What’s the best age to find love?
I’ve always been obsessed with what makes some couples stay together – and not just stay together but stay giddily bonkers about each other – when most don’t last the distance (or stay ‘for the children’ in an unspoken, liveable but unpleasant truce).
After years of observation, I’ve decided happy couples tend to fall into two camps.
They’re either early birds (got together in high school or university) or late lovers (got together age 45-plus).
Yes, they’re quite specific and not terribly common categories that completely ignore the majority but there are reasons why each works.
Couples who get together early, grow up together. With the right communication skills, strong motivation and commitment, each adapts to accommodate the other, moulding to fit with equal give on either side. Picture seedlings planted side by side. With the same soil and sunlight, they’re going to grow at the same rate and in the same direction, ending up more similar, right?
The early bird couples I know have jobs they love and are happy to allow each other time apart for work reasons.
The combination of a secure base but ‘permission’ to explore is the core of their success.
But it’s also because they’ve only ever really dated one person.
Top Comments
It's all personal isn't it?
I could not bear the idea of racing down the aisle at a young age. And I'm not sure being a wife and mother would suit me. I would potentially be the mum who went out for milk and didn't come back.....
I am now in a relationship that commenced when I was 36. It's unconventional, be we both need free time. Not for playing away but both introverts and odd work hours :)
People are only getting together with people of the same age, give or take a year? Gee, somebody should have told me the rules before I married my hubby who's six years older than me..... Though his dad is almost 30 years older than his mother. I guess people get together for reasons other than age grouping....