Rikki-Lee Lawrence is no stranger to the pressures of facing depression and anxiety as a young woman.
It all started at work in 2009, when Rikki-Lee had her first panic attack. In 2010 she was diagnosed with depression, which dramatically affected her work, family and social life.
“Now when I go out I’m always worrying when my next attack may be. Any situation where I am not in control is when my anxiety plays up”
Along with Rikki-Lee her mother has also suffered depression and anxiety for 17 years. “It was incredibly hard for me to tell my Mum, she felt it was somehow her fault.”
Rikki-Lee has been confronted with stigma and misconception after speaking out about her depression “It was really hard for people to understand as they always saw a happy person. That’s why campaigns such as Liptember, are incredibly important, helping raise mental health awareness and further educating people on these issues.”
While the vast majority of mental health practitioners now accept women and men have different mental health issues, there is still relatively little research around gender-specific mental health issues and very few education and training resources specially designed for health professionals caring for women experiencing mental health problems.
Spotting the signs of mental health problems or distress in your life is not easy. Many women are able to carry on their day-to-day lives and not reveal, even those closest to them, how they are feeling.
This may be because they want to seem strong, they don’t want to upset family and friends, they don’t want to admit to themselves let alone others that there is something wrong, or because they can’t identify in themselves why they are feeling so anxious, sad, angry or hopeless. Often, it’s because they feel they must be strong and cope for others. And of course, there is fear of the stigma of having a mental health problem.
Fortunately, most people now understand mental health problems, like other health problems, are not the ‘fault’ of the individual, and are not due to being ‘weak’, and most importantly it’s critical to detect mental health problems early before they cause major problems in a woman’s personal, social and school/occupational functioning. Effective treatments for mental health problems are available.
The most common mental illnesses experienced by women are depression, and anxiety, and one in three women will suffer depression or anxiety during their lifetime.
- Depression is commonly reported to be twice as common in women as in men, and occurs most frequently during and following pregnancy, and in mid-life, often associated with the menopause
- Anxiety is the most common mental health problem experienced by women; it may occur as the major problem or accompany other mental health problems particularly depression
- Deliberate self-harm is common in adolescents; more so in young women than young men. It is often associated with depression and/or substance abuse
- Eating disorders, both bulimia and anorexia nervosa, affect more women than men.
Whilst less frequent in women than in men, problems related to excessive alcohol use and illicit drug use should not be forgotten.

Liptember ambassador Kelly Landry
Often, more than one problem may occur together. Often the occurrence of anxiety and depression together is more common than either alone. Women with anxiety may ‘self-treat’ with alcohol, leading to the dual problem of anxiety and alcohol abuse.
Early identification and effective treatment are important. Generally, the first place to seek help is your general practitioner, who may then organise for further assessment and treatment with a psychologist or a psychiatrist. If you suspect that you, or someone close to you may have a mental health problem, seek advice from your GP.
Here are some tips to help you identify possible mental health issues in those around you.
Depression may be associated with: Low mood, irritability, can’t be bothered, trouble sleeping, poor appetite and weight loss, feeling like you can’t cope with/don’t do well at school or job and avoiding friends and social activities
Anxiety may manifest as: Intense worry or fears that get in the way of daily activities, feeling ‘wired’ or ‘like adrenaline rushing through the body’, feeling panicky, heart racing, trouble breathing or avoiding public or social situations, or feeling short of breath
Problems with drugs or alcohol: Increased use- frequency and/or amount, ‘needing’ a drink, drinking during the day or drinking alone
Visit www.liptember.com.au
All funds raised will be donated to Liptember’s beneficiaries: the Centre for Women’s Mental Health, which conducts research and training programs in women’s mental health, and Lifeline Australia, a 24 hour crisis support service connecting Australians with trained volunteers who can provide emotional support to anyone, anywhere, anytime.







Comments
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I think it is very brave to speak so openly about mental illness and the impact it can have on not only personal relationships but also work and family. I think a lot more awareness is needed around this issue, but also around tolerance. To expect understanding, is to give understanding in return. Unfortunately stigmatism, misconception and lack of understanding will continue in society until we actually take a moral stand to except everyone no matter the illness, race, association or personal choices they make for themselves
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I attended a Men’s Health conference earlier in the year that focused on men’s mental health and suicide which I found eye opening. Clyde Rathbone (former Australian Wallaby) spoke about his own battle with depression and was amazing. As a mother to 2 young boys, and as a woman who works in a male dominated industry I learnt so much that I can use in my everyday life. I think Mamamia readers would really appreciate a post about male depression and how to identify the signs that a male is contemplating suicide.
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Couldn’t agree more. I am very pro this campaign but I think young men particularly are a forgotten part of society
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I believe the campaign is not promoting women’s mental health is more important than mens, its highlighting the need for women and men to be treated separately. Men and women respond differently to mental health issues and currently the majority of mental health research and programs are conducted on male subjects and then applied to women. This has lead to many programs and prevention strategies missing the mark for women.
They’re certainly not saying one is more important than the other, its about identifying the differences and treating them accordingly.
There is also then gender specific mental health issues that need attention that are genuinely gender specific i.e.; Postnatal and Menopausal.
Great article Mamma Mia!
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Why the female focus, as if to imply women suffer worse. Different, ok, but the only reference to male depression is to point out that men have greater substance abuse. Forget the fact they kill themselves at a rate of 5:1.
What a missed opportunity to talk about depression in its totality, as most readers have husbands, sons etc. As usual, you make it sound like an issue women suffer much more from, which is a dangerous message to send, especially since men are less likely to talk or seek help.
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Agreed – I clicked on this because I was looking for insight on how men suffer depression, since I’m not one
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Thanks for highlighting this – it’s so easy to overlook. I was finally diagnosed w PND after 9 months of being in a fog and not enjoying life at all- I kept putting it down to everything else (not sleeping, baby’s health, stress about others etc). Once my baby started sleeping through, I’d run out of ‘reasons’ and the penny dropped. I checked out beyond blue’s website and could identify w every item on the PND checklist. I was surprised that this checklist was so ‘tame’, as all of those items on it felt so normal to me that I didn’t even think they were a big deal.
I’m now taking anti depressants, which have been very effective. They have allowed the fog to lift and I am now enjoying my kids again.
It can take a l
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Did I miss something? I don’t get how men and women experience depression differently. The signs that were mentioned and the information that many women carry on their daily lives and dont tend to tell anyone seems to be the same as what my husband experienced.
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Great piece. It’s very important that the stigma of depression/mental health is removed.
And so relieved to see that Kelly Landry finally reached out and got some help too.
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Male or female, depression sucks. We might experience it differently but at the end of the day it just plain sucks.
A friend of ours took his own life early this year, a complete shock to us who didn’t know he had been living with depression for many years. My husband found it particularly hard since he felt he should have known. I suppose it is probably quite a common thing for men to not share their experiences with others (feel free to correct me on that, it is just my assumption).
I have experienced depression myself and it has reared it’s ugly head again recently. I suppose a benefit of having had depression before is that I know I can seek help and it will get better whereas those who may not have had this success may fear that they will never feel ‘themselves’ again.
Reach out people. If you are worried about someone, ask them if they are REALLY ok, don’t just settle for an dismissive reply that everything is fine. Look after your loved ones
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Thanks for posting, Mamamia Team.
Honoured to be on your sight.
Please know that if you suffer from depression and anxiety there is help out there for you!
xox
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Good to see articles written about depression and anxiety. I suffer from panic attacks and anxiety and have been through depression in different stages in my life. It’s interesting that one in three women suffer depression and anxiety because one in three women also have experienced childhood sexual abuse which causes anxiety disorders and depression in their adult lives.
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Such a great informative article. Thanks MM – keep it coming!
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