
10-year-old Tume stands with her 22-year-old husband. He does not allow her to go to school, and she will likely soon be pregnant – sentencing her and her children to a lifetime of poverty. Credit: 2008 Assefa Amenu/CARE
by LAURA HILL
As a girl I dreamed of moving to the city, going to university, travelling the world, landing the perfect job and marrying Mr Right at a fairytale wedding. I had a scrapbook filled with cut-out wedding dresses from the newspaper and my best friend and I would spend hours flicking through second-hand bridal magazines from the hairdressers, while discussing who would be our bridesmaids.
While I was dreaming about arriving at the church in a Rolls Royce, millions of girls my age had little or no choice about when and who they would marry.
That was 15 years ago, and tragically the unjust practice of child marriage still happens today. In fact, every year 10 million girls are forced into marriage before their 18th birthday and in the time that it takes you to read this post 110 girls will have become child brides – often to men twice their age – condemning them to a life of poverty and injustice.
[To commemorate International Day of the Girl Child this year, photojournalist Stephanie Sinclair teamed up with National Geographic to create a series of photos depicting girls as young as five years old being married off to middle-aged men in countries like India, Yemen and Ethiopia. Take a look:

Faiz, 40 (left), and Ghulam (right), 11, sit in her home prior to their wedding in the rural Damarda Village, Afghanistan on September 11, 2005
All images from the Daily Mail.]
Aid agencies warn that child marriage is, without exception, the biggest challenge to girls’ development and it’s not only girls who suffer. Child marriage perpetuates poverty by cutting short a girl’s education and livelihood opportunities, keeping her poor. Alarmingly, if nothing is done to stop child marriage, 100 million girls will become child brides in the next decade.
The reasons for child marriage are complex and varied: poverty, cultural norms, lack of education and political will all play a part. In many families, girls are viewed as an economic burden, and marrying them is seen as a way to alleviate household financial stress and provide for their daughter’s future. Community customs around the role of women, the appropriate age of marriage and family honour can also put pressure on families to marry their young daughters.
Fifteen-year-old Nitu from Nepal was in sixth grade when one afternoon her father came home smiling from ear to ear and announced that she would be married in one month. Ignoring the devastated look on Nitu’s face he went on to add how good the groom’s family was to demand very little dowry. Poverty is a curse for many people living in the southern plains of Nepal. It is also one of the reasons families give their daughters to be married at an early age. Earlier marriages, mean lower dowries.
Boys are married young, too, but a far greater number of girls are affected and it has a more devastating impact on their lives. By forcing a girl into premature adulthood, early marriage thwarts her chances at education, endangers her health and cuts short her personal growth and development.
Girls who marry young have an increased chance of being poor and remaining poor. They are more likely to suffer domestic violence and they face a host of health risks such as higher rates of maternal and infant death, obstetric fistula, malnutrition and HIV infection.
Maternal health risks are particularly troubling as risk of death in pregnancy and childbirth for girls under the age of 15 is five times higher than for women in their 20s. And babies of child brides are 60 per cent more likely to die before their first birthday than babies of mothers over 19.

Tino was 9 years old when she married her dead sister’s husband, a man 26 years older than her. As is common practice in her Ethiopia, Tino inherited her sister’s husband and newborn child. Through CARE’s Healthy Unions program she and her husband receive counselling and support and Tino is enrolled in school for the first time in her life. Credit: 2008 Assefa Amenu/CARE
Rukmini was 16 when she married a man 10 years older than her from an upper-caste family. Her husband’s family wouldn’t accept Rukmini because she was from a poor family. Months later Rukmini became pregnant. At the same time her husband and his family started beating her. When she was due to have her baby, they reluctantly took her to hospital but her baby boy didn’t survive. Rukmini was discharged from hospital a few days later but never made it home. She was found unconscious in the school yard and died in hospital from post-childbirth complications.
Child marriage is common in South Asia and sub-Saharan Africa. In Niger, 75 per cent of girls are married before their 18th birthday and, 36 per cent are married by age 15. Sadly, only six per cent of girls in Niger receive a secondary education, despite it being well known that a girl’s level of education is the strongest predictor of the age she will marry. For instance, girls who complete secondary school are six times less likely to marry as children. In Mozambique, 60 per cent of girls with no education are married by 18, while only 10 per cent of girls with secondary schooling become child brides.
Stories like Nitu’s and Rukmini’s can be heard in every corner of the globe, even in countries where child marriage is illegal.
Half of all girls in India are married before age 18 even though it’s against the law.
Ending child marriage won’t happen by changing national laws alone. This global epidemic requires governments, local and religious leaders, communities and parents to recognise that child marriage is a human rights violation. It also requires increased political and financial investments in girls and support for already married-teenagers.
Momentum to end child marriage is building and grassroots programs exist. Worldwide, governments, communities and aid organisations are investing in girls and urging against child marriage. There are solutions. In Nepal, CARE worked with over 300,000 families from poor and socially excluded communities to reduce the practice of child marriage. As a result, the number of families willing to delay marriage of their daughters beyond their 18th birthday more than doubled from 40 to 90 per cent.
We can all play our part in encouraging change on a larger scale. Today is the first International Day of the Girl Child and it’s our chance to amplify the voices of the 25,000 girls who will become child brides today. Say ‘I don’t’ to child marriage by supporting aid agencies and community groups working at the grassroots, to draw international attention to the harms that child marriage can cause.
Through our action I hope that girls in developing countries, are able to be just that, girls – and have the time and space to do a little daydreaming, as I did, instead of being forced into marriage.
In Laura Hill’s job there’s never a dull moment. She is the Media Advisor at international aid organisation CARE Australia and gets to research, write and bring to light the issues that matter to women and girls in the 22 developing countries where CARE works. Follow her on Twitter here.







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This is not ‘marriage’ it is ownership, slavery, abuse and rape of little girls and teenagers.
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This is why my friends and I don’t celebrate International Women’s Day it’s a joke. A long time ago people married very young but the thing people forget was they didn’t live very long 40 would have been old age. Here’s a thought there is more slavery in the world today than in any other time in history we need to do something about that also.
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Very well written with deep emotions and understanding.
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Anonymous,t I have an Islamic female friend who thankfully is married to a wonderful Islamic man,the family moved to Sydney 3 years ago because she was pregnant with a girl she was so worried that her community would marry off her daughter while she was still a child and she couldn’t bare it,she was so concerned for her daughters safety that she even considered aborting the baby if she could not get asylum here so plz tell me again that Muslims/Islamics do not condone child brides
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thank you so much for this article, the images are just heart breaking, I am going immediatey to the CARE website to see how I can help..
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Lets not get hysterical folks.
Western culture continues to demonise cultures that dont abide by the western example of marriage.
Men were created to father children.
Women were created to give birth.
If teens are having sex with multiple partners whats the problem with them having sexual relations with adults be it male of female?
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They don’t have a choice in the matter. That’s the problem.
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And furthermore, I’m 30, and the thought of being forced to have sex with a 50 yr old man makes me feel hysterical.
But hey, I guess it all comes down to culture doesn’t it?
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Missed all those pics of pre-teens, huh? In western society, we put these men in jail for paedophilia.
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Unfortunately, the evil of child marriage is not the ickyness of the large age difference. The evils of child marriage are death in childbirth, the incidence of fistula, and the loss of the girls’ options in life. There are good reasons for modern governments to have laws that establish an age of consent. For a full description of the horrors of fistula go to: http://www.iheu.org/node/2994
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Oh Joseph, I’m picturing you now and it’s not pretty.
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Those western teens have made the choice,how many western children not teens do u see or hear about choosing to have sex,how many of those child brides teens or children made the choice to marry have sex (which by the way they prob have no idea what sex is) be a house wife and mother,not many I’m sure and I’m sure if I asked my 11 year old if she would like to do those things she would be disgusted,and I’m sure if u asked those child brides if they would rather go to school and be educated or be a child bride they would choose school.it is a horrible thing make a child have sex or be sent away from their parents at such a young age no matter what the family circumstances are.
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OMG this gets you to open up you eyes.Sad world we live in sometimes.
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Many of the asylum seekers coming by boat, (and by plane too, for all I know) are coming from Muslim countries and are possibly Muslim themselves. The Greens take the attitude that increasing the voting power of groups that approve of child marriage cannot do any harm in Australia. See the Greens policy statement on their website.
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Please note that the practice of child marriage is a cultural tradition and not a part of the Islamic religion. Yes many people in Australia (including Australians who were born here) are Muslim but that does not mean that they support the unethical practice of underage marriage of pedophilia
Also all Australian citizens, regardless of their origin get one vote, thats how democracy works. If you do not like this system then by all means support another style of government, you are free to do so. But thats how it works here.
Also I ask sincerely that you please refrain in future from making unfounded statements that support xenophobia and fear of the Islamic religion.
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Well said, anonymous!
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Anonymous : Where did you get the idea that child marriage is not Islamic? All the various sects of Islam agree that the Qur’an is the perfect word of God. Islam’s own historians acknowledge that the author of the Qur’an consummated his marriage to Ayesha when she was nine. Many present day Muslims are embarrassed by this history and do their best to recalculate Ayesha’s age, or reject it as a typographical error, but the Qur’an includes instructions for the divorce of girls “who have not yet menstruated.” However embarrassing it may be for 21st entry Muslims to admit, child marriage IS condoned by the Qur’an. See Sura 65, verse 4.
Have you actually READ the Qur’an? If not, you should stop accusing those who have, of making unfounded statements. The following is an example of a typical debate on the subject of child marriage in Islam.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RYGuLjSuVgU
klingschor.blogspot.com.au/2011/10/muhammad-islam-child-marriage.html
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Xenophobia: that’s the irrational fear of foreigners. That was Britain’s problem in 1938, wasn’t it? The British demonised Nazism because of their irrational fear. They should have been open to Nazi immigration and tolerant of Nazi beliefs, giving Nazi the right to vote and participate in choosing Britain’s lawmakers. They failed to appreciate that, by giving citizenship to Nazis, whose values were diametrically opposed to their own, they could diversify and enrich their own culture. Shame on them.
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I hope your kidding. Irrational fear of nazi’s WTF do you not understand history?
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I don’t give a fuck what these men believe. Even the most uneducated Western man knows pedophilia when he sees it and this practice is *exactly* that. What sort of degenerate culture still practices this sort of thing in 2012?
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I believe that ” it takes a village to raise a child” we all are responsible for child welfare even if you don’t have children. This is not a village raising a child this is a village abusing a child. Children being raped because that’s what it is, children having children. It’s just not fair and no amount of words could describe how sick I feel for them and selfishly thinking thank god I was born in this lucky country.
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Thanks for everyone’s feedback and contribution to the discussion around the global epidemic of child marriage. It’s energising to know that so many readers are outraged at how unjust child marriage is. This practice is just one of the issues that impact the human rights of women and girls globally, and while this was my first post for Mamamia, I do hope it’s not my last. Laura
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Laura, I’ve just looked at the CARE website and it’s not clear which program specifically works to try and end Child Marriage. Can you direct me to the right place? Thanks
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Hi Hayley,
CARE works in more than 80 countries and we have projects to help end child marriage in many of these including Nepal, Ethiopia, Afghanistan, Tanzania and Sierra Leone – to name a few. The CARE Australia website references CARE’s work in Nepal and Ethiopia https://www.care.org.au/International-Day-of-the-Girl and you can read more about CARE’s work on the US site – http://www.care.org/campaigns/childmarriage/index.asp. I hope this helps.
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http://answering-islam.org/Silas/childbrides.htm
The above website gives a lot of information about how religion plays a major role in child marriage. The Jewish custom was that girls could be married at 12 and boys at 13. Islam allows child marriage as the prophet Mohammed is said to have married Aisha at 6 yo and consummated the relationship when she was 9 years old. Some Islamic countries have outlawed child marriage but there is still a long way to go as proponents of child marriage can point to the Qu’ran, the life of Mohammed etc to support child marriage.
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They can also point to the British monarchy- Henry VIII’s grandmother was married off and fell pregnant when she was just 13.
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Islam is both a religion and a political ideology with its own legal system which allows child marriage. Sahih Muslim. Book of An-Nikah (The wedlock) Chapter 39 pg 57. 5133. Narrated Aísha that the Prophet (Mohammed) married her when she was six years old and he consummated his marriage when she was nineyears only, and then she remained with him for nine years ( ie till his death
The Ayatollah Khomeini married an 11year old following the prophet mohammed’s exampleand today some muslim countries make 9 years old the minimum age of marriage for girls
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Hello catherine. Just wanted to clarify something. Yes the prophet (peace be upon him) did marry Aisha at 6 and consummated the marriage at 9, however he was an exception because of his status (also Aisha was intelligent beyond her years and was somebody the prophet (pbuh) used to turn to for avice
). child marriage is actually discouraged in Islam. We are encouraged to marry somebody of similar age and to be of sound mind and understand the importance and seriousness of marriage which a child does not have the ability to do. Also what you need to understand is that there are dofferent sects of Islam like any other religion and some very small sects may have these cultural beliefs and implement them into their sect of islam but the major sect (sunni islam) does not allow this.
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Aleah, are you saying that it is ok for high status men to have sex with 9 year olds as long as they are intelligent nine year olds?
The website I linked to has quoted passages from the Qu’ran which indicate it accepts that Islamic men are marrying females who have not even menstruated yet.
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http://global-security-news.com/2011/10/24/saudi-arabia-and-why-child-marriage-is-allowed/
This website has a story about how Saudi Arabia allows child mariage because their legal system is based on Islamic Sharia Law and the Hadiths. It states that Sunni Muslim religious support child marriage
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In reply to Aleah, if my nine year old is mature and gets straight a’s at school, it is acceptable for her to have sex with a high ranking person? Your logic is questionable. Be the change you want to see in the world.
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i just donated $50 and have re-posted on my facebook page in hope my friends and family will do the same…
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Religion is also a contributing factor to child marriage. According to Wikipedia
“”Aisha was betrothed to Muhammad at the age of six and the marriage was consummated when she was nine years old”. The Qu”ran permits girls to be marriedto
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This happens in Australia. The Broadmeadows magistrates court in Melbourne has approved loads of child marriages. The one I know of personally was a 15 year old girl from overseas brought in to marry a man in his mid thirties.
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That is disgusting
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Suki,
Id like to learn more about your comment. Can you supply withhe informationplease, such as the date of the hearing and the magistrates name.Thanks
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I often think of Nujood – a very brave 10 years young Yemini girl who fought for and “won” a divorce.
http://www.glamour.com/inspired/women-of-the-year/2008/nujood-ali-and-shada-nasser
Unfortunately, Googling her just now to share her amazing story of hope with you didn’t turn out as I had dreamt for her…
http://digitaljournal.com/article/278338
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Thanks for providing the link, AlyssaKT. There just seems to be no end to to the misery these girls endure, despite their courageous efforts to be heard. Heartbreaking.
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My grandmother met my grandfather when she was 14 and he was 22. They were married when she just turned 15. She got pregnant and he went off to war and she had her first baby just before her 16th birthday.
They were married for over 60 years before my grandmother died and he held her hand when she died.
Is there a comparison? Does going to war make things different? Was it a different “time” so it could be defended?
I think the HUGE difference is that my grandfather resected,loved, cherished the ground my grandmother walked. He encouraged her to go back to school, to work and this was all amongst raising a number of kids.
When you go through these photos there is no love, there is no respect there is no chance for these girls.
That is the difference and that’s why this needs to stop.
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If she married him voluntarily then there is a huge difference. The child brides being talked about in the article are forced to marry.
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Agree. But women of all ages in these cultures are being forced to marry. That’s not necessarily an age issue.
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I have a HUGE issue with women being forced to marry, but a even bigger issue with children being forced to marry and suffering abuse while being married. In 2013 this should not be happening. Absolutely NO ifs or buts about it in my opinion!
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Thank you, MM, for running stories like these. My PhD research is in the field of international development and so many global issues are ignored by the mainstream media. I understand people tire of “poverty porn” and stories of famine, but there is so much more to poverty than starvation. As has been mentioned in the other comments, looking as these photos is hard. But we should all do it. We owe these girls that much. We need to look, to understand, and to help. If you can, consider making a donation. I think someone mentioned http://www.care.org.au & http://www.plan.org.au below. As someone who has seen the work of these and similar organisations first-hand, I can assure you that even a small donation goes a long way.
Keep up the good work, Laura! And more of these stories, MM!
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Wow, child abusing pedophiles are all these men are. Sickening.
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Firstly I’m going to say that I too condemn this practise, but I wish to put a few things into perspective (one of which is covered in the main article). Firstly remember that similar practises were widespread in western Europe only about 150 – 200 years ago. Even here in Australia you could have seen a 30 or 35 year old army officer marry a 16 year old girl from wealthy family. So firstly keep in mind that historically such practises were the norm in many parts of the world.
I’ll also ask for people to stop judging for a second and look at it from their view. As Laura has stated this can sometime be a cultural thing. No matter how disgusting it is to us, to them it’s as normal as getting up in the morning. There is the whole ‘marrying up’ ideal as well, as Laura also mentioned. In these cultures the sons can be put to work in the fields or wherever, and the girls are no more than another mouth to feed. Marrying them off can lead to less of a burden on the family, and from their perspective, marry to somewhere better. These are reasons why stopping this practise is going to be very difficult for anyone. It took the west many centuries to stop it through social and cultural evolution, people like Laura are trying to speed this evolution up. So in a nutshell I just ask to look at it from their perspective to better understand how to help. Laura I wish the best for you and the CARE team, and others also helping, in bringing about the much required social and cultural revolution to stop this disgusting practise.
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Very true Arokh, however I still think there is a big difference between a 16yr old and an 8yr old….
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I was just thinking if the parents of those “little girls” ( I still consider them as little) and their soon to be husbands have brains. I really have this desire to get them all out of that place but how??? Someone please tell me how. This is so upsetting
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But if the parents of these little girls were married the same way, as were their grandparents, and their sisters, their brothers, their neighbours- then it’s not about ‘not having brains’ – to them it’s the norm.
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This scares me to death, more so because I have a cousin who is now 12 and originally from Ethiopia. The thought that she could possibly be married by now if still living in Ethiopia makes my head spin! I just can’t fathom it.
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Hi Everyone
This is just such a confronting story. But we can do more than be confronted. We can act. Even if it’s just by donating $10 (if you can afford it).
If you’d like to make a donation to CARE Australia (where Laura works) click here: http://www.care.org.au/
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My heart bleeds for these poor little girls. Like anonymous below, I had to stop looking at the pictures. What is happening in them makes me both furious and so sad. It’s sick, and the practice of giving little girls to men to be used and abused needs to be stopped. Sadly, I can’t see it happening any time soon. I just can’t wrap my head around grown men thinking it’s ok to rape and abuse little girls.
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Thanks Laura for bringing this issue to light. I would love to know some practical ways we can say I don’t to child marriage and help end this abuse.
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The look on Ghulam’s face in the first pic makes me hope she has something up her sleeve. She’s giving him the same look I’d give my ex when I’d consider peeing on his toothbrush in silent defiance. I’m putting my money on this girl – maybe quite naively – to somehow break free of this horrific practice and going on to live a wonderful, free life.
The change CARE has already achieved is remarkable and I’ll be gladly supporting them from now on. Even one girl having to endure this is too many.
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This article left me absolutely heartbroken! I cannot fathom how this is still happening! I feel so incredibly blessed to have had an amazing childhood filled with nothing but love, care and support. It really makes you realise the simple things we take for granted…
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Thanks for this article. It made me read some articles about Australian cases:
http://www.theaustralian.com.au/news/features/the-wedding-vow-when-australian-girls-are-sold-into-marriage/story-e6frg8h6-1226264687995
http://www.dailytelegraph.com.au/news/child-brides-for-old-men/story-e6freuy9-1226187025252
Its heartbreaking to think of the live these girls are leading. We are so lucky here in Australia. Makes me want to hold all my children. Wish there is something i could do to help.
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Those pictures break my heart. I hope the international community can somehow stand against this.
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Calling this by name – CHILD ABUSE – would be a start.
Not all traditions are good and healthy and wise……..
These men should be doing jail time for their crimes but I fear the the corruption in those places will prevent that until women’s voices become louder and more authoritative.
We can expose this wicked practice from Australia – make sure it NEVER happens here and get this issue onto the world stage.
Let’s hope that these little girls will eventually be rescued – but I’m afraid it will need the co-operation of men to make it happen.
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All of us, the world over, who have daughters, are mothers. Surely, when our daughters feel pain, we feel it too? Does this feeling have boarders? It must. How on earth can a mother give her 8 year old daughter up to be married? Mothers – how can you? HOW?
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its probably not the mothers decision. the men run everything over there
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I love Australia.
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Allow me a ‘yeah but’ please. I know how much my partner loves our daughter – he is going to struggle to see her start going out with boys when she’s……20 (!) there is no way that he could sleep at night selling her off at 8, 10 or any time in childhood. How is it that these fathers *and* mothers can take such action? They don’t allow their daughters to be educated and then lament the daughters cost them money because they can’t support themselves, so finding an adult man willing to take his little girl from him is the best option?? This all comes back to seeing men as superior, in fact to seeing women as nothing more than chattels. No man or his submissive wife can love a chattel so it’s easy – clearly.
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If the mothers are Muslim, they would have likely have been married off at that age themselves. The prophet Mohammed is reported to have consummated his marriage toe to Aisha when she was 9. So if it is good enough for Mohammmed and permitted by the Qu’ran I dare say many of these people see child marriage as acceptable
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I can’t bring myself to read this or look at the pictures. It makes me sick. These men make me sick and their culture makes me sick.
I’m sorry for kicking political correctness to the curb but these animals and their primitive culture should be exterminated.
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Exterminated? That’s what Adolf Hitler said.
It makes me sick, too, but let’s work on making positive changes rather than exterminating large groups of people.
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Go back a couple of hundred years and my Anglo Saxon family tree is filled with young girls married off just as they began puberty. Hell, my grandmother married a 26 year old at 15.
Relatively speaking these people’s ‘primitive culture’ is only a little behind ours.
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Photo number 11 is unbelievable – “Police woman Malalai Kakar (back right) arrests Janan, 35, after he tried to kill his 15-year-old wife Jamila for angering him by fleeing her home to stay with her mother following years of abuse.”
I want to know what happened to him? And what happened to her?
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“Say ‘I don’t’ to child marriage by supporting aid agencies and community groups working at the grassroots, to draw international attention to the harms that child marriage can cause.”
Laura can you please direct us to some aid agencies you support?
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Hi Alex86. There’s plenty of great aid agencies working to put an end to the practice of child marriage. Here’s a few that you can research.
http://www.care.org.au/International-Day-of-the-Girl
http://www.plan.org.au
http://www.unicef.org.au
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Hi Alex86
There’s plenty of great aid agencies working with girls, men, women and village leaders to help end the practice of child marriage. Check out:
http://www.care.org.au/International-Day-of-the-Girl
http://www.plan.org.au
http://www.unicef.org.au
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Hi Alex
Laura works for CARE Australia http://www.care.org.au/
Bec xx
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Plan International runs the excellent “Because I Am A Girl” campaign. It’s a shame you guys didn’t run this 2 weeks ago to celebrate the inaugural International Day of the Girl Child.
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I can’t believe there are so many countries where paedophilia, child slavery and rape is institutionalised. And that parents give their daughters up for this… it’s infuriating and heartbreaking
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So horrific and unimaginable
. I so wish I could do something to help but what?
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Hi Elle,
One of the best ways to help end child marraige is to support the work of aid agencies like:
https://www.care.org.au/International-Day-of-the-Girl
http://www.plan.org.au
http://www.unicef.org.au
These agencies and many more are working hard to stop child marriage but can always do with more help.
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I feel so sick and saddened after reading this. I can’t understand how these men marry girls without even considering that they are just innocent children.
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A wonderful book that touches on child brides is Half the Sky by Nicholas Kristof and Sheryl WuDunn. One of their stories that I found inspirational was a study finding donations to subsidise the cost of girls uniforms and books was the most effective at keeping them in school longer and delaying marriage. Thank you for sharing, putting faces to stories really drives the message home.
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Hollie, the book has inspired a movement
http://www.halftheskymovement.org/
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