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In an interview with Parade magazine, Brad Pitt said he ‘wasn’t living an interesting life’ when he was married to Jennifer Aniston





It’s not you it’s me.

Or in this case it wasn’t Jennifer Aniston, it was Brad Pitt.

World media outlets went into a frenzy last week when Brad Pitt (apparently) admitted that his five-year marriage to Jennifer Aniston ended because ‘he wasn’t living an interesting life’.

I was a bit shocked when I read the reports. Jennifer Aniston boring? I find that hard to believe.


Here’s what Brad said in his interview with Parade magazine:

In your younger days, you were not known for charitable work or, frankly, seen as much of a family man. Was there an event that changed how you saw yourself in the world?

“I spent the ’90s trying to hide out, trying to duck the full celebrity cacophony. It wigged me out a bit. I started to get sick of myself sitting on a couch, holding a joint, hiding out. It started feeling pathetic. It became very clear to me that I was so intent on trying to find a movie about an interesting life, but I wasn’t living an interesting life myself. I think that my marriage [to actress Jennifer Aniston] had something to do with it. Trying to pretend the marriage was something that it wasn’t.”

Everyone was quick to assume that it must have been an uninteresting Jen who was making Brad’s life so pathetic. Especially after he added that his subsequent relationship with Angelina Jolie had made him a ‘satisfied man’.

But in a statement released by his talent agency after the commotion, Brad Pitt said his words were misinterpreted.

Reuters reports:

“It grieves me that this was interpreted this way. Jen is an incredibly giving, loving, and hilarious woman who remains my friend. It is an important relationship I value greatly.”

As it turns out, what Brad was trying to convey was that it was his relationship that had made him uninteresting. He felt that he had changed and that had affected the state of his marriage. He didn’t like the person he had become. Maybe he looked in the mirror one day and saw a face he didn’t recognise; a person he didn’t like.

The words ‘it’s not you it’s me’ are often used as an easy way out of a relationship (and I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve used them before.) But maybe they do speak the truth.

Have you ever been in a relationship where you didn’t like the person you had become?

And here is a little gallery of Brad Pitt (just because we can).

Brad channels a hit man for Interview magazine.

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