You know that friend?

The one that whinges constantly. Her life isn’t good enough and she never takes responsibility. Oh, you’re trying a new class/hobby/thing? That’s a stupid idea. Oh, it was your birthday last week? She forgot.

She didn’t show at your hen’s day either. She forgot to text you after that job interview. All of these moments weren’t her fault, because nothing is ever her fault, she’s just the victim and you’re her emotional dumping ground.

The reason you know so much about her life is because she willingly tells you stories that seem to repeat, and situations that repeat. She wouldn’t know how to ask you a single question. Oh, and can you grab this coffee? Because she’s out of cash. Again.

Oh, but you can afford Vodka soda’s all night.

This week on the Mamamia Podcas t, toxic friendships and how to get rid of them.

Mia Freedman euthanased a friend once. Despite her best efforts to nurse the kinship back to health, she couldn’t remember the last time she felt good about it.

So she ended it. Defriended. Expired. Kaput. And she says there are a couple of ways to go about it;

Of course, ghosting out of it has it’s upside. But, then there was the time she chose the The Other Approach:

Nikki Gemmell, author, columnist, wise owl of life also says life is too short for toxic friends. Except hers came in a slightly different form.

She was at a party next to a friend who had teens the same age as hers. When Nikki confided, hands flailing, in the mess of hormones, the drama and chaos of teens, the tenuous grip she had on her sanity, it was a chance for friends to bond over the craziness of life.

Instead, this woman shook her neat, blowdried hair, smiled, and said, “Oh I don’t have any of those problems.”

Kaput. Gone. Done and dusted. Goodbye, friendship and fakery.

Nikki said it best as: “I want heartlifters. Not heartsinkers.”

The heart-liftingly bespeckled Nikki

Life is too short for toxic friends.

Euthanize those friendships and make way for the ones that really matter. *Cough* like us.

Listen to the whole ep here:

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And get yourself the friends you DESERVE in your life.

(hint: us)

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How have you ended a friendship?