groups who need quite specific things???
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Usually Churches have a very hands on approch to helping people/families in need and the things you donate would go straight to them with out being sold through a lifeline or vinnies shop.
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Look up givit.org, you get sent a newsletter each week with specific items needed. You can also ‘store’ items in a virtual warehouse. I put up that I had some old ball dresses, a few months later a charity in Far North WA asked me for them to use for NAIDOC balls.
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That site is great. Just a note, you need to go to http://www.givit.org.au
If you don’t add the .au it directs you to a game of chess. I have signed up to the mailing list. I’m hoping I will see some stuff and think “Oh yeah, I have that and I don’t need it.” and be able to give it away.
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I have watched the series Hoarders on one of the free to air channels, and it seems like a common theme (although I am not sure in every case) is about filling an emotional need. It’s obviously an addiction like drugs, alcohol or food, and a hard one to break. It’s very sad to see these people not being able to break the habit.
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My mother in law is a hoarder. She keeps everything, EVERYTHING in case she might use it again one day. Her beautiful house with a beautiful view is full to the brim with crap! She has kept every single one of her three kids’ toys and clothes (from over 30 years ago, they are all very well used). It’s strange because she is a very compassionate person and I would have thought she might have donated it all to charity, but she has hung onto it all this time just in case she should ever have grandkids. There is not even room on her kitchen benches to butter a loaf of bread. But she has a fit if anything is thrown out that she might be able to use one day… Very difficult.
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what is the opposite of a hoarder?
I chuck EVERYTHING. If my husband glances away from the newspaper, its in the bin. nothing goes into the wardrobe without something going out, i chuck out the kids clothes about once a month (to vinnies).
Sentimental – i wish I could be more sentimental. I WANT the lock of hair from my kids first hair cuts and some of their paintings but I always end up not knowing where to store it and so just ditchng it lol.
Its okay. My sister is a hoarder and I’m sure she has heaps of their memories for them to go and look through when they are olde. r
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I’m the same and my mother was the same. We have photographs, and i have the odd thing from when i was younger, but would want no more! I see friends who’s parent’s have saved EVERYHING and they have no idea what to do with it! You save it for 30 years, then the next generation just chucks it anyway!
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I am also the opposite of a hoarder. I hate it when “stuff” starts to accumulate especially random bits and pieces sitting around on benches. I eventually have a huge throw out and enjoy it immensely. I normally recycle stuff, give it away, donate to charity, put some stuff on the verge with a FREE sign. People find it really hard to get me birthday presents because I don’t want anything. I’m just not attached to objects. My thing is stray animals. Always bringing them home, if only for a brief period.
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having subscribed to vogue since i was 15, i have hoardered almost every single copy. It was taking up an absurd amount of space so the other week i finally did something about it. Ripped off the covers! threw out the mags and now just have one tidy pile of beautiful covers. happy compromise
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OMG, nooooooooooo.!
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Most definitely not a hoarder. I love clearing out cupboards and giving away/throwing out things we no longer need. It has rarely led to problems, although the 8 year old can get upset when she realises I have binned one of her creations.
The best part is that you spend less time tidying if you have less stuff to organise. It is very rare to find I have got rid of something we need. How many of us store something for ages only to find it is broken/perished when you finally want to use it?
I have one large box of memorabilia (wedding invitations, letters, children’s drawings and reports etc) and I have kept my wedding dress and babies’ christening robe. Everything else can go!
For those who have trouble clearing out, read Fly lady. Very American but has some great advice.
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I do keep sentimental things like a selection of paintings of the children from kinder etc, but overall I’m a chucker! If you stand still in my house long enough into the Vinnies bag you go!
If things don’t fit or we don’t use them I give them to charity because if I haven’t worn a pair of shoes for an entire season I didn’t really need them anyway and there are plenty of people that do.
On another note did you see the enormous rat in the clip – that is very gross (in my opinion). I rather not share my home with ratus ratus I must say.
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That is one HUGE rat!
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Was that a rat?? I assumed it was some sort of larger mammal that happened to look like a rat. AARRRRGHH!!!
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It’s a possum
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I think that hoarding is the result of our lives getting too busy. I have so much stuff that sometimes it feels like it is suffocating me and then my kids create more and more mess and bring home more and more stuff from kinder and school. I can’t keep up with it nor have the time to deal with it. Sometimes I feel like it is cluttering my brain, making me feel ill just looking at it. Feng Shui consultants must be making a killing!
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