It’s hard to love yourself when strangers insist that you shouldn’t.
Yesterday should have been one of the happiest days of my life.
Yesterday, I graduated from university, something I’ve worked hard at for three years to achieve.
But among the congratulations, there was a niggling, growing anxiety.
Over the past few months I’ve put on six kilos. I am now the heaviest I’ve ever been in my life. It’s not a great feeling.
I struggle to feel comfortable in my clothes, my belly sticks out – making me paranoid people think I’m pregnant – and I’m avoiding social outings less and less because of four nagging words:
What will people think?
If you’re my friend, or someone who’s kind, you’re probably dying to say to me: ‘Who cares what people think? Just be yourself.’ But what’s strange is I do like myself and who I am as a person.
I just don’t like the body I have so carelessly neglected.
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Laura, im so sorry to hear that some idiot spoke to you that way, thats disgusting & there is clearly something very wrong with him, one can only wonder what motivates some people?! I totally understand your feelings about yourself, im constantly reminded how "big" i am (6ft tall & 90kg, in recent times up to 120kg post babies) in fact people remark about it so contantly i cant even walk into a shop without comments! But i decided i cant change anyone else, just focus on being the best person i can be, i focus on how strong my body is and how incredible it is to have full ability (i have worked extensively with disabled athletes) also since having my children i am in awe of what my body can achieve, and i try to think of "my body is a temple" and feed it accordingly, i also found things like my fitness pal apps to really make me aware of what i eat! Your photos with the article are beautiful, good luck on finding peace with your body & learning to love it (you deserve the best) x
The "disgrace to society" is the idiot who felt it was okay to verbally abuse a stranger on the street.
People like that suck the joy out of life and contribute nothing positive.
Your weight is not a disgrace, he is a total disgrace.
You are a beautiful accomplished person.
He is a flawed human being.