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by STELLA YOUNG

I don’t know Scott Hamilton personally but that guy is really starting to burn my crumpets.

You’ve heard of him, I’m sure. He’s the one who said “The only disability in life is a bad attitude.” You know, that quote that’s plastered all over pictures of disabled people doing completely normal things and shared far and wide on social media.

Hamilton is a figure skater who has had cancer more than once and has survived after lots of treatment. Good for him. Although how it qualifies him to make such a bold sweeping statement about disability, I can’t quite grasp. I’ll get to that in a moment. Firstly, I want to address the images that his slogan so often accompanies.

Those images constitute what’s called inspiration porn.

Inspiration porn is an image of a person with a disability, often a kid, doing something completely ordinary – like playing, or talking, or running, or drawing a picture, or hitting a tennis ball – carrying a caption like “your excuse is invalid” or “before you quit, try”. Increasingly, they feature the Hamilton quote.

There’s the one pictured here. It’s of a little girl running on a set of prosthetic legs alongside Oscar Pistorius, also using similar prostheses. Those legs, for the record, cost upwards of $20,000 and are completely out of reach for most people with disabilities. The Hamilton quote is plastered across the photo.

And there’s another one of a little boy running on those same model legs with the caption, “Your excuse is invalid”. Yes, you can take a moment here to ponder the use of the word “invalid” in a disability context. Ahem.

Then there’s the one with the little girl with no hands drawing a picture holding the pencil in her mouth with the caption, “Before you quit. Try.”

I’d go on, but I might expunge the contents of my stomach.

Let me be clear about the intent of this inspiration porn; it’s there so that non-disabled people can put their worries into perspective. So they can go, “Oh well if that kid who doesn’t have any legs can smile while he’s having an awesome time, I should never, EVER feel bad about my life”. It’s there so that non-disabled people can look at us and think “well, it could be worse… I could be that person”.

In this way, these modified images exceptionalise and objectify those of us they claim to represent. It’s no coincidence that these genuinely adorable disabled kids in these images are never named: it doesn’t matter what their names are, they’re just there as objects of inspiration.

But using these images as feel-good tools, as “inspiration”, is based on an assumption that the people in them have terrible lives, and that it takes some extra kind of pluck or courage to live them.

For many of us, that is just not true.

When I was 15, a member of my local community approached my parents and told them she wanted to nominate me for some kind of community achievement award. My parents said, “Thanks, but there’s one glaring problem with that… she hasn’t actually achieved anything out of the ordinary.”Screen shot 2012 07 12 at 10.45.06 AM Im not here for your inspiration.

They were right. I went to school, I got good marks, I had a very low key after-school job, and I spent a lot of time watching Buffy the Vampire Slayer and Dawson’s Creek. I wasn’t feeding orphaned Chlamydia-infected baby koalas before school, or setting up a soup kitchen in the main street, or reading newspapers to the elderly at the local hospital. I was doing exactly the same things as my non-disabled friends. When my parents explained all this to the well-meaning nominator, they said “yes, but she’s just such an inspiration”.

And there’s the rub. My everyday life in which I do exactly the same things as everyone else should not inspire people, and yet I am constantly congratulated by strangers for simply existing. It happened twice last week.

I was on a train with my earphones shoved in my ears completely ignoring my fellow commuters (as is my want early in the morning) while reading inane things on twitter. A woman on her way to getting off at her stop patted me on the arm and said “I see you on the train every morning and I just wanted to say it’s great. You’re an inspiration to me.”

Should I have said “you too”? Because we were doing exactly the same thing; catching public transport to our respective places of employment. I was just doing it sitting down. Should I have pointed out that, in many ways, that requires less effort, not more?

That’s the thing about those kids in the inspiration porn pictures too – they’re not doing anything their peers don’t do. We all learn how to use the bodies we’re born with, or learn to use them in an adjusted state, whether those bodies are considered disabled or not. So that image of the kid drawing a picture with the pencil held in her mouth instead of her hand? That’s just the best way for her, in her body, to do it. For her, it’s normal.

I can’t help but wonder whether the source of this strange assumption that living our lives takes some particular kind of courage is the news media, an incredibly powerful tool in shaping the way we think about disability. Most journalists seem utterly incapable of writing or talking about a person with a disability without using phrases like “overcoming disability”, “brave”, “suffers from”, “defying the odds”, “wheelchair bound” or, my personal favourite, “inspirational”.

If we even begin to question the way we’re labelled, we slide immediately to the other end of the scale and become “bitter” and “ungrateful”. We fail to be what people expect.

Which brings us back to Scott Hamilton and his mantra. The statement “the only disability in life is a bad attitude” puts the responsibility for our oppression squarely at the feet, prosthetic or otherwise, of people with disabilities. It’s victim blaming. It says that we have complete control of the way disability impacts our lives. To that, I have one thing to say. Get stuffed.

By far the most disabling thing in my life is the physical environment. It dictates what I can and can’t do every day. But if Hamilton is to be believed, I should just be able to smile at an inaccessible entrance to a building long enough and it will magically turn into a ramp. I can make accessible toilets appear where none existed before, simply by radiating a positive attitude. I can simply turn that frown upside down in the face of a flight of stairs with no lift in sight. Problem solved, right?

I’m a natural optimist, but none of that has ever worked for me.

Inspiration porn shames people with disabilities. It says that if we fail to be happy, to smile and to live lives that make those around us feel good, it’s because we’re not trying hard enough. Our attitude is just not positive enough. It’s our fault. Not to mention what it means for people whose disabilities are not visible, like people with chronic or mental illness, who often battle the assumption that it’s all about attitude. And we’re not allowed to be angry and upset, because then we’d be “bad” disabled people. We wouldn’t be doing our very best to “overcome” our disabilities.

I suppose it doesn’t matter what inspiration porn says to us as people with disabilities. It’s not actually about us. Disability is complex. You can’t sum it up in a cute picture with a heart-warming quote. So next time you’re tempted to share that picture of an adorable kid with a disability to make your facebook friends feel good, just take a second to consider why you’re really clicking that button.

This piece was originally published on ABC Ramp Up.

Stella Young is a disability activist, comedian, knitter and the Editor of Ramp Up, the ABC’s online space for news, opinion and discussion of disability issues. You can follow her on twitter here.

Have you ever found yourself hearing the story of someone with disability and thought of them as inspirational? Do you think that counts as ‘inspiration porn’? Have you ever shared the type of pictures in this post on Facebook or by email? Will you do so again? 

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  1. Felicity

    Hi Stella,

    I love your writing. It is so fluid, insightful and a pleasure to read!

    I completely understand where you are coming from. Those images are SO patronizing to the poor person it portrays.

    I took from this that we should be “inspired” by someone not because they caught a train, but inspired because they did something incredible or have a wonderful talent, right? I am inspired by your writing, not that you are in a wheelchair!

    A good example is Carly Findlay. I LOVE her blog to death, she is so funny, sweet, fashionable and all around amazing. I admire her not for her Ichthyosis (which i can spell now!) but for the way she carries herself and the joy and kindness she exudes. She is a fantastic writer as well and has become so successful in her own right. On the flip side she has also written on her blog that her appearance has helped to shape her career and to give her a voice. It is her point of difference. Many of the comments on her blog are exactly what you are writing about — people say they are inspired by her and I imagine most of them are because they feel she has over-come what would be seen as an obstacle to many people. Perhaps that’s what people admire? Not that people with a disability are doing normal, every day crap it is that she is saying a big fat ‘F&$# You’ to her skin condition, embracing it and just jumping into this world head on! She is amazing because she is an amazing girl, not because of her disability but her amazing-ness has been shaped by it…

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  2. Anonymous

    I’m keenly aware of making things as normal as possible for one of my kids who has special needs. Whenever she achieves something which others take for granted internally it just about brings me to tears as I know how massively hard won that achievement might be (I am including simple things like learning to jump in this!). But externally I will basically say ‘great job! Well done!’ in just the same way you would praise any achievement by a child without going over the top.

    This story reminds me though of an experience I had as a child myself. I am somewhat ‘different’ myself but don’t think of myself at all that way, as the difficulties I have are just everyday life and really don’t impact me terribly much – I have my ‘tricks’ that make some things easier. When I was a kid though I remember being at a sports team end-of-year night and after the trophies like ‘best and fairest’ etc the coach started talking about the ‘coaches trophy’. In his lead up he was talking about someone and mentioned how this person had a disability in amongst the rest of the reasons he was running throuhh. Honest to goodness I was swivelling around in my chair thinking ‘wow, I didn’t know we had anyone on the team with a disability! I wonder who he is talking about?’. Imagine my shock when he then called my name out! I just didn’t think of myself that way at all.

    On these ‘inspiration porn’ though I am in two minds… . I have grown to dislike basically 99% of the’ inspiration’ pictures including the ones where there isn’t a disability in sight (you know, the ones where there is some guy abseiling off a cliff talking about how you can do anything you put your mind to etc). They all just make me feel guilty and lazy for not being a superwoman. This has nothing to do with disabilities or otherwise – I don’t like ANY of those posters anymore. I’m quite happy with my life thanks, and don’t want to feel guilty that I’m not hanging off skyscrapers one day, diving in the Galapagos Islands the next(whether I was completely able bodied or otherwise!)…! Is that just me?

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    • Faybian

      No, you’re not lazy. I haven’t done any of these things and now due to a bony defect in my skull (from brain surgery) I probably never will. Gee damnit!
      Don’t like inspiration porn either and like Stella I think most people disabled or not, try to live the best they can.

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  3. angie

    Well said Stella! I work with young children with disabilities and it pisses me off the way the media use language like ‘suffers from Down Syndrome’ to describe them. Did you ask their opinion as to whether they ‘suffer’? Most journos ‘suffer’ from a bad use of language in relation to people with disabilities! I have always hated these inspirational pictures, and could not clearly articulate why, though your piece really resonated with me. Thanks for writing it- THAT got shared on my Facebook page!

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    • procrastachook

      I did a stint in communications working in HIV/AIDS preventing. I was given very strict guidelines about the language I needed to use. Even though I have a shunt in my head myself, I hadn’t though much about this before. Referring to people as “sufferers” was out and also saying things like “He had HIV” . Instead, I had to say “he is living with HIV AIDS”. When I was subsequently diagnosed with a rampaging auto-immune disease where my muscles were attacking and destroying themselves before treatment, this language really helped. I vented in a story I wrote about my disease being an obsessed stalker who wouldn’t leave me alone. In the end, I set himself up with someone else on an internet dating site. I was just diagnosed in still in hospital when I wrote that and I still remember the laugh…that whole body laugh I had when I wrote that twist which helped to save my sanity. I am not my disease,condition, illness or whatever you call it. That distinction is super important to me and I am in the process of trying to educate my young kids about it too because they don’t always see the difference and take their understandable anger about the situation out on me.
      I should also mention I received a letter from a friend with anxiety today talking about all the things they can not do…all those everyday things. Just because someone isn’t is a wheelchair, it doesn’t mean that they can do the basic every day things either.

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  4. martina

    Stella you are an amazing writter, (like you didn’t know already) My partner is disabaled, and to be honest he is not an insparation to me because he is disabled, he is a man who at times can be a dickhead, like many, when he does inspire me it’s his drive and determation to get thing’s done ( we call it stubborn or pig-headed) I have never looked at anyone with a disability as any one other then a person, my uncle has a disibility and i think that has helped us to look at people for who they are not what they can or can’t do.
    I know my partner HATES when people want to talk to him about his disability and how good he is doing “with it”.
    Personally i forget all the time that he does have issues and can’t (or shouldn’t ) do things.
    Whenever i see those pictures i just want to cry, mostly because I’m a big old hen wanting a baby and i think let me hug you your so cute! lol.
    I do like the picture with the young boy and his collection of leg’s as it looks like my partners and i think omg you were so little and now your all grown up! I want a baby ,( hen again)

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  5. Anna

    Since having a baby and trying to get around the city with a pram, I’ve developed an entirely new level of respect for people in wheelchairs. Put bluntly, it’s a bloody nightmare and drives me nuts the one time a month I do it. I can’t imagine how frustrating life would be if that was me everyday, forever.

    It’s fantastic that disabled people feel they are doing things normally, whatever is normal for them. Knowing that isn’t going to stop me appreciating (to whatever small level I can) just how challenging it is for you to do what I totally take for granted. I would totally understand if you cracked it and had a meltdown because you missed a train while waiting for the lift. You should more often, maybe they’d speed the damn things up.

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  6. TKD

    I’ve always wondered if the people out there who are labelled as an ‘inspiration’ for the rest of us, whether it be through disability, illness, extreme hardship etc., actually want that title? I’m guessing that most would just prefer to be non-inspirational and just lead an ‘easier’ life instead.
    My niece is in a wheelchair as the result of a horrific car accident she was a backseat passenger in – people always tell her how brave and inspirational she is, and she does put on such a positive front. But I think it just puts pressure on her to always appear positive when some days, she actually just feels pissed off and miserable about it all. Using other people’s misfortunes and hardships as perspective for ourselves does seem…wrong.

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  7. neola

    I loathe those things (are they called memes? I’m so out of the loop…)

    I do agree with all you’ve said, Stella. And I love the attitude of your mum – it sounds like her reinforcing your ‘ordinariness’ might have been the reason you have now achieved lots of great, extraordinary things in your life, through your writing and campaigning.

    I have a disability which has affected me to varying degrees at different times – sometimes it’s been plainly visible, when I’ve needed a wheelchair or cane, or simply limped badly. When strangers want to talk to me about it, which is often, I do find it very confronting – I wonder why they want to know the details so badly and to be honest, I prefer not to talk about it.

    But I don’t really mind if they see me and feel grateful for their own, well-functioning bodies, in fact, I think everyone should be more grateful for their health.

    But then, I confess to being guilty of finding inspiration in people I know who have tougher battles than me. I often remind myself that I’m lucky my restrictions are purely physical and not neurological…I guess this is exploitation, too?

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  8. TVpitch

    You should have your own show! I’d much rather hear your world view than some of the idiots on tele at the moment.

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    • Cate

      She does, the rather excellent Without Limits on Channel 31

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  9. Renae

    Thanks for this, Stella.
    I can relate to what you said about mental illness… I have lost a lot of friends because I was so sick for a long time that I just couldn’t go anywhere or do anything. I was a constant disappointment because I just wasn’t working hard enough and I had a bad attitude… I got FLOODED with these pictures.
    Now that I’ve beat the worst of it (after 6 years of living like a zombie) and I’m living the most normal life I can (with my issues… It’s still not “normal” by a long chalk, but I have a LIFE again), my new friends find my struggle back to life inspirational. Admittedly, only people who know my story and how hard I work and how far I’ve come find me inspirational, because my disease is invisible to passing strangers – unless I’m having an episode or a panic attack and then they walk a mile to avoid me.

    I think anyone who works hard to do something extraordinary can be inspirational… Like a blind girl singing might not be that extraordinary (come on, her disability doesn’t affect her vocal chords), but if she was a great painter or visual artist THAT would be pretty extraordinary.
    I sometimes feel like I don’t get a lot of praise where I deserve it. People will compliment my singing voice, without even knowing that I am hearing impaired and how hard I had to work to learn sing well – but then again, that’s something I love to do, so it’s a joy, not a hardship, and maybe I don’t deserve any extra praise for how much harder I have to work.

    A paralympian who learns to run so fast he can beat a lot of able-bodied athletes is pretty inspirational… But so are the able bodied athletes who train hard to run so fast they can beat everyone in the world (but then again, they’re just doing their jobs, aren’t they?)

    It’s a toughie. Maybe it’s this whole concept of “inspiration” as it currently exists that needs work!

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    • procrastachook

      Hi Renae.
      You sound really lovely and I wish you all the best.I have an invisibility myself and it can very confusing knowing how to live with it. I think we all just need to develop our own benchmarks of what we can and can not do and somehow feel strong enough in ourselves to stand by that. I often feel like my mum is trying to stop me from doing stuff but I know she just wants to keep me safe and well for as long as she can. Best wishes

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  10. Lulu

    I don’t share these kinds of ‘inspiration’ pictures, and I’ve always felt I was maybe a cold-hearted bitch for being irritated by what I felt was exploitative nonsense. Thank you for an article which confirms that I might be right.

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  11. Brittany

    I absolutely hate the Facebook ‘porn’
    Makes me so angry. You don’t know these people what gives you the right to share that photo or make one.
    *you being the Facebook person.
    Great article thank you will be sharing this one.

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  12. KTT

    Really interesting reading. Only last week my toddler gal announced to a gentleman being pushed in a wheelchair that she was “too old for a stroller” but “I really like your stroller!”. I was fairly mortified at the time. But the guy laughed, told my daughter that his stroller is called a wheelchair and he needs it because his legs don’t work as good as hers. He briefly chatted to my EXREMELY nosey daughter. My daughter then told him “you are very nice. You come for a donut with us?”. While he kindly declined the offer, I think sometimes we need to live out lives through the eyes of a child and appreciate that while there may be physical differences in people we meet, they aren’t actually different.

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    • Haven Maven

      KTT you are bang on the money! My cherub blew me away this morning when she found out a friend of hers at vacation care is now at another one. I suggested to her that he was in a different centre these holidays as he is doing an autism support camp. Her response:’Oh he has autism? I just thought he was a bit full on!’

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  13. Stacey

    I hope I understand the sentiment but often those with disabilities just going about their daily live are inspiring. You can’t tell me what I’m allowed to be inspired by……I worked for a NFP org who advocates for children with disabilities and their families and sincerely to watch these beautiful kids struggle along with simple tasks did tug at the heart strings, their simple milestones were applauded and the kids would be so proud of themselves. I don’t want to feel guilty for admiring them just as I don’t want to look at the Scott Hamilton pic and feel anything other than joy at that little girl taking amazing steps…and they are amazing.

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    • Emmy

      I agree, I don’t really understand why it’s wrong to admire people who are achieving things – That pic for example, you could say “well that’s just two people running” – which of course they are, but what’s wrong with saying – those two people have overcome a challenge to allow them to run and that’s awesome? I don’t get it? I don’t think I look at those pictures and think, “thank god I’m not that person.” – I’ve never thought that was the point. I thought it was to celebrate achievements of people in our community…. weird

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      • Anon for this

        While I appreciate Stella’s viewpoint I agree with you both. I have a child with autism and severe developmental delay and I also worked with adults with disabilities for a long time before he came along. I do find these pictures encouraging and inspirational because they make me think about how bloody hard the people I’ve known have worked to be able to do what others take for granted, not to mention how much their parents, teachers, therapists, etc have given of themselves to support that person. It isn’t about pity or comparing your lot to theirs’ but (for me at least) it’s about celebrating what someone has achieved- and even encouraging me after a tough day to keep at it because my little guy might be able to do that too one day!

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        • Quokka

          I think the point Stella is trying to make is that the people you work with and your own child are not making these gains or going through these difficulties in an effort to gain approval from the world at large or be seen as inspirational. More likely, they are getting on with life as they know it.

          If you personally find that inspirational I feel that is not the same as the point Stalla is trying to make – but maybe I am misinterpretating her article.

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    • picardie.girl

      I think the point is that just going about their daily lives is often harder for people with disabilities but that is because the infrastructure isn’t set up to accommodate them – finding them inspiring for managing it puts the onus on them to cope with it, rather than for someone to change the environment to accommodate them better.

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  14. gh

    why does everything have to include the word “porn”

    I’m not a prude, but it annoys me for some reason.

    I like the article though.

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  15. Mich

    Hey Stella,

    I loved this article, I can clearly see what you mean. I had a few thoughts…

    I saw a show on the ABC last night about a paraplegic man who coached an AFL football team. His team had nothing but respect for him, on so many levels. He was an ordinary bloke doing an ordinary thing but he was inspirational.

    Also, I haven’t caught public transport for years but I admit that I might have had similar thoughts to the lady on the train. If you and I had been catching the same train for a while I might have eventually said a friendly hi and perhaps something similar, only because your disability is clear for all to see (unlike depression). I probably would have thought about – what I perceive to be – hardships in your life. I would have seen you as a stronger person than myself and therefore an inspiration. My approach would have been friendly and with good intention. But thinking about it now, after reading your article I can see what you mean, plus everyone knows people who talk on public transport are really annoying. I was always like you, head down, IPod (or walkman in those days) and reading :)

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  16. Anonymous

    I had a mortifying moment at the shops the other day that I think relates to this, the idea that being disabled makes you a better person more worthy of respect than anyone else.
    I was in a department store with my 4 year old and we were getting out of a lift. There was a man in a wheelchair waiting to get into the lift. My daughter ran out of the lift and blocked the man trying to get into the lift. It wasn’t on purpose and it was only for a couple of seconds. I PULLED HER BY THE HAIR OUT OF THE WAY. I was thinking something along the lines of ‘Oh god, she’s annoying someone in a wheelchair’. The shop only had 2 levels, even if he’d missed the lift it would have been back in a second. I felt so bad after doing it (my daughter scored bit time in the toy department that day) but at the time I just panicked. I worry about behaving the ‘right way’ around someone who has any kind of disability, I’m paranoid about saying something inappropriate or doing something offensive.

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    • Hayley

      uh oh, I really laughed at that one Anon – I hope that doesn’t mean I’m a terrible person…

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  17. Anon

    Well said. I work with high school students with special needs, and in the main, they see themselves as just like other teenagers, and want to be treated the same way. They have the same hopes and dreams, and just want to leave school and work. They don’t see themselves as inspirational in any way. It is time we stopped labelling people based on what we see, and just let them be themselves.

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  18. becsparrow

    Oh my God I love your writing, Stella. Yet again you’ve got me thinking.

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  19. Sharon @ Funken Wagnel

    Thank you so much for putting this perspective out there! Seeing these types of things really piss me off, and I couldn’t put my finger on why til I read your fantastic piece.

    I’ve worked out what it is in our case. My partner has severe mental illness. He’s improving all the time. He doesn’t work, but is on a disability pension and I’m his carer.

    We’ve had plenty of comments made to us such as, ‘if you’ve got two arms and two legs, there’s no excuse to be not working!’ These inspirational porn images always make me feel as though my man is perceived as ‘making excuses’ or having a ‘bad attitude’. He has a lot of lies that his mind is constantly telling him, and he works hard to constantly challenge them.

    This means he’s slowly becoming more able to do some ordinary things, but not others. These images really do just spark shame in people, not inspiration

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    • Laws for Clouds

      I have a child with autism, and a friend with a child with autism, CP and CF. The amount of times we’ve been told that we should be positive, that by having a bad day we’re letting our children down, that we’re giving them negative vibes…

      None of these conditions can be cured by having a positive attitude. And no one who has to live with it has a positive attitude *every single day*.

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      • Sharon @ Funken Wagnel

        Absolutely. Maybe we should make our own ‘inspiration porn’. I’m seeing photos of my man walking around outside, with the caption, ‘what’s your excuse?’ (among other things, he has mild agoraphobia) Because his disability can’t be seen, I’m guessing it’d not have the same impact.

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      • Quokka

        I am a psychologist who has worked with families and children with disabilities for 20 years and hate the emotional baggage put on parents and sibs of kids with disabilities to be superhuman.

        I was working on some skills with a child with autism in a shopping centre and gave a re-direction in a stern voice recently – a woman walked past gave me a glare and said “How dare you?!” I wanted to tell her that this young man needs to have these independance skills before leaving school when the support money runs out and pushing his way to the front of the line is unacceptable behaviour in a 15 year old. Any 15 year old!

        I had sent his mum off to get herself 20 minutes of free time – so glad she wasn’t there to witness me poke my tongue out at the back of the departing woman.

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    • Brittany

      Thank you for saying everything I can’t. My partner has a mental illness and we both get the feeling it’s something to be ashamed of because he doesn’t work ect tax payers dollers ect.we have had numerous problems because of this.

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      • Sharon @ Funken Wagnel

        People just don’t understand, do they? My partner misses working most of all, out of everything. He enrolled to study IT via correspondence at uni, but had to defer as the way his headspace is, he just couldn’t manage it. He will give it another go once he’s come further along.

        With mental illness, people don’t see the effforts they truly are making. All some people see is ‘not good enough’

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        • Bel

          I have a mental illness and am studying again after 2 failed attempts and one year off and constantly feel guilty that I don’t have a part time job or my licence and “taking” tax payers money….
          It also hurts when I’ve seen/heard people say that they would never date anyone crazy or with “issues” (let alone a full blown mental illness) cause I feel where do I fit in with that?
          I’m not crazy, just crazy awesome maybe lol jkz and I’m still a person, why would that not be good enough?

          Or when people say “don’t tell them you have mental illness” and I think why not? It doesn’t define me, but its still a part of me, one of many….

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          • Sharon @ Funken Wagnel

            There really is a lot of guilt involved, isn’t there?

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  20. Nora

    Ha I can so relate to this. I started helping out on interchange camps from the age of 16 which gave me such a great insight to people with diasbilities. Really, we’re all doing the best we can with what we’ve got. Nothing inspirational about that.

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  21. Emmanel

    Brilliant article. Well-written, thought provoking and unexpected.

    MM, more of these posts please, and less of the lowbrow, poorly written/quickly churned out and needlessly provocative ones.

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  22. FHB back from the dead

    It’s a double edged sword.

    People without disabilities do compare themselves to those who are differently able and they do sometimes need to put it all into perspective, but from what may come across as condescension often leads to empathy or sympathy to help.

    Most great able bodied folk who lend their time and support to causes would frequently feel happy to not swap places and that doesn’t make them bad or hypocritical, it makes them human.

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  23. Amee

    Not that I look at these kinds of pictures and think `Oh, I can never feel down again’, but I admit I’m guilty of thinking that they’re inspiring.
    Thank you Stella, you’ve given me perspective on this – I’ve never thought of it this way.
    Awesome piece.

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  24. J

    This is a good article. I have a disability that isn’t visible (sever heart lung issues) and have been through a lot in and out of hospitals my entire life. Sometimes when people learn this about me (its not something I generally shop around for the same reason) I get things like, “WOW YOURE SO BRAVE!” or… “You are so special, you are an amazing person!” … No, I didn’t just discover a cure for a disease, I am generally anti-social, apathetic and keep to myself. I’m not THAT amazing, certainly not as amazing as a lot of others that I’ve came in to contact with.

    However… I do have a great amount of respect for those who have disabilities be it mental or physical, or like me, chronic heart or medical health issues, who could very easily rest back on their laurels and do sweet FA. I especially have this respect when I physically abled people sit around on their ass without a job and a million excuses not to have one or who just waste their life away. I know for me, getting up and going to work is not always easy, some days my back aches (scoliocis) and if its a busy day, my single lung makes it very hard for me to run around my job without heaving and gasping for air at very short intervals. In those moments, I feel like I’m achieving something. And I get angry when my workmates joke about me being lazy, because they can’t see my illnesses thus to them it does not exist, but I have been alive for 29 yrs and still, I am trying to get used to my body.

    If you have an health that is deterioriating over time, then you constantly have to get used to things. I have been guilty in the past of looking to friends with other more serious illnesses and thinking “In perspective, I should be grateful that I don’t have to deal with that.” I’m not an idiot, I know disability regardless of the form is sometimes fighting an uphill battle. I don’t think someone is rude to assume that its hard, simply existing sometimes. I have been bullied mercilessly as a result of my disability and you can’t even truly ‘see’ mine, where as others you can, I have felt serious depression as a result of my disability. I have been outed out of my career of choice due to my disability, I have been treated like absolute shit at times because of my disability and it goes on and on…. so I think its okay for someone to recognise that despite what my body does, I am still getting on with things while others are not — of whom have no excuse not to be.

    That being said, I have a relatively happy life. And I think its counterproductive to tell someone to be happy that their life isn’t like mine or anyone elses with a disability, not because it is assuming my life is shit, but because its insensitive and stupid. Everyone deals with what is within their realm of understanding.

    I’m not amazing, I doubt I’m an inspiration, but I think if I can do it — if I can have a job in a fast-paced environment with an aching back, a heartrate of 160 all day long, theres little excuse for those who are able bodied… and if someone respects me for that, I have no issue.

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  25. SC

    Great post Stella!! I can now assume I’m not the only person who cringed everytime Rachael Leahcar from The Voice was referred to as an angel (usually followed by tears). Yes she can sing beautifully, yes she is blind – did the two HAVE to be constantly linked??

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    • Sara h

      Thank god you said that! I got hot wn for saying and thinking just that! Why couldnt she just be a singer? She wanted that yet brought it put every turn that she was blind and achieving so much….I think the winner also achieved nd over came

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  26. S

    Stella this is a really interesting and thought provoking piece. You make some very valid points in your article.

    On the other side of the equation is this: I am working for a not for profit organisation that deals with young people achieving exceptional things. The young people involved are from all walks of life – some are highly privileged, some are refugees, some are in juvenile justice centres and others have debilitating illnesses which mean a much reduced life expectancy, round the clock care and often need assistance with eating, speaking and basic functions.

    I feel that the knowledge of what these young people have achieved is empowering in itself. They are pushing themselves, reaching their goals, working within their community to achieve new things and are becoming ambassadors for people with their disability. Achieving these things is not something to sneer at. It is just as easy for anybody (I’m very guilty of this) to sit down, do nothing, say nothing and not push myself to develop, grow and do the amazing things I’m capable of.

    While I agree with the “inspiration porn” overload, I also think we need to continue to give credit to people where it is due and continue to help those who may require additional support, to feel empowered with the knowledge that they can achieve anything.

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    • Quokka

      I don’t believe Stella was sneering. The people that you work with do all of those things for reasons intrinsic to them.

      I have worked and lived in the field for 20 years and have yet work with a young person who says ” Today I am going to get through the day without intense emotional distress as an inspiration to a whole community of strangers!”

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  27. Anonymous

    Great piece, Stella. We’re all just doing what we have to to get by!

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  28. Cinnamon

    Great post Stella! I’ve had a few people on my Facebook put this photo up… You have given me a whole new perspective!

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  29. goose

    Great article and great food for thought. I’ve never been an “inspiration porn” sharer, but I have a few friends who are. Next time I see someone sharing one, I’ll send them your article!

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  30. AnotherMelB

    Thanks Stella, a great post – i’ve never been a massive fan of “inspirational porn” but your post made me think about this topic from a completely different perspective.

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  31. ess

    Brilliant piece and really well written argument. People posting those kind of pictures always made me feel uncomfortable but I couldn’t figure out why until now. Thanks.

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