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Lucy and Sienna

In February 2010, I lost my beautiful daughter, Sienna, to one of the most aggressive, unrelenting, deadliest childhood cancers, called neuroblastoma. She was only two and a half years old. Since then, February has been a devastating time of year for me and my partner, Oliver.

My little girl was normal in every way. She was a fun-loving toddler and had a real zest for life. At nine months, doctors found a tumour on Sienna’s abdomen. It wasn’t a benign, harmless tumour.It was neuroblastoma. And Sienna had the worst possible diagnosis.

What followed was seven months of gruelling treatment at Sydney Children’s Hospital Randwick. Our baby endured seven rounds of high dose chemotherapy, two operations, a stem cell transplant, four weeks of radiotherapy and about 40 general anaesthetics.

We were told a number of times that Sienna could also face secondary cancers due to the treatment or, in fact, die from an infection due to her immune system being shot to pieces. Sienna did amazingly well – she got through every treatment and at the end of those seven months she was in remission. We were so hopeful that this was the end of it.

11 months later, in September 2009, all hopes were shattered as a new tumour was found. We were told if Sienna relapsed she would have a 0-1percent chance of survival. Our world fell apart. How were we going to save our daughter from this awful disease?

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Sienna

I emailed professors all over the world and generally the outlook was one of gloom, until we found an amazing professor at Royal Marsden in the UK who got Sienna on a clinical trial for a new drug. We had a plan and we had hope, but while we were waiting for the trial to commence six new tumours appeared throughout her body and the cancer spread to her bone. We started chemotherapy to try to hold the disease at bay. We saw five of the tumours responding to treatment and the sixth tumour had also seemed to have slowed down… But just before the next cycle of chemotherapy, the sixth tumour started to grow out of control.

What happened next is beyond words. We watched our beautiful girl helplessly while this disease ravaged her. Sienna lost her battle on 3 February 2010 and her baby brother was born just five days later. I lay in bed next to Sienna. My little boy was kicking inside me as my little girl was being taken away from me.

It was like a cross over of two different worlds – worlds so far apart and disconnected from one another, that it almost felt unreal. But it was very real and Sienna was gone. I woke up every morning for the first year hoping that what had happened was really a nightmare – I then had that terrible feeling and realisation that Sienna, my precious little girl was not there and would not be coming home.

I started fundraising for Children’s Cancer Institute Australia (CCIA) when Sienna was first diagnosed. I chose to fundraise for neuroblastomaresearch because I knew back then – and I still believe today – that neuroblastoma, and all childhood cancers for that matter, can be cured. But not without medical research.

There is hope. February marks Gold Ribbon Month, a month dedicated to childhood cancer research and run in David Jones stores across Australia. International Childhood Cancer Awareness day also falls on February 15 – but the problem is, I just don’t think there is enough awareness.

Every February, I hold a Gala Dinner in honour of Sienna. This February is no different with the dinner being held on February 17. With the help of a remarkable team of family and friends, I’m hoping to raise over $120,000 at this year’s dinner. I’m lucky enough to have continued support from Peter Overton, Mark Beretta and Natalie Barr. This year Jack Vidgen will perform and we have been given some truly amazing prize packages. Our website is called Neuroblastoma Australia and all information can be found there. It is a website not only used as a means to fundraise, but also as a support network for families affected by the disease.

In the past three years, my friends and I have raised nearly $300,000 and every cent has gone towards CCIA’s research into neuroblastoma. And progress is being made! There are clinical trials underway for neuroblastoma, thanks to CCIA’s research. Just last year, CCIA scientists made a new breakthrough, a discovery that can lead to big changes and great success. You can read about it here.

Sienna and I are also the face of Gold Ribbon Month. I started to support this campaign last year because I thought my story might encourage people to donate, to buy a gold ribbon or pen next time they visit David Jones. I hoped my story would make a difference. I still hope to make a difference, to contribute to the cure that I know CCIA can find. I don’t want to see children dying, I want to see them surviving and living healthy lives. That’s what CCIA is dedicated to achieving.

If you can afford nothing more, please buy a gold ribbon and wear it proudly in February. For $3, you’ll be raising the profile of a cause that sadly affects 600 Australian families each year, and takes the lives of three Australian children every week. We can turn these statistics around. But we need your support.

Lucy Jones lives in Neutral Bay, Sydney and is the Mother of Sienna and Jamie Hoffmann. Sienna tragically passed away in 2010 from neuroblastoma, aged two years, and is the inspiration for Lucy’s website and her  fundraising efforts. Lucy is a dedicated community fundraiser for Children’s Cancer Institute Australia’s (CCIA) neuroblastoma research projects and has contributed nearly $300,000 over the past three years. Lucy’s biggest fundraiser of the year is Sienna’s Frangipani Gala Dinner, held every year in February in honour of her brave daughter. All funds raised from the event are donated to CCIA’s neuroblastoma research.

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    Laura james

    Ive already heard your story as my auntie Claire richardson knows you but to read it through your own words is so differant! and I just want to say you are so brave my daughter is two and a half and I have a 6 week old baby and my heart brakes every time I look in their eyes even just to think what you went through I think the work you are doing is truly amazing and your beautiful little girl will be very proud! I live in England so will speak to Claire about how I could purchase a gold ribbon sending lots of love x

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    rainbow

    thank-you for sharing your story. i am not in sydney but will be buying a ribbon next time i visit david jones.

    all the best, and thank-you for all your hard work, we never know what is around the corner in our own lives. xx

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    Kara

    I thank you for being so brave and sharing your story. What an inspiration you are and what an amazing legacy your daughter gives to the world. I will buy a gold ribbon and I will go and give my two children another kiss goodnight and whisper in their sleeping ears just how wonderful they are and how grateful I am for their amazing little spirits to have the opportunity to flourish with good health.
    All of us Mothers must band together and support our fellow mothers who are creating these charities and putting on events that support and raise awareness of these horrible diseases.
    Congratulations and Thank you Lucy for all that you have achieved in taking on this terrible disease.

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    Christina

    I agree so much more needs to be done about this terrible disease. My nephew lost his battle in Dec 2010. Do you know who is organizing the gold ribbon fundraiser? I would love to see how we could get these ribbons in Tassie as we don’t have David Jones and would love to help to fundraise in memory of Charlie and try to stop another family going through what we are going through. Keep up the good work xxxx

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      siejam

      Hi Christina I am so sorry to hear about your nephew – so much more must be done to save children from cancer. It is an uphill battle getting people to support children’s cancer so the only way i believe is to keep highlighting it and to explain there is hope – more can be done with more research .. David Jones is behind the gold ribbons and they are exclusive to them but we have set up a site http://www.neuroblastoma.org.au and are keen to sell some items on their with profit going to neuroblastoma research so may be we will take a look at that.. any ideas welcome :) Also please do also encourage people to contact us or other families affected by neuroblastoma using our facebook NeuroblastomaAu – with ideas or thoughts on what we can do to get more money into research. thank you

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    Anonymous

    I’m a mother of a Healthy 1 year old boy, knock the wood, and I cannot begin to imagine what you went through. Ive cried all the way through your story. So sorry for your loss! You are doing an amazing job with this. God bless you and your family. Sienna’s legacy will save lives..

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    happyface

    I am so so sorry at your loss. What a beautiful little darling, she looks so peaceful in the photos. What an awful, awful situation for you all. I wish you all the best with drawing the strength you have gained from this into your much needed fundraising.

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    KB

    I am in tears of sadness reading your story, and the commenters who are also enduring such an impossible situation. Thank you, Lucy, for making a difference to those who follow, and all the love and prayers I can send to those of you going through it right now. I can only hope my three girls stay healthy and this is not something I have to face, but if I do I’ll be thankful there are people like you.

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    Silverdragon

    No words, only tears. Bless you and your family, I’m going to give my girls an extra cuddle. xx

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    Amanda

    My little boy , Charlie , died of neuroblastoma in 2010 as well , it has broken our hearts , this disease very badly needs better treatment options , and better support for parents , Fundraising is fantastic , thank you for being so motivated !

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      siejam

      Hello Amanda – I am so sorry to hear that you too lost your precious child Charlie to neuroblastoma in 2010 as well. As you say hearts truly do get broken and my heart bleeds every day for Sienna.
      If interested please do contact us on our facebook page we have set up with a few other families affected by neuroblastoma. We are hoping to build more of a network so we can get rid off this disease (facebook is Neuroblastoma Australia). heart felt thoughts to you and your familyx

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    Mel

    What a heart breaking story.

    What can we do if we don’t have access to David Jones? I would really like to support this cause.

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      siejam

      Hi Mel – thank you for wanting to help us with our cause – I believe you can only buy the gold ribbons in David Jones. Please help us by just spreading the word – neuroblastoma does not need a miracle just more research. If you have any contacts in Sydney please mention our fundraising event and website (www.neuroblastoma.org.au). many thanks X

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    floraly

    Thank you for bringing perspective to a busy day of getting my 2 healthy kids ready for first day of school tomorrow. Health is all that matters.

    May your remarkable efforts fundraising and bravery in sharing your sad story help others and help you heal from such a hideous grief. xx best wishes

    xx

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    Jade

    I am in Melbourne and I want to help. Other than buy a box of ribbons what can I do? Has Melbourne an event also?

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      siejam

      Hi Jade – we don’t have an event in Melbourne at the moment but there may be fundraising events there and we would love to hear of them as we would like to publicise on our website, One option is for you to just spread the word about neuroblastoma (it is the number 3 children’s cancer with no change in survival rates for over 10 years) and also if you do any fundraising (whether it’s walking 10 km or baking cakes) ask people to donate to a children’s cancer research institute – such as Children’s Cancer Institute of Australia – research is the answer and more research done now will save lives in years to come. thank you for wanting to help

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        Susan As Well

        I am in Brisbane and will take your story to my workplace (full of nurses and parents). We all know how to get to a DJ’s and I will encourage everyone to support CCIA.

        It takes an enormous amount of emotional energy and perseverance to cope with recurring daily heartbreak. You are a warrior of a woman Lucy xo

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    Rebecca

    This story is so scarily similar to ours that I can’t believe it. In dec 11 we lost our gorgeous little boy Vaughan to leukemia. 3 weeks later we welcomed a beautiful baby girl into the world called Pyper. I can relate to all elements of this story from the relentless battle our babies faced to the surreal feeling of growing another life inside you. We also have a 5 yr old who endured loving & losing his little brother and have to contend with knowing that our little girl will never know one of her big brothers.
    The lack of awareness of childhood cancers is astounding but to be honest I know how impossible it is to comprehend & can understand why those who haven’t experienced it don’t get it. We were constantly told by family & friends that ‘things would be ok’ but we had to contend with the reality everyday that they might not be… Sure enough despite the biggest fight he could give, cancer stole our little boy from us. Everyday as I turn off the lights to go to bed or open the blinds to start another day I look around for signs of him. They are everywhere and I’m thankful for that but everyday my heart breaks again realizing that childhood cancer stole my boy. Please support the gold ribbon campaign so that no one else has to bury their baby because of cancer.

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      siejam

      Hi Rebecca – our hearts and stories are so similar .. I recognise everything you say too..plus the signs and the daily heart break.
      As you say the lack of awareness of childhood cancers is astounding … childhood cancer so needs to be acknowledged more openly and more pressure should also be put on pharmaceutical companies to invest in children’s cancers.

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    tennis fan

    I am a mother of cancer also. We have been lucky so far. I don’t even have the words to explain how that’s makes feel.

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    chances

    My heart broke reading this.I knew too many families that lost their children to neuroblastoma.
    You see,I have had 2 children suffer childhood cancer.Retinoblastoma.
    The treatment these kids go through and what the parents have to deal wiyh is indescribable unless youve been there.
    My children survived.I am truly blessed…I have never heard of gold ribbon day.Perhaps its because of my location or the fact i dont shop at or have a david jones near me….Id love to get a ribbon to wear with pride and to promote a wonderful cause.

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    Cinnamon

    How hard it must have been to be losing a child yet about to be giving birth to another…I’m very sorry for your loss and admire your strength and courage. What a wonderful thing you are doing raising awareness for your child and giving others hope and a place to share their thoughts.

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    Kerrin

    As the mother of a child fighting Leukaemia, I understand your fight to raise awareness. It isn’t there. Very few people know what the gold ribbon means, and even fewer that there is an International Day for the cause. I am going to share this story on my FB page. I’m so sorry for your loss, but know that your daughter’s spirit lives on, raising awareness, and giving hope to other families.

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      Anonymous

      I’m praying for you and hope your outcome is a better one. I hope your little one stays strong and I send them
      my wishes and strength.

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    Anonymous

    your article has literally taken my breath away – i can barely begin to imagine how beyond dreadful and worst nightmare this must be for you all. What strength and courage you have to try to do something good for future children who suffer this disease. Best wishes to you all, especially your son who barely knew his wonderful sister. xx