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The balancing act of trying to lose weight while recovering from an eating disorder.

I’m overweight and I’m fat. It’s not a secret and I find it liberating to say. I’m currently at the biggest I’ve ever been, and it took me a lot of hard work to get here.

I had an eating disorder growing up. The short version is that until I turned 19 I suffered from EDNOS, which is eating disorder not otherwise specialised.

I restricted calories just enough that my parents wouldn’t get suspicious, mostly just eating a tiny breakfast and a tiny dinner, but I wouldn’t eat otherwise. Or I’d overeat every once in a while and punish myself by purging either by vomiting or exercise. There’s a history of EDNOS in my family, a lot of which I witnessed growing up, and I was also in the entertainment industry as a child, so it didn’t take long for me to get Officially Messed Up. The first time I made myself throw up, I was eight.

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It wasn’t until I went away to college and was away from everything that I got on the journey to recovery. Of course there are ups and downs, but I considered myself much better after I turned 20.

It’s been about four years since I adopted healthier habits, and for the past year or so I haven’t had a single slip-up. I was proud of myself and allowed myself to eat whatever I wanted without a care in the world. I went to an event for curvy women. I bought cute plus-size clothes. In 2016, my self-confidence was the highest it’s ever been. Unfortunately, 2016 was also the year that I was diagnosed with asthma and my acid reflux (which I believe is a consequence of all those years of starving and puking on purpose) got worse. Basically, the reflux makes me cough, and the coughing exacerbates the asthma. Both are controlled now, but they’re unpleasant.

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I am now between jobs, and my next job doesn’t begin until April, so I have two months of free time. I decided to begin working out and try to lose some of this excess weight, because extra weight makes my asthma and reflux worse. I felt healthy enough mentally to embark on this journey without falling back into EDNOS. I decided if I was going to do this, it wasn’t going to be to lose weight. I set myself a realistic goal: successfully lose five kilograms before summer.

For a couple of weeks it was good. I was making progress, going from no jogging background to being able to jog for two minutes without dying. I felt good. Springy. The gym gave me energy and I was eating yummy new healthy things (blueberry greek yogurt is life).

And then I slipped, and I came tumbling down.

There’s a scale at the gym. I avoided it for two weeks which was a success, but I couldn’t hold out. One day, I decided to step on it. I mean, what’s the worst that could happen? I’d been dieting for two weeks and working out essentially every day. I had lost at least half a kilo, right?

The scale told me I weighed seven kilograms more than I did when I started working out.

I jumped off the scale, face red hot, and felt like the world was spinning. I kept my head down and stared at the ground, just waiting. Please no, please I’ve kept it at bay for over a year, no no no no –

You idiot fat bitch of course you weigh more-

No are you serious come ON I’m healed now and shiny and I don’t have these thoughts anymore not anymore-

You need to go throw up right now-

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No I’m not going to do that, you can fuck off and go away because I don’t listen to those thoughts anymore-

You are so embarrassing, I mean can’t you feel your fat slipping over your yoga pants, and didn’t you have to fish in the XL area for these pants, GOD you are so fat holy shit you are absolutely gross-

Think of something else, ummm okay I’m going to crochet when I get home-

Whatever, do what you want, doesn’t change how fat you are. Ew. Your body is sad. You are disgusting. If you were thinner, your life would be so much better. You’re already exercising and eating better; take it to the next level. Just puke once or twice. Get some diet pills. Go sit in the sauna for 45 minutes.

I went into the locker room and locked myself in a bathroom stall. I pulled up Google and of course was met with lots of information about gyms purposefully loading up their scales so they show that people weigh more than they do, in order to get more people to sign up for gym memberships. I thought the thoughts were over, and then-

Get in your car, go to Target, buy a scale, and weigh yourself. Actually that’s good, because then you can weigh yourself once a week. Or twice. Maybe everyday. Just to keep track. Get some diet pills while you’re there. I know you were planning to use the money to buy your groceries, but this is actually better. Then you won’t have money for junk. Win-win.

I scrunched up my face and screamed inside my head.

I’M NOT BUYING A SCALE. OR UNSAFE PILLS. ARE YOU KIDDING. THAT’S LIKE AN ALCOHOLIC HAVING A GIANT BOTTLE OF WINE IN THEIR HOUSE. IT’S RELAPSE 101. I’M NOT DOING THIS SHIT. GO AWAY.

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And the voice went away. I was shocked by how quickly it disappeared. I took advantage of its absence and raced home before I could cave in and buy the scale.

"I took advantage of its absence and raced home before I could cave in and buy the scale." (Image: Twitter)

I got home, threw myself in the shower, and cried. Then I dried my eyes, breathed deeply, and told myself to get over it. The next day, I made myself stay home on purpose and take a rest day. I made it a point to eat whatever I wanted. I kept tracking it of course, and watched my calories go over the daily budget. I knew I could work out to get rid of them, but I chose not to. I felt anxious and guilty and angry at myself but I pushed through it. No way. I’m staying home.

I woke up the next morning and felt cleansed. I ate a healthy breakfast, made myself a smoothie, and went to the gym. I walked right past the scale and felt surprisingly fine. I realised what had happened was a momentary lapse and not a full blown backslide into everything I’ve overcome. I was overwhelmed with relief and took a moment to appreciate myself.

I feel recommitted to my goal and am going to continue exercising five days a week and watching what I eat because it’s what I want to do. If the thoughts come back, I’m going to deal with them again and make them go away again. I have to trust that I am stronger now. I’m not going to let fear of a relapse keep me from my health goals. There’s a way to do this and stay mentally healthy, and I’m going to figure it out. I have to figure it out.

It’s a delicate balancing act, and I’m taking it one step at a time.

This post was originally published on Medium. You can find the original piece here.

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