Kate celebrating her weight gain
There are some things I stopped wearing when my belly stopped being flat. Tight dresses, for one. I used to have a skintight gray knit dress that I thought was the hottest thing in the world. I gave it away when I gained weight.
I hit my heaviest weight ever (again) back in November and I’m still there. Which kinda surprised me the last time I weighed myself. I thought I’d slip back. I thought I’d return to normal. Y’know, to my real body.
I think this might be normal, guys.
And the good news is, there’s a chance I’m curvy now! At least a little. I think I might be. Even my boobs are contributing, in the gradual, half-hearted manner in which I used to do my laundry after my mom reminded me ten times.
I didn’t know until I put on this incredibly tight dress covered in rabbits. And then it turned out that I am a (potential?) bombshell. It was like BAM BAM BAM!
BOOBS BELLY BUTT!
My first thought, which came out high and squeaky with shock, was “Wait– really? Nice!”
This is all wrong.
I am not supposed to like being at my heaviest weight. I am supposed to want to shed those pounds ASAP!! Girl, get some self control! I am supposed to be panicking. I am supposed to be dreading summer and calculating how many hours per day I should spend on the treadmill, starting NOW, right after I eat this chocolate croissant and its adorable twin and their slightly smaller cousin who would’ve been lonely otherwise. I am supposed to feel disappointed in myself. I am supposed to have failed.
But this curvy body feels like a friggin’ celebration.
“Wait for it,” I told my husband, pulling the rabbit dress on in the bedroom while he tested his bloodsugar (diabetes: it always has to get in on the action) in the kitchen.
“Whoa,” he said, when I came out. “Wow. Your body is amazing. Wow.” (The fact that Bear is really articulate makes this an even bigger compliment.)
“Right? RIGHT?”
I’m drunk on it. Thank you, mirror! Thank you, bagels! Thank you, poor willpower!
I’m not sure how I missed this. I kept interpreting it wrong. I kept thinking “gross” instead of “gorgeous.” Those silly G words that end in S. I watched my arm spread along the back of the couch. Was that a dimple, swimming in the fat? Should I kill myself now, or after the third croissant?
“Angelina’s arms are skeletal,” said my friend, who had actually seen the star in person. “She looks like she might be sick. It looks unhealthy.”
First my brain went, “I wish mine were more like that.” Then I said, “That’s really sad.”
I didn’t want to go shopping. I thought, “I can never wear a sleeveless shirt again. Ever. This is the end of sleeveless shirts.”
Kate rocking her rabbit dress
I thought, “I can never wear a strapless dress again. Ever. This is the end of an era.”
I thought, “Maybe I should grow my hair long again, because only skinny people look good with short hair. There’s some kind of law.”
I thought, “Every single one of my friends is ten times hotter than me.”
Yesterday, another girl asked my friend if she was a model. I stood there and smiled and nodded along. Yes, she does have the bone structure for it.
I will never be asked that question.
I will never have a face for TV. Or a body for a billboard. If I am ever very famous and on the cover of a magazine just because they have to put me there, they will go crazy with the photoshop, in an effort to make me look the way beautiful women are supposed to look and less like the way I actually look. Because the way I actually look is too confusing for popular consumption.
But god, I like this body right now.
I think I might be high on something. Croissants? Whatever’s in diet Dr. Pepper? Life?
No. I know. It’s the rabbit dress.
Kate Fridkis blogs at Eat the Damn Cake. Follow her on Twitter @eatthedamncake.
Is there an outifit, a dress, a piece of clothing that you love? That makes you feel great?
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Oh gosh, I wish I felt confident like you! I have the oppisite problem. I’m naturally thin, and have a chronic illness, so I am SUPER thin. And its hard. People stare and make rude comments. But. When I have these 2 dresses. One is a short, metallic shift and the other a floaty, white dress with this pretty, ruffled skirt.
They give me shape where I need it and even though I am still extremely thin, when Im wearing these dresses, I don’t give a DAMN who stares at me. I feel a million dollars.
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this is soooooooooooooooooooooo refreshing.
“BAM BAM BAM”
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OMG scarf girl is wearing your dress ahahah!! http://www.wendyslookbook.com/2012/03/whimsy-little-bunnies-beige-vest/
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Whatever you are high on Kate,you look awesome,and good on you that you FEEL awesome too…that’s what it’s all about really!!
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Go Kate! Great dress. I lost a heap of weight last year, was in love with myself in the mirror for ages (mostly in skinny jeans, heaven!). Then I put about half of it back on, and I was stressing all the time (in between eating). My husband, though, pointed out that it was a win win situation – I was hot when I was skinny, and hot when I was curvy. Gotta love that man.
I realised the only thing that was stressing me was the fact that I couldn’t fit into my clothes. So I put my skinny jeans down the bottom of my drawer, bought a bunch of gorgeous dresses that show off the cleavage I didn’t have when I was thinner, and was loving myself sick again.
Now I’m heading back to thinner, via a newfound love of running, and I’m already looking forward to what type of wardrobe will suit me when my body stabilises again. I might be muscly – what will suit me then?? So exciting.
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I thought this was a sweet article with a nice message. Don’t be so hung up on that dress size number or kilograms because you probably look a lot better than you think you do.
I’ve gained a few kgs last year because I didn’t keep fit like I usually do and ate more crappy food. It’s logical that I pit on a bit of weight. But a lot of my clothes don’t fit like they used to and it’s frustrating. There are days where I think I look awful and others when I’m rockin’ it. It’s all relative.
A few posters have mentioned a health section on MM. I’d love to see that as I feel so bombarded by this app and that site and for the timepoor it would be a huge help. Health, fitness and food. I see MM as a go to all the time and it’s helped me in many ways.
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Firstly Kate looks gorgeous and I’m glad she loves her body.
I’ve read through the comments here and I can see so many pov’s that I agree with (and also disagree with).
I understand that body image is a highly discussed topic and agree that positive body image messages should be delivered in the media. MM does a great job of this – delivering stories from a range of women sharing their experiences, as well as newsy type articles that encourage debate about air brushing etc.
But I also think people talk about and focus on the way they look too much. Too much empahsis is placed on looks, and it gets boring. I think people need to accept and appreciate how they look (which can be difficult I know) and focus on other things. Just as looks are so important, being a good person is too, caring about others, taking interest in world and social issues, developin skills, having a laugh are all really important things and often get overlooked because people are too worried about how they look and how others may not like the way they look.
Just my 2 c
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I gained weight and I hated it.
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I love this article! Thank you for writing it. It’s made me feel better about my body.
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Honey, you’ve got a great arse!!!!
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I’m sick of everyone whinging!! If you see it’s an article about body image and you are sick of that-don’t read it! It’s not over saturation-it’s an important topic for women amongst many other things-and articles like this are inspiring and interesting for those with an interest in it-and those that have struggled with their own body-Inc. Me
keep it up Mia n the team
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Personally I think if you love your body that is great, but I think we have to stop believing that there is something wrong if we don’t. I’d like to read an article that says ‘There are bits of my body that I hate, but that’s ok. I’m allowed to dislike having XXXXX’. We don’t usually love every single thing about ourselves – it is called self reflection. So therefore I see no reason to force myself to love every bit of my body. I accept it, and I can see the good bits, but I don’t have to love it.
Reading articles about body loves makes people have hung ups if they don’t love their body… it doesn’t usually make anyone love their body more. But that’s only my opinion…
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You look gorgeous Kate! Go for it, girlfriend!
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sorry if this sounds bitchy, but this to me isn’t really a celebration of a woman making some breakthrough who has made peace with gaining weight and acquiring a less than typically thin body. because frankly (and this isn’t meant to be a backhanded compliment!) the girl in the photo looks to have a perfectly lovely size 10ish body. she is still beautifully and enviably slim with some female curves. she hasn’t exactly blimped up. what is all her fuss about?
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… its all relative…
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Throwing my two bits in:
1. I like this article
2. Kate, your bum looks fantastic in that dress
3. I want that dress
4. The author is celebrating feeling good about herself in a way her previous self would not have imagined. Let the girl glow for a moment, FFS.
5. That is all.
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classic case of a picture is worth a thousand words!
love those photos. good on you kate, you look hot!
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Go Kate! You look amazing. I totally admire you and I think it’s so refreshing to read something like this. Thanks for publishing Mammamia!
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I thought this a really nice post, but I like the articles about life changing things like travel, new jobs, taking a risk and moving house.
Just my personal preferences.
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Hubba-hubba! Yes, you are indeed hot, and it’s good you can see it (or begin to!)
}:)
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That is some enviable booty.
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Kate, you look great!
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great post!
my peeptoe shoes always make me feel great.
my old bettina liano’s also ddi but sadly they turned into rags through constant use over 5 years
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Kate I think you look gorgeous! It’s not just the dress! I hate to think how thin you were before because to me you don’t look overweight or fat or unhealthy, you look healthy and vibrant. I think we shoud all stop being so hard on ourselves. My mantra is that I am fit and strong. So what if my thighs are too stocky to fit into skinny jeans without ripping the seam? I don’t like skinny jeans anyway! Ha!
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I am currently wearing my skinniest pair of skinny jeans that I own and the pair in which, when trying to host them over my thighs and butt, I have torn a belt loop almost all the way off. But I’m in, (granted top button has been engulfed by the left over stomach that didn’t fit, but bless loose tops matched with tight pants!) and I love them!
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Beautiful story. Really inspiring. Thank you for writing it.
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Fantabulous! So freeking good to read something where a woman accepts her body.
I am currently re-reading “If not dieting, then what?” Dr Rick Kausman, for my daughter who struggles with accepting her body so I can go through some strategies again with her. If you are having problems with accepting your body, can highly recommend this book as a great way to start looking at yourself positively.
Uplifting article! Thanks MM.
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fantastic book.. should be compulsory for all people!
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This post is……slightly confusing.
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I love Kate’s blog! So happy to see her writing here.
I totally get what she is saying – it feels a bit naughty or subversive to actually like your body more when you put on weight. We are so conditioned to always want to minimise our bodies and ourselves, rather than take up space with our bootalicious bods. Love it.
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This is brilliant – LOVE!!! Kate is gorgeous.
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I liked this article. A little bit confusing but on the whole, awesome. Also, pleeeeeeeeeeeeaaaassseeee tell us where you got the rabbit dress! Tre cute!
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love the dress and YOU LOOK ABSOLUTELY FABULOUS in it.
You look like you are the perfect weight, with beautiful womanly curves in all the right places. I would be buying that dress in a few other colours too
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I love this site and the community and I know the obvious answer is to not read the post, but I read every post on MM regardless of whether it really interests me that much.
MMers, I am sick of talking about our bodies. I need a break! Can we take just a little while to stop talking about fat, skinny, weight gain, weight loss, just for a few weeks or something!
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110% AGREED!!!!
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We try to post things that women are talking about – that reflect who we are and what we are about. Different stories from different people – that’s the essence of Mamamia. The way we look is something that women talk about – A LOT, rejoicing in our bodies and being proud of who we are is something we want to shout from the rooftops.
In posting as many times a day as we do we believe that there is always something for everyone
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But don’t you possible think by posting so many stories about the way women look just puts more emphasis on the topic and possible more pressure for women to look a certain way?
Yes you’ve posted different stories from different people about how they feel about their bodies, both enjoying them and not enjoying them so much but we’re yet to read one on here from a genuine plus sized person. There are plenty of plus sized Australian bloggers you could ask to write a piece for MM, if you’re truly about showcasing all body types and celebrating all shapes and sizes PLEASE throw some love to the plus sized community, they read MM too and so far haven’t been well represented.
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Thanks Confused – we don’t really solicit these articles as such, they are sent to us. If a “plus sized” person wanted to write for Mamamia we would accept them with open arms as we do any sized person
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I’m glad MM is posting articles to do with women’s body issues as a balance to the constant stream of advertising, magazines, television, radio, everyday conversations that hit us with stupid and unrealistic ideas about our bodies.
One day, one article on MM will hit home to a woman and encourage her to be brave enough to challenge the status quo. And, then it will hit home to the next woman, and the next woman and so on. Even if you getting sick of it, you’re still reading it in the hope that you will find a different way to feel about your body. Get sick of it and then change how you feel about yourself. Look for something better and be glad of the alternatives MM is giving you. No one else is doing it so publicly and persistently.
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Conflicted – don’t you think that’s a bit like saying “doesn’t writing stories about child abuse just put more emphasis on it?”
Or bullying?
Or anything?
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My point was by putting emphasis on it, it in turn puts pressure on women to look a certain way. As I previously pointed out, MM is all about loving your body for what it is and yet it has yet to feature an article on a plus sized body.
They “don’t really solicit these articles as such” but if they want to present a balanced view and truly promote a “love your body for what it is” theme, then they should actively look for a plus sized writer to represent the plus sized body – otherwise their “love your body for what it is” message kind of fails.
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I think Catherine Deveny’s contribution would satisfy that description, as well as “Plus-sized bodies: what is wrong with them anyway?”…I’m sure there have been others over the months, but those two in particular came to mind.
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No Catherine Deveny’s contribution most definitely would NOT satisfy that description at all. Neither does the other article you refer to.
This is part of the problem, people referring to “average” sized women as plus sized. When people refer to plus sized they are usually referring to women in the size 20 and above range. Even in that article you mention it states that most plus sized models are between a 6 and 14 – really?!? You go into any retail chain and their plus sized clothing range usually starts from a size 18, sometimes 20, not a 14!
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YES! Exactly! I do not walk around thinking “how do my arms look…are my legs wobbling today….can you see my belly in this dress” I walk around stressed and happy about work, about my relationship, what am I going to have for lunch, I need to call Billy Bob back etc et. but when you read this article you are forced (in a way…just a natural brain reaction to think about what we are reading) to consider your body and how you feel about it! I don’t think this needs to be done! We don’t need to have soo many articles from one source (different contributors same site!) that make women think about their bodies! I usually hate when people use personal anecdotes to make a point “I fell off my bike so all bikes should be illegal” or “I don’t think about my body all the time so stop making me” BUT with this I know I am definitely not the only one! Yes when you read these articles you might think about a body part and go “ooh yes my pot belly I’d love to change that” but before a lot of these women read the article I bet they were not sitting there going “oh I’m going to browse the internet for a while…if only I didn’t have a pot belly”. Your articles make women consider thoughtfully what they love and hate and personally I hate that! it’s ugly to be so critical of ourselves and an ugly thing to encourage!
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I wonder if people write to newspapers to say “There’s a story on page14 I don’t like”
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haha! as an ex newspaper journo, I can assure you, THEY DO!!!
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Yes! Agreed! I’m all for encouraging loving ourselves, but this constant barrage of feel good body posts and education on what real women look like is getting too much! I need a break from loving my thin/fat/tall/short/healthy/female/male/fair skinned/tanned/toned/curvy body. Please.
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I’m surprised to hear negative comments about a positive body story! I find Mamamia is such a haven from the usual shit you read in the media about women’s bodies.
let’s not pretend that body image isn’t a problem for women – it is.
And I always know I can get an intelligent and different view of it here.
Don’t go changing!
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OK, because I’m bored and I don’t want to study, I’ve gone back through the last few weeks of Mamamia posts and I reckon you guys post about 6 times a day and maybe out of every 10-15 posts, one is about body image.
That’s hardly saturation. Please keep it up. There are so few places I can read stories from women talking openly and honestly about their bodies or how they feel about the way they look.
I’m 21 and even though I wish it wasn’t, this is a huge part of my life and the lives of my friends and even my mum!
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So true, JJ – body image is also such a big part of my life and my friends’ lives. I suppose because at this age we generally don’t have things like mortgages and kids taking up our worries too? But even my mum is always banging on about how she’s put on a kilo and she’s unhappy about it.. I just want to smack everyone over the head and tell them how beautiful they are!! (But I think articles like this might be a little more effective.)
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To me, whether an article is about loving your body or what you need to do to ‘fix’ it, it just put’s emphasis on how we look. Yes, that is a big part of who a lot of women are, but it shouldn’t be, and the more people talk about it the more women focus on it.
Funnily enough, I grew up in the time when promoting positive body image became a big thing, and the first time I really considered my body and it’s flaws because of the barrage of ‘healthy body image’ info I was getting. Prior to that, I hadn’t given it much thought. My body did what it was supposed to, and looked ok. Not great, but that was fine, not everyone’s a great beauty and I had other things going for me. But then reading all these articles about how everyone was beautiful etc. just made me feel like beauty was the most important thing. That it was all about appearance. Prior to that I’d been perfectly fine with my average looks, but now I wondered if I had a problem because I didn’t think I was the hottest thing around. I didn’t really get over that until I started travelling, and visited places where people just accept that some people are more attractive than others, but it’s not an issue.
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Good point Nat, I am around your age and agree that most of my friends conversations some how end up on the topic of their bodies. I love Mamamia and my friends and I am all for promoting fantastic, healthy body image in women (and men) but I am so TIRED of it. I get so bored after a while hearing my friends go on and on about their body. I get so bored reading about people going on and on about their body. I know for some people it is a huge struggle to get that acceptance but man….isn’t there ANYTHING else to talk about??
I will agree though, these articles are ‘feel-good’ articles and I am constantly sending/sharing them to friends who NEED to read this kind of material. But at the same time, I’m a contradiction because I tell them to please be quiet and to just eat the damn sweet treat without feeling guilty!
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I think it’s an important issue but it seems to be delivered the same way. Love your body! Feel good in your mind about what you look like! Love your curves!
MM have given us a wonderful gift in Zoe Foster educating us on beauty tips and tricks – why not do that with our health and body? If we want to inspire people to love themselves and make a change – lets look at tools to get that done. I’m not saying ‘How to lose flab fast!’ kind of articles, but how about some more education on what our bodies actually need, what they don’t need (we’ve done it with botox – why not junk food?), nutrition, exercise trends, how to deal with stress, – We’ve got a country full of chronic illness & we’re getting fatter (re: UNHEALTHIER)..Let’s talk about that as well. Let’s be educated and look at the science of our bodies. I guarantee that is going to liberate and motivate women too.
/rant.
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Hi Zel,
Mamamia has never aimed to be a self-help site in terms of dispensing advice (except for Zoe who is a genius).
Our approach to body image has always been to tackle it from different angles – from women’s personal stories about how body image affects them to opinions about body image and relationships or media or food.
We don’t always get the balance right but we try.
And judging by the traffic on those posts, they are popular (traffic is one of our indicators of what content our readers like – there are others).
Still, we’re always evolving and welcome the feedback.
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Hi Mia,
Maybe rather than body confidence posts all the time (which is not a bad thing, but as some have noted gets repetitive), you could have more health posts.
I think the first rule of body acceptance is respecting your body by feeding it nutritious food and exercising it well, (as well as having that chocolate cake every now and then – life IS about having fun afterall).
As someone who has sturggled with body confidence in the past, I learnt that as soon as I stopped worrying about my boobs, butt etc and started focusing on being fit and healthy I started to feel so much better about myself.
Just an idea, but it’s definitely somethng I’d love to see on Mamamia more often.
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Mia, just looking at the sections you have on the front of this site…I think there is one missing: Health. It’s taken me a good half an hour to articulate this!
This isn’t a self help site…but with contributors putting forth their opinions on life and their personal struggles (as well as other topics) the one thing I’d love to read about – as opposed to body image being done to death, my opinion- is health and what other women are doing about theirs etc. Not because they want to diet or exercise to be ‘a size 0′ but because it is a REAL issue. Personally, I find myself having to go to other blogs and sites on-line to read articles about that topic and would love to see that on here- in it’s own section. It’s a part of my life and my friends/family and as a mother, even more important.
Maybe I will go and write something to contribute on that subject now…
I want to read about women needing to lose weight for medical reasons, for mental health reasons etc and the actions they took. I did read an article about a woman who competed in swims after a still born baby, loved that story, beautifully written, she inspired me and others. She wasn’t doing it to fit into a skirt at Sportsgirl.
It’s also hard work to be/stay fit and healthy and any tips are surely welcome by me!
I see I’m typing now and Lauren has mentioned the same thing-ish underneath
What do you think?
I sure as hell would love it!
Love your work lady x
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You know, it’s strange, but positive body image posts tend to leave me feeling a bit more negative. I don’t really know why.
For example, I’ve spent a number of years wanting to gain weight and after a doctor’s visit with perfect blood test results and him telling me to just stop bloody worrying about gaining weight and accept my body as it is. But now, reading this post, has left me wondering again whether I would be happier heavier, with ‘curves’ and whatever because apparently, it makes other people happy.
At the end of the day, I think it keeps coming back to feeling like I need to be concerned about what my body looks like and whether I like it, rather than what it does.
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As an overweight woman with no ‘curves’, I feel the same way. All this talk of women with boobs, bum and hips being so beautiful always leaves me feeling down on myself because no one ever says that my body shape is attractive. I feel like I failed at being thin and failed at being curvy!
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Hi Poppy, I’m not trying to be negative, I think discussion about body image is great, I just feel at the moment on here we are talking about it constantly and I need a little break from it!
Never do I want our community to stop talking about it, full stop, I just feel at the moment I’m talking about it 2,3 times a week and for me, that is a little too much! I just need a little break, a few more stories like the flight attendance story or Bern Morley’s 10 things from a few months ago!
But, hey, if the readers want it, I’m not the publisher so it’s not my choice!
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whippersnapper…you got it in one.
Agree wholeheartedly that the discussion should never stop completely – I am just tired and bored to point where I am actively needing to stop myself from rolling my eyes if body/weight etc is even mentioned!
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I agree with you, it is repetitive. And frankly, boring. But that’s my problem, I know.
Maybe some women love to discuss their weight and bodies ad nauseam but my friends and I definitely don’t talk about these subjects as often as Mamamia does.
But I also know that many other women must be interested in reading articles about these topics, otherwise Mamamia wouldn’t continue to post them. So fair enough, but I think from now I’ll just check out the posts on different subjects. There’s something for everyone.
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Yes!!!!!
I just don’t think about my body this regularly and I am not feeling enlightened or inspired by these posts, I’m just bored. I love nothing more than reading a thought provoking post on MM but these love your body ones just don’t do it for me. Do other women really think about their weight and bodies this often???
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I agree with Whippersnapper as well. I think bodies can be an interesting topic – but maybe if we stopped talking about them so much, we would stop feeling the expectation that it’s something we should think about a lot? As a reflection on what people are talking about, as well on what people are thinking about, this site does seem to place a huge emphasis on body image. I feel that part of the problem women have in accepting their bodies is thinking about them so much. So even if the message is a positive one, it can actually have a negative impact, by becoming part of the wider noise: “body body body”.
I’ve come to the conclusion that the healthiest way for me to think about my body is to accept it and expect change.
It’s not about loving or hating it – that’s a bit too simplistic when you think about an entire lifetime’s worth of being inside something that can be ugly, beautiful, pregnant, sick, dying, wrinkled, bloody, strong, weak, etc. etc. etc.
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46 + people have ticked that theyre bored with the body posts. I agree – I had no hang ups about my body till all these posts started popping up about how much we should love our bodies.
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Acceptance of oneself is the ultimate liberation! For most of us it takes far too long to embrace and enjoy who we are. We waste so much time trying to be like ‘everyone else’ (except that most of those we’re trying to emulate are photoshopped beyond recognition anyway).
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OH MAN, NOW I WANT AN ESPRESSO MARTINI…
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Love this post. I have a LBD dress that makes me feel like a princess. It shows my curves in all the right ways. I wear it as often as I can!
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I’m not sure I understand the message behind this post…is this body acceptance? Because it seemed like she didn’t accept it totally before. Or is it about beating an eating disorder, as some of the comments seemed to have that kind of tone? Or is it about eating your way to curvy body and accepting it?
I don’t know if I’m reading it wrong, but I seem to be missing the point!
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Oh me too! I don’t understand. One minutes she loves her body, next she hates it, then the conclusion seems to say she just likes the dress.
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I think it’s about being happy. We run a whoooooooole lot of different posts on MM that are usually from contributors, personal stories relevant to them that we like to share. Your story will be different though! Each one will. Which, when you take them all as a whole, is precisely the point
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I think she’s demonstrating how it is an automatic assumption for most women that weight gain must be a bad thing (hence all the negative automatic thoughts that go through her head), but that when she actually looks at herself and sees herself for how she is, she realises she LIKES being bigger and that maybe that’s ok!!! Society always drills into us that losing weight is good and gaining weight is bad, to the point that we don’t consider that there could be an alternative. I think Kate expresses this beautifully and sets an example to other women!
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Kate – Your pictures are too cute. Also, please share with the rest of us ladies where you got this adorable dress (pretty please!).
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It’s so true that everyone has issues about what they look like but when you get an outfit that suits you just right you feel like a million dollars! Everyone should have a dress like this in the wardrobe
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i too am confused. probably because i have hit thisnmoment, but i was in recovery for an eating disorder – well, AM in recovery… as i don’t know if i will ever truly get over the self-loathing of it into total 100% acceptance…
Sure, I have days like this.. especially lately when i think of my body as a sexy mama’s boby with my baby growing inside me… then i still have days when i can’t bare to look in th emirror, let alone down at myself (am i the nly one in the world who actually thinks they look fatter when looking down one’s body, rather than inthe mirror)
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