The thing about raising kids is that you don’t know if you’ve done a good job or not until they’re 25-plus and living their own lives.
Before then we’re just playing a guessing game and hoping we are making the right choices for them.
That’s why it’s so fascinating to talk to parents of grown children who are independent and resilient and ask them about how they were raised.
Not only is Naomi Simson the founder of the mega-successful experiences website RedBalloon, she’s also a judge on TV show Shark Tank and an empty-nester, having raised two children who have now moved to Melbourne for universtiy.
When it comes to the question of how to raise independent children, she certainly has some amazing wisdom to share.
Simson says the key to raising children like hers is to just say “no” to everything they want you to do for them.
Obviously there’s more to it than that, but let’s start there.
RedBalloon founder Naomi Simson explains how she raised independent, resilient children.
She says she never focused on having happy children because happiness is merely one of the many states of human emotion.
“What I want is resilient children who are respectful, responsible and are on their own journey,” she told Holly Wainwright on Mamamia podcast I Don’t Know How She Does It.
“They know they will experience challenges. It’s how they pick themselves up that will make the difference and they will experience happiness but it’s not the end game. So my job is just to give them their value set and their work ethic so they can get a sense of accomplishment and achievement.”
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I think women who are mothers tend to fall into two camps in parenting style: some mothers parent so their children will never leave them and others parent because they want their children to. The latter are probably doing more right by their kids, in helping them be independent and self-sufficient. The former envisage keeping their nest as intact as possible and possibly this leads to more close-knit families. Regardless, it says more about the mother's aspirations for herself than anything else. For mothers who have a lot they want to achieve individually, an empty nest is not something they fear.