1 in 3 men would trade a year of their life if it meant they could achieve their ideal body weight and shape. This is just one of the worrying outcomes of research just completed by the Centre for Appearance Research in the UK
Body image has traditionally been seen as a “female issue”. But, the fact is that men are now feeling the pressure. Beefcake male models on billboards, photoshopped images of six-pack abs and killer thighs, commando-style guns, glistening white teeth, full heads of hair. And not to mention a whole lot of fat-talk from males in all walks of life. And you thought women were the only ones who did that?
Dr Phillippa Diedrichs , research health psychologist specialising in body image and eating disorder prevention writes.
In October 2011, my colleagues and I at the Centre for Appearance Research were commissioned by The Succeed Foundation and Central YMCA to ask 394 British men aged 18-70 about their body image in an anonymous online survey. Some of the results were surprising…
1) 1 in 3 men said they would trade one year of their life if it meant they could achieve their ideal body weight and shape.
2) The top 4 aspects of appearance that men said they were most concerned about included their stomachs, waistlines, amount of head hair, and wrinkles.
3) 78% of men said that they wish they were more muscular.
4) 1 in 6 fear everyday that they might gain weight.
We also asked men about “body talk”. Body talk, sometimes referred to as “fat talk” among women, is any type of conversation that reinforces narrowly defined standards for attractiveness and beauty – currently for men this tends to be a tall, lean, muscular, toned body with clear skin and a full head of hair.
Examples of body talk include “Do I look fat in this?”, “He would look better if he bulked up a bit.”, “Nobody wants to date the bald guy”, “she shouldn’t be wearing those jeans.” Body talk can appear to be either critical (e.g., “He’s too fat to wear that”) or seemingly complimentary (e.g., “You look great, have you lost weight?”).
Previous research with women suggests that body talk and fat talk has a detrimental effect on body image and self-esteem. For example, one study conducted by psychologists in the US found that women only need to hear 3-5 minutes of fat talk before their body esteem starts to decrease.
But what about men, they don’t talk about their appearance right? Wrong.
5) More than 80% of men said that they personally engage in body talk and often hear it from their male friends and family members, at the gym and in the media.
The terms “beer belly”, “six pack” and “moobs” (man boobs) were the top three terms that men had used to describe another man’s appearance. Hearing another man refer to his appearance negatively, eating something unhealthy and feeling unhappy with the way they look were the most common reasons for men to engage in body talk.
6) 1 in 2 men said that body talk affects their body image and self-esteem negatively.
One man said: “I think body talk has become so common today that most people are affected by it. We are now living in a society obsessed with image and aesthetic appeal … males want to be big and lean, and while it certainly isn’t a bad thing for people to want to look better .. it has become more like a competition, which has a bad effect on most people’s mental health. I myself have become quite obsessed with my body, wanting to be extremely ripped and athletic looking”
Dispelling the notion that a gentle ribbing about appearance can act as a motivator for some people to engage in exercise, another man said:
“It has historically affected how I see myself. It has reinforced negative self image. As a man who carries excess weight, the constant negative statements can have an effect on my self esteem and image. In the past it had stopped me from going to a gym in case I may experience negative comments.”
This research clearly demonstrates that body talk, fat talk, and body image are not just issues for women and teenagers. They affect everyone.

Rob Lowe on the cover of Vanity Fair.
How often do you hear or engage in body talk? How does it affect you?
Dr Phillippa Diedrichs is a research health psychologist specialising in body image and eating disorder prevention. Originally from Australia, she is currently working at the Centre for Appearance Research at the University of the West of England in the UK.







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But Greg where will all these bodies go in the end? Perhaps there’s a more important part o concern ourselves about than these heaps of mainly water. Think of yourself as a “Dulux Dog” or the oldie advert, “I love to get my fingers in his hair”. I’m also hairy, but it’s everyone else who is “body bald”
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I have a very hairy body (back, chest, arms) It is actually more
like a pelt. I have been very conscious of it for over 20 years and I loathe it. I’ve tried the waxing, laser only to make it worse. It does not
bother my wife but I will not take my shirt off in public. I cringe when I hear hairy back jokes and while I am a confident person it does affect me. My greatest fear now is that my 2 boys (4 and 2) will also have this affliction and will suffer the same cruel taunts I did and will also become self conscious in a world where body hair is ridiculed. To top it all off I am also bald! So when I see images of hairless men it just reminds me of my own insecurities and why there isn’t a better way of getting rid of my body hair.
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wow… and women keep going on about having it tough…
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My husband is very self conscious about how he looks. He thinks he’s too hairy, not ripped enough and has “girl arms”. When we first started dating he wouldn’t come to the beach with me because it meant taking off his shirt!
I always try and talk him up, letting him know that I think he has an awesome body. He does the same for me. We are now both really comfortable with our bodies (me more than him!) but every now and again we have a fat day.
I also find that what my husband eats/drinks really affects the way he sees himself. If he feels like he has eaten crap all day, like hot chips, M&Ms, beer, pizza etc. he will be really self conscious. On the other hand, If he’s eaten well, e.g. steak, salad, roast veggies, protein shake, whole grains etc. he will be much more self confident and proud of himself.
Body image is definitely not just a girl thing. My husband needs more encouragement body-wise than I ever do.
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It’s dangerous to extrapolate from a survey asking “what aspect of your body are you most worried about”, to claiming that men are actually worried in a significant way about this.
What must be looked at is effects on various things like dieting and exercise behaviour, self-talk about weight, body image preoccupation, what activities men are avoiding due to their appearance, etc. The evidence is clear that, fortunately, men are still far less susceptible to these negative effects of negative body image than women are. Similarly, males’ appearance affects them less at work, in interviews etc. – it simply is not counted as being as important for men as it is for women.
It’s really important not to catastrophise every issue in order to make it seem worth writing about. it’s also important to make sure you base your ideas on decent evidence and good research – and not to read too much into research that is worthwhile in one way (i.e. telling us that body image is talked and thought about by men) to things that it really can’t tell us about (i.e. how much they do this and how much it affects their behaviour and choices in life, as well as how others treat them).
Of course men are aware of their appearance and compare themselves socially. This is a universal human thing. It’s what that means and if that meaning is changing to have a more negative impact on men’s well-being that should be looked at – not catastrophised, not made more of than it is, and perhaps thinking about which men are likely to be more affected negatively, rather than trying to claim it’s a blanket thing.
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It is disheartening to see how apathetic some Feminists are toward all thing male. It is a fact that men have body issues just like women even it you try your best to ignore the fact.
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Does Rob Lowe really look like that at his age or has his image been manipulated and photoshoped?
I can remember him from St Elmo’s Fire, that must have been about 25 years ago
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… and one more thing, I noticed about 1/2 of those pics in the gallery were covers from DNA magazine, which is marketed towards gay men. Can you imagine the pressure on gay men?!!
While I admire the dedication it must take to get such a prominent 6-pack, it doesn’t do a thing for me.
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My OH is naturally skinny, thinning on top and I think he’s ab-so-lute-ly gorgeous
He does make an effort to eat healthily, but exercise is just walking for an hour or so, 2-3 times a week.
Maybe it’s my age (late 30s) but I’ve been fortunate enough to have relationships with men with smooth skin, men who were more hirsute, chubby men, skinny men. And you know what? At the time, I thought each of them was pretty damn sexy. And that’s the truth
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Although at this rate I might have to change my handle to Dirty Old Woman, lol!!
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I didn’t realise that male models had the same ridiculous pose as the female models with the whole “I’ve got my hand on my undies/swimmers and I might take them off” look. Hey photographers, it looks soooo stupid!!!!!!!!!!
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A lot of those pictures are a turn-off to a hetro female! Especially number 36! (and number 7. lol)
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I’ve suffered from bulimia for well over 20 years (I’m a woman in her late 30′s). When I hear about bulimia increasing for young guys (tho my doc even told me she treats a man in his 50′s who has it) I feel just so terribly sad. I just think ‘oh no, not them too’.
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Nice pics but whatever has happened to body hair? And what about real guys who are fit but don’t have the need to have 8-12% body fat so that their abs stick out? That takes more obsessiveness than I care to deal with.
I like a bloke who is fit enough to do what he needs to do whether it is sport, digging the garden, horsing around with the kids or otherwise. Fit enough to enjoy life. But that doesn’t require washboard abs.
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I love body hair on guys. It worries me that young men in their teens are now being conditioned to believe that body hair is ugly and that no girl will like them if they have it. Honestly, if I took a guy home from a bar and he had all of his body waxed and hairless, I think I’d have to ask him to leave!
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And this is why I cringe everytime I hear the outrage around digitally enhanced images in glossy mags. Body image starts way before reading age, it is the way we speak to children, in ftont of them and the extra curricular activities we encourage them to do. While the glossy images don’t help they sure don’t cause it.
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I like men with a bit less muscle and a little more squishy/human pillow-ness…
Alan Rickman, for example.
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oh my yes
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Alan Rickman just has to speak for me to swoon. Such a sexy voice!
*fans face
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This 100% a valid concern. Although once I got into an argument with my ex boyfriend because he said that the expectations on men to look a certain way were more unrealistic than those on women and that is simply not true. It must be pointed out that for men to bulk up is going along with their testosterone and ‘manliness’ etc (although i have read the definition needed for a 6 pack requires unhealthily low body fat percentage) whereas for women to look like sticks is going against their ‘womanliness’…our female hormones during puberty are supposed to cause fat deposits on hips thighs etc
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Sorry if this has been said before, but at least what men are trying to achieve is healthy! Not waif like bodies starved of nutrition and healthy exercise !
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Anyone stressing about how they look and comparing themselves to some bullshit fantasy ideal is not healthy in my book. And if you think those cut bodybuilders are a healthy ideal, then you should read up on what they actually do (and pump into their bodies) to look like that.
It seems to me that rather than feminism freeing women from body issues over time (despite Mia’s and MMs fine attempts), if anything, the feminisation of society over the last few decades is only making us all (men and women) exponentially more shallow and body focussed. It is a real worry, we are totally losing the plot re what really matters in life. Just look at every single womens magazine to see my point. And dont tell me it is the magazines fault, that is the crap that sells, demand drives supply, so that is what society demands. Great huh.
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What a great perv, surely we are allowed to look at the “good” bodies, it doesn’t mean we only want those in our lives. When I met my husband he was so thin that I took a photo of a curl of skin when he bent to do a shoe up, he did work out by racing motor bikes, but still was incredibly lean.
Now 40 years later he is still hasn’t gained very much weight, I on the other hand have made up for any of his thinness. He eats what he likes, he has no health issues, rarely exercises. There is a plus there somewhere.
Our grandson who takes after his “pop” complained that if he just had calf muscles he might keep socks up, but he has no problem with getting girlfriends. His personality is more important than his physique
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That Sean Connery photo is HILARIOUS!!!
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I always thought it was, possibly, even a bit harder for men.
Women just have to be coathangers. Men can’t be skinny runts – they have to be bulked up. Which is harder than like, not eating.
I dunno. Just a thought.
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Having watched a male friend who does body shaping competitons, I can tell you that getting a body like Ryan Reynolds is about the same amount of work (ie, a lot of very serious dieting) as it is for a woman to get a body like Emma Stone. Both take a lot of time and effort.
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Frankly men are getting what they deserve after years of objectifying women and sexually oppressing us, teh poor menz are now crying about body image.
When men earn 76 cents in the dollar or attempt suicides at the rates women do then they’ll have real problems, I’m so sick of this focus on menz problems when they don’t have any.
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Troll alert.
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Elle, if people like me didn’t exist, you’d still be staying at home with the kids, whilst your husband could still legally rape you. Patriarchal oppression spreads when feminism stops fighting, so the fight is as important now as ever. Men have trolled this sight with their waht about mee bullshit and now they are even getting pieces dedicated to them.
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Yes, men have a position of privilege in our society…that doesn’t mean we don’t have problems…and it doesn’t mean we can’t talk about men’s issues, even on a women’s site.
Identifying and talking about men’s issues in no way diminishes the inequalities that women continue to face…
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Straw troll alert.
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I think you might just be the definition of misandrist. I was going to write a lengthy, reasoned response but to be frank, I think I’d be wasting my time.
I call myself a feminist but I am nothing like you. FFS.
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Why is it trolling? I don’t agree with what Feminista says but there are feminists who say these kinds of things. Why not just disagree with what they say properly rather than just calling them a troll?
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I don’t know about Elle, but I suspect this person doesn’t actually hold those views & is just posting to cause trouble – that’s why I called troll.
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got to agree with Kris, why would you assume that isnt feminista’s opinion (uh, especially given her name). If you disagree with someone, be intelligent and say why.
(note, I totally disagree with feminista – men have issues too, and I am happy for them to be voiced)
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Wow. What a disgusting human being you are.
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On behalf of all men everywhere, and for all the men who have ever lived, and for all men yet to live, I would like to sincerely and humbly apologise for everything we have ever done ever in the history of the world, and for everything we’ve yet to do, unreservedly and without exception.
We are truly sorry…
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Interesting you use suicide as an example of downtroden women in society, when men kill themselves at a rate around 5 times of women in Australia.
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I think she’s referring to the statistics that women actually attempt it a lot more than men do, but more men are successful.
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so the attempt (cry for attention) stats are more important than the actual suicide stats. ok.
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I completely agree that sense of humor is more important. My boyfriend is balding and I now find myself looking at billboards of men with these huge heads of hair and find myself thinking ‘too much hair!’
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I’ve stopped alot of my body talk, about myself and others and it’s been incredibly difficult because it just seems natural. That being said, it’s been easier because most of my friends also don’t do it much as we’ve all sort of become more healthy and focused more on positive rather than negative.
It doesn’t affect me much anymore. I personally don’t care what people i don’t know or barely see think of me. It affects me more if someone close to me said something negative that i knew wasn’t that true. Although if i put on alot of weight and it meant that i became unhealthy, i would like someone to tell me.
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I know! You think you’ve given it up but it just creeps back in, it’s ‘natural’. I have to really make an effort not to do it, and make an effort I do, but it’s incredibly common.
I’ve never thought men don’t have body esteem issues but I think it’s still easier for them. At least they’re not expected to have hair free legs and vag all summer. Their weight/fitness/shape worries are no doubt as vexing as ours, why wouldn’t they be?
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Only one year? Cheap for the reward!
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None of this is at all surprising to me. Hasn’t it been said before on here that the body image industries (gyms, weight loss, plastic surgery, cosmetics and beauty products) have been targeting boys/men more often in recent years, due to that opening up a whole new market for them?
I’ve also noticed, among my male friends, how critical they are of women’s looks. They openly point out saggy/small breasts, little tummies, bad clothing etc. on strangers seen out and about (not to their faces) – even though they wouldn’t criticise their girlfriends/wives for the same.
Then there are the mothers who are hypercritical of their bodies in front of their children.
Overall, of course this is going to lead to people thinking it’s acceptable to attack everyone based on their appearance.
It’s a big mess, and it’s only getting worse.
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Every time I hear a woman, or man, say to a child, “…you don’t want to get fat”, I want to slap them into next week. Worse still is when my gorgeous friends complain about fat and count calories in front of their very impressionable pre-teen girls. Our pursuit of this unrealistic state of perfection is deeply disturbing.
Food is to be enjoyed. It is not a guilty or optional pleasure.
I don’t remember the word ‘fat’ being mentioned about anyone when I was growing up-thank you Mum and Dad. We were encouraged to eat healthy food and be active (sometimes under duress). High fat treats were just that, treats only.
The truth is that we all come in different packages and men and women find an array of shapes and sizes attractive. Perhaps if we started looking outwards (focussing on helping others), not inwards, and were more forgiving of ourselves (and others), the world might be a nicer place?
That so many people would give up a year of their life to be lighter just makes me want to cry.
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I’d say if you asked women the same question about giving a year of their life for their ideal body weight and shape, the figure would be twice as high.
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Just let me say I am a straight woman, and I love love love the male form…but images of the rippling abs and the seemingly popular upper-groin-above-low-slung-pants don’t do much for me. I don’t hate them, but they don’t get me going. To me, there is SO much more to attraction than the state of your body.
I am more likely to be attracted to a man for his sense of humour, intelligence, whether he is a gentleman – and on the baser level, his scent, his presence and oddly enough, his hands. I go crazy for male hands!
We all have our preferences I suppose!
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So reading this as a female I was thinking “oh no no don’t be silly I don’t at all care if a guy has a six pack or is going bald, completely bald, skinny thighs, hairy chest” everything about what attracts you to someone is so subjective… I’m sure not everyone is attracted to my partner but thinking about him just makes my knees weak! Then I realized are guys thinking the same thing when they hear some of our body issues?! Thinking no don’t feel that way you really are still attractive when your thighs touch!!
I don’t mean this in an insensitive way as in to say “shut up men we don’t care” It applies to both sexes. I do care about body image issues of both sexes I just so many of us weren’t stuck trying to make our bodies an “ideal” that nobody else cares if we reach!
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i think every single person assumes that other people care more than they actually do. But i think that everyone is too worried thinking the same to actually care about how someone else looks to the extent that we think they do. (i know exactly what i want to say, just cannot for the life of me articulate it!)
i don’t mean that in a bad way, i just mean that we all probably dwell too much on how we are perceived when no one is really thinking about you in that much detail.
Having said that, I know i do it, and it’s a hard habit to break. I assume people care that my thighs touch or i have a pimple on my face, or i have a bit of belly hanging over my jeans but most people don’t notice and if they do, it doesn’t affect them in any way.
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Looking at these pictures, I couldn’t help but think that the 6-pack/waxed/fake tan look doesn’t do it for me. I like body hair, I think it’s masculine, and I like cuddly.
I wonder how many men feel the same way about women and the images of them in the media?
I wonder if guys are willing to trade a year of their life because they figure being overweight (if they are) means they’ll be losing a year anyway? Although I’m guessing some of those guys spent more than a year in the gym!
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I think men are like women…while we can enjoy and appreciate beautiful, fit and sexy younger bodies, we also love the ordinary…we like big butts, and tight pert arses…we like voluptuous as much as we like boyish…it’s all feminine…
When it comes down to it, if you’re naked and you have boobs and a vagina, we’re going to be interested…
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hahaha didn’t bother with the article once I saw the pics!! GOOD MORNING!!!
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phwoarrrrr, that got my monday off to a great start.
My guy friends seem to be just as self conscious about their body as me at the moment! poor things, at least I can hide my little pot belly under a one piece or some control underwear – there’s no room to hide with your shirt off. needs to be men of all shapes and sizes in the media. and trust me boys, I find the 50 cent ridiculously sculpted body a bit of a turn off! looks like he ingested a whole container of protein powder. don’t stress.
although, on the flip side, there are a lot more old, balding fat guys in the media than there are old, fat ladies!
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This is a huge issue for my male partner at the moment. He is at the other end of the spectrum where he is extremely unhappy about being thin. He has lost a bit of weight recently through stress but is naturally thin anyway. He has developed some anxiety over his physique to the point where he doesn’t want to go out and see family and friends that haven’t seen him for a while as he is really sensitive to comments about his weight. We went to a wedding yesterday with lots of relatives there and he was really not looking forward to going for this reason, thankfully nobody commented on his weight, but wouldn’t you know it, as soon as he rocks up to work (after a 3 week break) this morning, one of his colleagues greeted him with “geez mate you’re skinny” it has really upset him and not a good way to start the working year. So yes body image is a real issue for men at both ends of the weight spectrum.
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Oh your poor partner…I hate when people say that. You’d never go up to someone and go ‘geez mate you’re fat’, so why do people do that to skinny people?! arghhh
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When my husband put on a few, people would come up to him ALL THE TIME and commented on his gain.
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Taylor Lautner is HOT!!! Thanks for the Monday morning perve…
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Yep, good looking guy…but not a real looking guy…
He would have spent hours in the gym each day to develop that muscularity, and then spent a day or two on an extreme low-fat, low carb diet, and low-fluid diet to achieve the definition…
Not to mention waxing…
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Hi JohnJames
I find your comment “but not a real looking guy” a little bit offensive. I realise that maybe the average guy or the majority of guys wouldn’t look this way without taking the steps you spoke of, but some people do without having to go to such extremes.
My boyfriend actually has a very similar body type to Taylor Lautner and he’s certainly a very real person…he’s 24 years old, he only works out 3-4 times per week, he eats and drinks everything in moderation and he’s never had to wax his chest. I know if he heard someone tell him that he doesn’t look real, he would find it very hurtful.
Just something to think about
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Hey, if your boyfriend is lucky enough to be genetically blessed with a great physique and little body hair, then all luck to him…he’s still in the minority though…for most men, looking like your boyfriend is unrealistic…it’s never going to happen…
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I once read an article aboutTaylor Lautner where he spoke about the crazy level of working out and body maintenance he did for the role in the twilight films. It didn’t seem like he was complaining, it is his job, but yeah it certainly isn’t natural.
That said, some people do naturally look like the ideal in magazines, of course. Just not many.
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I once read an article titled “Look great with no gym” and it had quotes from Paul Walker saying “I don’t go to the gym or do exercise, ever! Most days I just surf for the morning then do five hours of karate. My chef only cooks vegetarian most days, which is great”.
Thanks, Mr ‘No Gym’, I’ll get right on it.
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Ooooh I am so shallow I only clicked on the article to have a better perv at Taylor….. Oops
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Don’t worry, so did I!
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I think six-packs are overrated. I definitely think young men should be less obsessed with them.
As a red-blooded heterosexual woman, I like a nice shape, toned but not ripped, soft skin, not too much hair (if possible) and smells nice. For me, not too tall, as I’m only 5″4′ (another thing men obsess over – being tall). As much as I like hair on the head (I won’t lie), I can live without it (especially since I’m getting older, and it’s only fair).
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Last year my then two year old was in hospital with raging tonsilitus (apparently he has ENORmous tonsils…). Anyway, we had to stay two days and spent a fair amount of time in the playroom with trains, trucks and the like. One lunch time one of the nurses asked if I minded if she came in with one of the patients to have some lunch. Sure – me and the little guy were playing railway’s. so, the nurse and the young chap (poss 11/12 yr old max?) came and he ate lunch with her watching. It wasn’t until after they had finished and the young man had gone back to his room that I twigged. I could see his room from the playroom and I watched as he did at least 100 bicep dips and same of situps – then the door closed (clearly he could see me too!). I spoke to the nurse later and asked her if this young man had anorexia. she said she wasn’t able to confirm because of patient confidentiality and all that – but that I was on the right track. It shocked me. Adn the bit that made me sit up and think wasn’t that it was just a boy but such a very young boy. Until you see it for yourself I guess it just doesn’t register. I am a PT and both hubby and I exercise – not heaps but probably two or three times a week. Our little man likes to watch and sometimes he joins in. We are careful not to mention weight or looks but that Mummy and Daddy exercise for our hearts and our health. Anyway, that’s my two cents worth this morning. Have a great day MM’s – brilliant sunny, blue sky in Melbourne this morning. Yahooooo!
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I’m male and a regular reader and poster on MM.
I’ve suffered various eating disorders and body issues since I was about 8 years old. I still loathe my body and though I have a partner that is always complimenting it, I still go through a vicious cycle of hating it whenever I see many media images – including the ones above.
As a 29 year old man I would happily trade a year off my life for a perfect body. Heck, I’d trade up to 5.
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Hi there, thanks for sharing your story with us. I would be interested to know more if you’re willing tho understand if not!
Can you tell us about what triggered your illness, particularly at such a young age? Did (or do) your parents display unhealthy attitudes towards food/ body image that you learned, was there a trauma suffered, does your eating disorder stem from another form of disorder such as depression, bipolar? Or is it all a mystery?
I wish you the very very best xxxx
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The fact that I’m glad you changed the pic is no doubt at the heart of the problem.
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Yep – we need to see more normal looking male bodies in the media just as much as we need to see more normal looking female bodies…
I’m disappointed in you MM!
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Yes, there’s a double standard here that I really don’t like. :/
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As the mother of a 2 1/2 year old girl who soaks up everything she sees and hears I am so conscious of trying to avoid “body talk” around her. Now that I’m more aware of it I realise that my friends and family talk about it all the time – myself as a 29 year old woman, my 27 year old brother, 62 year old aunt.. i try and make sure I am really positive about food, eating food to help our bodies work better, and try really hard not to complain about how I look, the extra couple of kilos I put on over last semester, how my arms are going to look in a bridesmaid’s dress in a month.. it really is amazing how pervasive this sort of talk is.
It’s hard for me as I have been overweight in the past, I’m currently about 25kg lighter than I was 12 years ago and near the bottom of my healthy weight range, but a good weight for me. I know how horrible it is to have a unhealthy relationship with food and yet i also know how much better i feel now at a healthy weight.
I am completely unsurprised about the results of this study. A lot of the men in my life are just as body conscious as the females, and I don’t really know any gym junkies. I can imagine the talk around the pumped up protein powder loving dudes I see hanging out at the 6 gyms in my suburb would be truly depressing.
Great to see some awareness being raised about this, I think being mindful of how we speak to ourselves and others about our bodies is the first step to a healthier attitude..
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I know right lol makes no sense
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My husband is going grey and I now love referring to him as a silver fox, he loves it too.
We often engage in body talk but not so much in a negative manner more just in recognition of our changing bodies. It gives us a giggle.
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I call my girlfriend a ‘Silver Pup’. She started going grey at 18 (her family is completely grey by 30) and she’s too young to be a proper silver fox! Ha ha.
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Oh that’s cute!
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MM – why did you change the photo?
When I first looked at this article there was a photo of a normal looking male body…and now you’ve replaced it with a non-standard looking male body…
What was wrong with the original photo?
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I agree!! When I first went to MM on my mobile it was the regular male Picture as thumbnail to the story, I read the news, went back and refreshed the homepage and the buff man (taylor
Lautner?) is the thumbnail!
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I find a lot of photos for stories get replaced after they’ve been posted.. it’s a bit annoying
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Hey,
My decision to change the photo. I wanted to show the problem rather than the reality – which to me, is more what this post is about. Just as women have been ‘told’ by the media forever that the ideal female form is completely unrealistic, now that pressure is being extended to men.
Personally, the wolf dude does nothing for me.
But it has rapidly become the predominent representation of ‘hot guy’ in popular culture.
I’ve included a caption on the image to make that point more clearly.
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I actually thought the original image was extremely powerful…
I can see where you are coming from with the current photo (especially with the caption)…but what’s happening now is that a lot of the readers are missing the point and enjoying a good Monday morning perve instead of seeing a normal male body…especially in comparison the the majority of photos in the slideshow…
But the slideshow is also a problem because it also focuses mostly on the extremes of male body-image, not the mundane…but I will give credit to whoever chose the photo of Sean Connery from the movie Zardoz…one of my favourite films!
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I chose that one JJ
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You’re the man!
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” focuses mostly on the extremes of male body-image, not the mundane”
Like Mia said, I think that’s the point – that this is what men are faced with, and it affects the everyday ‘mundane’ guy.
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OK – I’m one of the token MM males…
So, here’s my take on the survey:
1 – I wouldn’t trade a year of my life for my ideal weight/body shape
2 – I’d agree with most of that (except I don’t worry about my wrinkles)…but having said that, despite being a little chubby and hirsute, I’m comfortable with how I look…
3 – Nope…I feel just right in muscularity…
4 – I do watch my weight, but more because of health issues than anything else…I don’t want/need to be “slim” though…
5 – Yeah, engage in body talk with my mates…
6 – At 45, body-talk doesn’t affect my self esteem in the least…but I know I felt different at 25…the older I become, the more comfortable I am with my body-image, but that might be because I think I’m a pretty good looking 45 year old (but thought I was an average looking 25 year old…)
I wonder if men cope better with the aging of their bodies than women?
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I think it depends on the self esteem of the individual. There is more attention paid to women’s appearance in the media, but I think men are just as vulnerable to self image issues. I may be generalizing here, but men tend to keep how they feel about themselves to their selves.
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More evidence, if we needed it, that fat shaming doesn’t help anyone lose weight, it just makes us fret about it.
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