Diets are out. Healthy eating is in. But when healthy eating becomes fanatical under the guise of “looking after yourself” there can be dire consequences. Mamamia contributor Rebecca Sparrow explains:
“A certain four-letter word has all but disappeared in Gen X circles. You know the one. The D-word. DIET.
Thinking women don’t diet anymore. Nope. We’re too clever for that. After all, diets (we’re finally learning) don’t work. So instead we cleanse. Detox. Fast. We go wheat-free, dairy-free, yeast-free. We’re no carb, zero caffeine, anti-alcohol. And baby, don’t get me started on sugar.
A lot of us are doing some of it. We’ve been diagnosed with celiac disease or as lactose-intolerant. Or sugar has become our crack and we’ve finally decided to curb the addiction. But an increasing number of professional women in their 30s are doing all of it. Eliminating all of it. All at once. These self-proclaimed “health food junkies” are rejecting numerous food groups and ingredients from their diet faster than you can say, “You’re a pain in the ass to have over to dinner”. But jokes aside, this fixation with healthy or “righteous” eating – dubbed Orthorexia Nervosa – can have dire consequences.
The UK’s Daily Mail reports
“Orthorexia was coined in 1997 by Californian doctor Steven Bratman in his book Health Food Junkies and means ‘correct appetite’ (from the Greek orthos for right and orexis for appetite). It is a fixation with eating ‘pure’ food that, far from doing you good, can become so extreme that it leads to malnutrition, chronic ill health and depression. Plenty of celebrities are secret long-term orthorexics, passing off their limited diet of sashimi or steamed broccoli as ‘getting in shape for a part’. But they’re not the only ones. Many of us have fallen into the same trap, believing that the more ‘bad’ foods we cut out, the healthier we’ll be. But it’s the start of a slippery slope.
And it doesn’t just stop at food — orthorexics are often gym bunnies, who’ll work out for two hours and then go for a ten-mile run. The grim truth is that this level of health obsession is a potentially dangerous form of self-control. And it’s increasingly prevalent.”
“It’s more difficult to spot than anorexia or bulimia because sufferers can simply insist that they’re ‘looking after themselves’, or ‘have a wheat intolerance’. But when the desire to be healthy moves from avoidance of junk food to a fear of perfectly healthy food groups such as dairy, carbs or wheat, it’s a warning sign of orthorexia.”
I’m hardly surprised orthorexia has sprung up. After all we’re bombarded with conflicting messages about healthy
eating: Eliminate sugar. Eat less carbs. Ditch the bread. Or at least the gluten. Dairy makes you bloated. Trade the white products for brown. Fruit is okay. No it’s not. Yes it is. Bananas are not your friend. And sister, step away from the chocolate. (Unless it’s dark. With a minimum of 70% cocoa. And was made by a small group of harmonica-playing monks who live in a cave on that mountain the Von Trapps hiked over in the closing credits of The Sound of Music.)
So where’s the line between a healthy diet and one that fails to give us the nutrients we need? Australian award-winning dietician and nutritionist Trudy Williams explains:
“With healthy eating comes a healthy trust in your body. If your brain is ruling every single food choice or you’re overly concerned and anxious about the quality of your next mouthful, then you need to relax. If you are not flexible enough to enjoy a meal or foods that have been prepared by others, or you spend a large part of your time sourcing and preparing your diet, then you’ve gone to the extreme!
Fanatically healthy eating habits are also incompatible with a healthy social life. You’ve got to weigh that up, not just the nutritional impact.
The pursuit of a pure healthy body through orthorexia may just backfire and wreck your health. Rather than adopting an unhealthy obsession with food choice, seek a more rational and achievable style of eating. Boost your fresh fruit and vegetables, choose wholegrains over white flour products and nuts over chocolate, but get rid of the obvious heavily processed and non-essential stuff (chocolate, lollies, alcohol, fast foods), and cook at home more often to feel instant benefits.”
It’s important to know that orthorexia is not a diagnosable illness – yet. Dieticians are classing it as an EDNOS – Eating Disorder Not Otherwise Specified.
That said, counsellor Julie Parker who specialises in body-image, self-esteem and eating disorders, says orthorexia can have very real consequences.
“Highly disordered eating such as the type displayed in orthorexia can be devastating to a person’s mental, emotional and physical health. It is a form of obsessive behaviour that is often coupled with low self-esteem, negative body image, depression and anxiety. While many people may see their consumption of entirely pure or healthy food as a positive thing, if it means they are not eating from all food groups and are obsessed about calories, portions and their weight, it is not a positive thing at all. It is a sign that person has a seriously disordered relationship with food that if not already, could be developing into a life threatening eating disorder.”
If you or someone you know has an eating disorder and you need help please contact The Butterfly Foundation. The Butterfly Foundation provides support for Australians who suffer from eating disorders and negative body image issues. They also provide support for their carers. They can be contacted through their website at http://www.thebutterflyfoundation.org.au/ or on (02) 9412 4499
Would you class yourself as orthorexic? Do you know someone who is? How has your relationship with food changed over the years? What have you eliminated from your diet?








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My friend has this and only eats certain fruits and vegetables and never anything more fatty than a nut, and nothing with excess sugar (i.e. a pineapple, a banana, etc). She exercises a lot, and looks healthy except for a few bulging veins which I’ve noticed of late. It’s worrying but she assures me she feels healthier and eats heaps, and apart from not being able to feed her anything that I eat if she comes over, well, what can I do?
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I know that a fixation on food is unhealthy and I am quite sick of being told that I should be exercising every day/eating more protein/cutting out sugar/toning my obliques and blah blah blah, but do we really need to diagnose everything? I think by establishing a medical term for an unhealthy obsession with health creates more of a problem than doing any good.
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I have coeliac disease. After suffering with lethargy, headaches, mouth ulcers and feeling like my head was stuffed with nought but cotton wool throughout my childhood and into my early 20s, I was told on April Fools’ Day in 2005 that what was ailing me was, in fact, coeliac disease. It’s an auto-immune condition where gluten, a protein found in wheat, barley, oats and rye is akin to pure toxin to the body.
I certainly didn’t choose to have it, and I would gratefully be rid of it in an instant. But I also didn’t realise how sick I was until I was well – and I wouldn’t change having been properly diagnosed for all the tea in Japan. It didn’t happen overnight, but within six months I was – and am – a new woman.
It frustrates me no end as I am not a fussy eater, I love food, I love flavours, I love trying new things (and I love travelling) – but the harsh reality for me (and for the other 1 in 100 Australians currently diagnosed as having coeliac disease) is that my food has to be gluten-free. If it is not, I open myself up to the joyful world of serious long-term health consequences: anaemia, osteoporosis, cancer, miscarriage, teeth and hair falling out. Not to mention the more immediate, off-with-the-fairies horribly disconnected floaty feeling. No thanks, if it’s all the same to you.
All that said, I totally agree with this article. I have mountains of empathy for people who are medically disgnosed with a food allergy, intolerance, or, like me, an auto-immune condition triggered by something in food (that said, I also admit to thinking that there is something funny going on with the sheer volume of people who seem to be “allergic” to certain things). But as for those who use such specialist diets to merely make themselves feel more virtuous, or as an excuse to be ridiculous about their food, or as a cover for their underlying psychological/body image issues – quite frankly, they can go jump. They simply make life trickier for those of us who actually require food to be prepared carefully in a certain way.
End rant.
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I can’t have gluten either, so I would like to extend a digital form of a big hug to you my co-gluten warrior! It saddens me so much to not be able to have bread. Walking past a bakery is torture. I call it bread porn.
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bloody hell, that was me in a nutshell during my teenage years! looking back, and having read about and been to several seminars on mental health and eating issues, i’ve realised that i was very very lucky to avoid going further into this sort of behaviour!
i wouldn’t say i had an eating disorder, but i definitely had disordered eating – no meat, no fried foods at all (cos they had too much fat) no cake, lollies, biscuits, ice cream, yoghurt (too much fat AND sugar) i pretty much lived on bread (wholegrain, never white! i wasn’t allowed to eat white bread!). apples, bananas and vegetables for nearly 3 years. whilst doing competitive long distance running, school, and the HSC in the last two of those years. surprise surprise, i ended up with severe anaemia and it took nearly two years of iron supplements and heavy red meat intake to get me back to normal levels, and i was pretty much constantly crook with the flu, glandular fever etc the whole time.
add to this the occassional binge-and-purge session during that time, combined with my thought-patterns about food – i’d go into severe anxiety if i was made to eat something that i didn’t want to and beat myself up about it for days afterwards – and i realise i was very lucky to avoid causing myself serious damage or illness.
now, i eat healthily – red and white meat, vegies, fruit, pasta, rice, wholgrain breads, milk, yoghurt, nuts, and occassional cake. but if i do eat anything fried or that was on my previous list of food nos, i don’t panic or get the feeling of anxiety and worthlessness that i used to.
for me, it was never about being thin – it was about having some form of control in my life, hence the anxiety when there were limited food options and i had to eat something i didn’t want to. gettin older and getting to make my own life decisions has definitely lessened those feelings!
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I saw a few episodes of Cook Yourself Thin and loved that they try to substitute less healthy ingredients for better for you foods to create everyday dishes that people love. Sure, the calories of the recipes are not as low as the Biggest Loser recipes, but I think it’s a good concept.
One of the presenters has written a baking book and substitues ingredients like butter for ground almonds and vegetables. As someone who is lactose intolerant I welcome new approaches to cooking favourite foods! I tried making the Cook Yourself Thin cupcakes which contained grated zucchini in place of butter and oil and no one could guess what the secret ingredient was, but they loved them.
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I can totally relate to this, blood type diets, no carb diets, dairy-free, gluten-free, additive-free, sugar-free… Some say no fruit or none of this vegetable or that… It all boils down to restrictive diets and obsession with food, none of which is healthy. I know a lot about nutrition, but the more i learn, the more confused i am.. :-/
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I have to admit to feeling concerned when I read this. Although I completely agree that there are many who have a tendency to be obsessive about their diet, I worry about distinguishing between those trying to be the healthiest they can be and the obsessed. I think it can be a grey area that’s all.
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That’s a very fair point, Peta. I probably haven’t stressed enough that orthorexia is about those whose habits become unhealthy and obsessive. If you are cutting out food groups and feel better — that’s fantastic! But if you are cutting out food groups and the result is that you have less energy and feel unwell PLUS you are doing extreme amounts of exercise – that’s a red flag that there’s perhaps there is a problem.
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Well said Bec, I couldn’t agree more!
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I am intolerant to dairy, wheat, gluten, sugar, yeast and amines. It has been an extremely tough road to finding staples that I can build a healthy diet around. I can’t understand why people would put themselves through that if they don’t need to!
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Thanks for the great article. So interesting and so true! I too don’t diet but do try to be health conscious. Recently I’ve experimented with giving up alcohol and sugar, and I’m tempted by the gluten-free craze that is around at the moment. I get a bit overwhelmed by trying to figure out exactly what a healthy diet is, add into that my quiet desire to be a bit thinner and I start to get a bit twitchy about it all. I’m realising I need to relax a bit; eat mainly whole, healthy food, treat myself occasionally, keep up the movement and then stop thinking about it; change my focus to more interesting, bigger stuff.
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Any good idea can be taken to extremes.A simple eating plan is to eat food that till recently was growing somewhere or moving around.Minimise processed sugary foods.Make water your main beverage. These are basic principals.It is not a religion. The fact that some people over do something does not make the basic concept wrong.
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Hmmm, I wonder if we fit into this category (by the definitions provided. I am in no way concerned about the decisions we’ve made regarding our eating choices)
We do not eat anything that has preservatives, colours, additives, flavours (even if it says ‘natural flavours’)
We do not add salt or sugar to our food
Our kids do not consume dairy, wheat, eggs, nuts until they are 2 years old then we try them in small doses.
Our kids have never tasted sugar – my mother once tried my son on juice and he spat it out. He prefers water or rice milk – in fact we all prefer water.
We eat loads of fresh fruit and veg.
We get our protein from a organic free range eggs, fish (from a short list low in mercury) and grass fed organic meat
We don’t eat processed meats
We eat minimal dairy products
We don’t eat processed or white carbs – we eat multigrain bread that I bake myself, or brown rice.
We eat a minimal amount of pre-packaged food
However, we are good dinner guests and will generally eat what we are served (though we will often pass on dessert or share a portion) and do still eat out/order in every now and then.
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Wow, that is amazing, good on you! I’ve tried very hard to eliminate food additives from our diet since reading ‘Additive Alert’ and hearing Cyndi O’Meara talk. At my daughter’s recent 6th birthday I provided only additive free home cooked food and no sugary treats, everyone had a great time and parents commented that their children were in a much better mood at the end of it than they usually are after parties. How old are your kids? What do they do when they go to parties? Food labelling is so sneaky, it’s wrong that they can list ‘strawberry flavour’ but not have to tell you the 47 laboratory made chemical that have gone into it which have absolutely nothing to do with strawberries!
Juice is terrible, I can’t believe people think it’s healthy, I heard a nutritionist refer to it as the waste product of fruit – so true.
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Freshly squeezed juice is healthy.
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Juice (freshly squeezed or not) is not as healthy as eating fruit. All the fiber is gone, much of the nutrients too. You’re left with sugar really.
I don’t put limits on how much fruit my kids eat – it’s always available to them (as well as vegetables) and they snack on them throughout the day and drink plenty of water.
A puree or smoothie on the other hand is healthier – cos you’re using the whole friut, not discarding the best bits.
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If you blend up vegies and fruit there are health benefits, of course the fibre is gone but it’s not bad for you.
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The sugar is actually not good for the teeth of little ones, nor adults. Regardless of what type of sugar it is. It will also make blood sugar unstable, leading to tantrums and tiredness.
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We use Chemical Maze – I have the book and the iPhone app
All our kids parties have food freshly made by me and no processed sugary foods. Cakes are made with apple sauce instead of sugar and decorated with fresh fruit. We make loads of our own dips that the kids all adore.
Other kids parties are tricky. We give them a low GI snack before hand if possible. They refuse juice/soft drinks anyway so that’s easy. If they want to try something, we always let them (depending on their allergies), but 99% of the time, they prefer the non-processed fresh food. They both have boundless energy and prefer to spend the party running around and playing anyway.
We don’t label the things we don’t eat as bad. I don’t think we’re giving them any unhealthy attitudes, I think the opposite actually. We’re teaching them what foods are good for them and we provide them in abundance in their daily lives and they actively (without being forced, EVER) make similar choices when they are out.
We don’t eat this way to lose weight. We eat this way because it is good for us, and I think that’s what our kids are learning too.
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My children were exposed to Macdonalds for the first time last year at a child’s party – they were quite horrified at the food and wouldn’t eat it. They are so used to home made organic chicken nuggets that when they tasted the Maccas ones they wouldn’t eat them. I hate the way people think of children’s party food as some sort of wonderful treat, when it is actually full of very suspect chemicals. I found a website the other day that sold food colouring that did not contain the bad ‘numbers’, do you know about these and are the actually ok?
A year ago I bought a Thermomix in the interests of healthy eating. From the way you cook it sounds like you might have one. I reckon the government should provide every household with one to promote healthy eating.
I’d love the recipe for an applesauce cake if you don’t mind sharing it. And thanks for the tip about Chemical Maze, I don’t have an iPhone but I’ll investigate the book.
(Sorry to bombard you with questions but I really admire your food philosophy and you seem to have lots of good info!)
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Hi ClaireC,
Ah, we’ve yet to go to a Maccas party. My kids wouldn’t know what to do with that food! People think we’re depriving them, I fail to understand how this is the case. My children are free to eat whatever food they want without judgment or argument from me. But they choose healthy food because they prefer it, isn’t that a good thing?
Can you give me a link for the food coloring? I bought an ‘organic’ box if food coloring a while ago, but still had numbers I won’t give ti my kids. We used it to make play doh instead!
I don’t have a thermomix but am very interested in them. I guess I cook they same way most people do but use fresh ingredients, lots of fresh herbs for flavor (and they’re great little immune boosters). Friends and family balk at the thought of my food, but then come over for a meal and realize healthy food still tastes damn good!
My apple sauce cake- for the kids 1st birthdays, their birthday cakes were gluten/dairy/egg free. I used orgran flour and egg replacer and rice milk. I experimented for months! In the end it turned that I could use a pound cake recipe and sub everything in and add an extra ‘egg’ of egg replacer and an extra 1/2 cup of rice milk. The apple sauce part us trickier. Buy the sweetest apples you can find, peel (reserve this) core and dice the apples finely. Add to a pot with the peel and add enough water to just cover the apples. Bring to boil then simmer gently until the apples can be mashed. Keep them on low heist while you mash (the peel has pectin in it which will help it thicken later) keep mashing and stirring over heat until it starts to thicken. Remove the peel and keep stirring until smooth. Depending on how finenyou cut the apples they may need to be blended. The amount you put into the cake depends on the sweetness if the apple so it might take some trial and error. I usually put about a cup in.
This gets much easier when you’re not using gluten free flour and egg replacer. Their 2nd birthdays I did a regular pound cake recipe with just the sugar sub with applesauce. You can do it with bananas too! We just find the apple taste a bit more subtle. Banana are easier – mash and add!
Hope that helps!
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Thanks for that very comprehensive answer! I will track down the food colour website and let you know. Queen (the brand of food colouring you find in the supermarket) has just brought out their pink and yellow food colours in a ‘no nasties’ form. You will find it alongside the regular ones.
I found additive free colouring on the http://www.hullabaloofood.com and http://www.sweetdesiresparties.com.au I can’t remember if this was where I saw them when I was looking a few months ago, but these look OK I think.
You would LOVE a Thermomix, I can’t rave about them enough, they are worth every cent. They are only sold through demos but if you go onto their website you will find a consultant near you who will come to your home. If you check out their website (just Google Thermomix) I think it either lists local consultants or you can call them. I was actually thinking of becoming a consultant but the idea of having to do demos in front of people isn’t really my thing.
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I’ll always be grateful to my dentist who told me never to give my children juice as it’s terrible for teeth.
They never developed a taste for it, we only ever drank water at the table, they took water to school.
As teens they drink it on occasion and my youngest drinks soft drink at parties but we never have it at home. They both still prefer water.
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At our kinder’s dental awareness session they showed us photographs of kinder aged children with rotten teeth from drinking too much juice. They also said that they don’t really like children having the old kinder staple of a box of sultanas any more as they are especially sticky and the sugar stays on their teeth all day.
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that’s pretty much our diet too, except being French, we have lots of cheese and milk. And also eggs and nuts.
The conflict with the NZ MIL over our diet, it’s sometimes a nightmare. white bread ham sandwiches w margarine and processed cheese, a slight sliver of lettuce occasionally, and maybe 2 tomatoes to share among 15 people. But plenty of home-made sugary fudge 3-4 times a day.
Today, the kids went to a birthday party. I made sure they gto there w a full stomach, and watched what happened at the food table. The 7 yo alternated w the chips and the lettuce used on the garnshes. The three yo ate lollies, muffins, chips. And then told me her stomach hurt. I asked why she thought this was. Her answer : because I ate too much junk food. She’s got it.
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Speaking as someone who suffered from Anorexia Nervosa this is all too similar!! Realistically this is exactly how mine started! “Eating healthy” then gradually cutting out food groups until ALL I was eating was an Apple a day! At my lowest weight I was 5ft 6 and 43kg. My periods had stopped for nearly 12 months
This was 10 years ago now, and I have beaten the disease… does this mean I don’t obsess over food? Not entirely… if I want a chocolate, I’ll have one! If I want camenbert, I’ll have it… but all in moderation! I eat extremely “healthy” most of the time, but I eat healthy because I eat all food groups!
I think people forget that if you cut out a food group for long enough eventually your body will crave it so much that you will binge and because you are starving your body of the nutrients it needs your metabolisim will slow down! I see people doing it all the time! “Cut the carbs” they say… and yes they drop alot of weight but eventually when they have carbs again the put twice the weight back on! When your body hits starvation mode it stores any “sugars, such as carbs, as fats” so when the body is starved again it will have the resources to survive!
10 years on, I am now a healthy 58kg and I eat everything I want “IN MODERATION” Life is too short you should be enjoying it!!
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Congratulations Steph! Recovery from an eating disorder is always possible but not easy. You have shared some great insights and information here. Brava!
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How lovely is Julie Parker? So understanding,helpful, tactful and caring. Well done mamamia on such a wonderful article and having such a valuable and insightful person involved.
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Thank you Love Food. I appreciate that and really like your online name. I love food too!
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OMG – someone with some sense!
Just because you don’t have annorixia or bulimia doesn’t mean you don’t have an eating disorder. Obsessing about food is a disorder all on its own. I had a flatmate once who aet the same 3 meals a day – eaxctly the same. Oh and too laxitives as well. Very unhealthy.
I was going to post this on the sugar post but never got around to it. I detoxed last year and was very impressed that I managed to get down to no sugar in my coffee and occasionaly a half a sugar in tea (when i need a sugar hit) and I have also readuced the amount of tea and coffee I have. All sounds great except I used to have a cup of tea after lunch and dinner as a snack or sugar hit. Now instead of having a cup of tea I actually want lollies or sugar! So I have repalced one sugar with another! I have only just figured it out. I have just amde myself a cup of tea instead or reaching for a sweet snack.
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I was doing the EXACT same thing. Am working at cutting down my cups of tea and only having 1/2 teaspoon of sugar in it.
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How about reaching for a piece of fruit to snack on instead? Dried fruit, handful of grapes, a banana, blueberries and greek yoghurt…
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The other day I met a vegan with coeliac disease.
I can’t imagine how he handles that without missing out on so many important food groups.
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I eat mostly gluten-free and mostly vegan. I’m pretty healthy and it’s easy once you get used to it (in fact, most vegans experience far more difficulty with people’s attitudes and comments than with obtaining and eating a balanced, tasty diet). You can get fibre from fruit and veg, protein from nuts, quinoa, legumes and tofu, iron from greens, calcium from greens and soy, plus there are supplements such as floradix…
There are also lots of vegan, gluten-free treats. Vegan cupcakes and cookies are very easy to get/make. There’s even vegan cheese.
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My mum has coeliac disease and I have been DNA tested and also have a relatively high chance of getting it. (She didn’t get symptoms until she was around 35) We always laugh together at the people who buy gluten-free foods thinking gluten is an unhealthy toxin like sugar…when really they’re eating crumbly bread for no reason. When a product is labelled ‘gluten-free’, that doesn’t make it healthy….just safe for coeliacs….
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Not that I would call sugar a unhealthy toxin either…bad example
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It’s perfectly possible to be intolerant to gluten without being coeliac. Also, the blood testing for coeliac is not accurate at all, so many are walking around with symptoms that can’t be diagnosed because of our naive reliance on blood tests.
The best test of all is a strict (including hidden gluten) 2 month gluten free diet and seeing how you react to it.
Gluten has also been linked to auto-immune disease, not just coeliac. So, it may certainly be considered a toxin.
I agree that many GF products are not healthy…can’t agree more on that. Highly processed and often full of sugar.
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Is anyone familiar with Cyndi O’Meara? I love her philosophy about food and health. She encourages people to eat ‘real food’ ie unprocessed, rather than worry about sugar, fat etc. Everything in moderation of course but she believes that food additives are responsible for a lot of health problems these days. She thinks we should eat like people used to eat a couple of generations ago when people didn’t use packet mixes full of additives, flavours, thickeners and colours. She is in her late 40s and has never taken any medication – not so much as a paracetemol, neither have her own children.
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She sounds great (thanks Claire C) totally in line with how I think about food…I’ll go and look her up now.
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I agree. It amazes me that some people baulk at eating a bit of homemade cake made with sugar/golden syrup and organic ingredients but will eat some awful fluorescent fat-free sugar-free thing with artificial sweetener. Aspartame is poison.
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I used to be strict no carbs after 3, limited sugar, exercise junkie, but since haveing a bub 16 mths ago I have relaxed and just had whatever my body tells me it wants ( usually a bigger brekky, small lunch and good mix of carbs and prtein with veg for dinner), plus choccy and wine, and I now weigh less than i did before I got pregnant!! I think your body lets you know what it needs or doesnt, and if u deprieve it for to long, eventually u will succumb at an alarming rate. I love food, drink, and my coffee and choccy, and i will never be 50 kilos again, but i can live with being 69 kilos, a healthy size 12/14 and happy in my life.
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I have been gluten intolerant for a number of years now and it’s only been in the last 12 months that I have actually been able to eat completely gluten free! My old go to food was anything from a bakery.
My go to food now is anything that has a lot of sugar in it! (I have been known to eat meringue mix…with a spoon. Last night it was delicious)!
Last Nov I gave up snacking and sugar. It was fantastic, I ate well from all the food groups but it was always healthy. I felt fantastic! Then the sugar addiction crept back in again…
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I don’t eat meat, dairy or sugar *hangs head in shame*
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Lana – how to do you get your calcium intake if you don’t eat diary?
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I dont eat dairy but I get plenty of calcium through rice milk, chia seeds, nut butters, almonds etc
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Dairy is actually not a very good source of calcium. You are much better off eating some broccoli!
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I didn’t know that. That’s really interesting to learn.
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I am quite badly lactose intolerant (I know this sounds a little lame on this post) so I take Caltrate. Seems to do the trick. *holds thumbs and hopes*
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If you feel well, have energy and are still eating hearty vego meals then I’m sure it’s fine. (Or are you also running 15km a day? If yes, I’m dobbing on you to Julie Parker! xxxx)
PS Good point about the calcium, though …
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I think this should be fine – as long as you don’t go mental about the sugar thing. I’m vege too and am cutting down on my dairy intake for a number of reasons. There are heaps of substitutes – I love rice milk too. Don’t feel bad Lana, do what you need to do. =)
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Lactose intolerance is actually really common. Humans are the only species that eats dairy beyond infancy and something like 60% of the global population is lactose intolerant. It tends to go by racial groupings, so the majority of people of Northern European descent can process dairy, but the majority of people with Asian, African and Native American backgrounds cannot.
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I am male, over sixty and weigh only 68kg and slim but have a litte ‘pot’ that always measures 90cm. I think it should be around 84cm. I bushwalk, eat well, but of course with a few treats, and use a treadmill 30 mins a day and a weight lifting machine three days a week. I don’t think exercise gets rid of tummy fat! I think if I cut out the treats and eat less that will be the answer. Or is it the daily stubby of Cooper’s Sparkling Ale I have around this time of day?
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yep, you can’t spot reduce. but the best trick for losing a tummy is too look at all in the food or drink you put in your body and perhaps reducing the bad stuff there.
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I was afraid someone would say that lol
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Great post Bec – and long overdue!
Having worked with the delightful Trudy Williams for a number of years (and with complete faith in her skills and professional opinions!) I am very relieved to read an article which makes SO much sense (as all of yours do!).
That said, I have a body which (as you well know) doesn’t work very well and sure as hell hasn’t read any of the manuals on what a healthy, balanced body should do/eat! But if I (with barely a digestive tract left to speak of) am still trying to eat my share from most of the basic food groups, then I reckon anyone can/should unless a doctor specifically tells them otherwise!
If I had a dollar for ever person I’ve met in my lifetime who “doesn’t eat wheat; can’t tolerate milk; etc etc” I’d be a mega-rich woman! If only it were that simple to solve so many of life’s ails!
Balance – that’s what it’s all about isn’t it? Everything in moderation? And when/if we all work out how to achieve that happy medium, can someone let me know?
Love ya work Bec!
Big Al xx
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I go through stages of being really good with my food, I have always had lactose intolerance and after gene testing confirmed I had the gene for coeliac disease a low gluten diet was recommended by my Gastroenterologist. That said I have had a fraught relationship with food since puberty.
Now when I am being good I eat a low carb, low gluten, lactose free, low GI and no sugar diet. But then I fall apart and weaken and then I can range from severely restricting my intake for a couple days (my family always joked that I didn’t have the self discipline to be anorexic), to binging in secret – always on the foods that I publicly shun.
I have identified that it is when I have some modicum of self respect left I purge because there is part of me that thinks I don’t deserve to be ‘damaged’ by the excess kilojoules.
If I am feeling particularly down then I binge but don’t throw up – because I am a repulsive person.
What I really struggle with is the rush I get from eating high GI carbs. I liken it to getting an injection of morphine – you feel it rush through you. This is the same feeling I get if I eat something like mashed potato on white bread with tomato sauce. After restricting my food for a few days, I can literally feel the rush of blood sugar through me – it is for all intents and purposes ‘a high’ which I then feel compelled to chase. How not to do this?
It is an exhausting and expensive space to be in…
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My oldest friend has bipolar.
She has always been complicated about food, but for the last 12 months, she has only eaten raw food, no meat, no dairy, no carbs. She says that this has allowed to her completely cease her meds, and so far, touch wood, no episodes, and she says she has lots of energy, in spite of also breastfeeding. Myu gut feeling says that she is malnourishing herself, I think this regime is too strict.
It’s kindda interesting watching the dymanics at her house, with her and hubby having a water and banana smoothy for dinner and the kids a hot meal. I wonder what goes through the kids’ minds when they see their parents’ meals.
I was recently amused to hear my friend say that she’s now having sandwiches at work because otherwise she would be spending the whole time on the loo.
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wow – amazing that you can have this article on here when, what, a week ago there was one endorsing giving up sugar in many things….I know this is more of a ‘magazine style’ blog than a personal blog now but the contradicition… one day ‘give it up’ the next ‘ if you give it up it will cause an ed’ – but then again magazines are often the same -an article on how bad diets are for you next to a page filled with skinny models, or two pages later how to drop 5 kilos for summer….So I suppose instead of getting angry at the contradiction I sould just take this blog as a magazine.
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To me it’s more about giving people an opportunity to talk about their experiences/provoking discussion rather than ‘endorsing’ anything.
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Hi Anon
That’s a gross misrepresentation of what we’re talking about. Many of us (me included) eat waaaaay too much sugar. Some people eat waaaay too many carbs. Orthorexics are people who are eliminating NUMEROUS food groups while also doing excessive exercise.
There is no contradiction happening.
At no point does it say in my post that “if you give up sugar it will cause an eating disorder”.
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It’s not amazing really, is it?
I don’t see it as a contradiction.
I see it as an exploration of many different ideas, presented by many different people. It keeps the site interesting!
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I actually think that was the point. There were quite a few people on that post saying ‘oh FFS just eat everything in moderation’ and so Mia let them have their say to provide some balance.
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I quit caffeine recently, because it was making me sick, and I do feel so much better for getting it out of my life (when I say I quit caffeine, I stopped drinking caffeinated drinks. I still eat chocolate)
I could never cut out an entire food group. For me, when I quit caffeine, it was with the view that it’s a drug, not a food, and I’m okay with that. I would never cut out sugar completely, either. I enjoy it.
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Oh! I feel so rude! I got my choccie from MamaMia today, thanks so much!
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I have a hormone imbalance caused by stress and a reaction to the synthetic hormone that was used in my contraception. Because my body is so out of balance it has caused candida to thrive in my system and thrown my thyroid out of whack. This has all been medically diagnosed and corroborated by alternative health practitioners. Because I am reluctant to introduce more synthetic medicine into my already taxed body, I have gone on a recommended diet to rid my body of the candida (which is not showing up as thrush by the way) and balance out the hormones.
This has meant that I do not eat dairy (of which I have been intolerant my whole life anyway) or gluten or sugar because candida thrives on all of those. I also dont have caffeine because I used to have it in the form of energy drinks and they are of course full of sugar. Nor do I have processed foods or sauces as they will usually contain milk solids or gluten or sugar.
This diet is intended to last 8-10 weeks.
Yesterday was a typical day’s eating for me: scrambled egg (with rice milk) with smoked salmon for breakfast, lunch was a salad with chick peas and avocado with a cold boiled egg in it and homemade hummos as a dressing. Dinner was similar salad with grilled chicken breast.
I feel amazing. So much energy. Not at all hungry. People are commenting on how good I look.
So is this orthorexia or disordered eating?
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Hi Chrissy – It’s neither. As you have mentioned you have some medical issues at the moment and you have been advised to follow a certain eating pattern to assist with this. Hopefully it won’t be forever as it sounds limiting – but if it’s making you feel good right now – great!
Someone with orthorexia or highly disordered eating does not feel good. They have a tortured relationship with food and the feelings they have about their body. That doesn’t sound like you at all.
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Great that you’re eating healthily (high GI/ high caffeine foods can make you feel terrible), and if you’re lactose intolerant, that’s great that you have cut it out now. Those two things will probably be a great healthy step for you. Everything in moderation. Being conscious about your health is different to ‘disordered eating’. ( And I agree, the OCP has some yucky side effects for some people.)
But… Candida causing your thyroid to go ‘out of whack’ is a pretty strange diagnosis. The guy who came up with it in 1983 William Crook doesn’t really have much evidence to back it up. I think its dangerous for alternative health practitioners to being diagnosing ‘thyroid conditions’ or ‘candida allergies’. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not against alternative and complementary therapies- but just like ‘Western medicine’ they should have good evidence. And the risks and benefits need to be explained.
See: http://www.quackwatch.com/01QuackeryRelatedTopics/candida.html
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Cheers for that link. To clarify though, my thyroid being out of whack is actually linked to the hormone imbalance (brought about from the Mirena IUD). The candida was another thing supposedly picked up. I have had thrush for the first time in 10 years but do not currently have it, nor do I have some of the symptoms attributed to candidasis but I certainly feel better having cut out the gluten so I will see how long I can persist
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Sounds like my diet and Candida has been thrown around in my diagnosis. Good luck!
ps. I’ve discovered quinoa as a protein-rich seed which I’m boiling and refirgerating and using in rice porridge with rice milk in the morning. A diff way to get protein for breakky :OD
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I love quinoa and I forgot about its breaky use. Yummo. Give me some more options
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*gives* me some more options. that typo made it sound like I was demanding you tell me more!
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I believe my sister has Orthorexia Nervosa. She has always had big issues with control and needing to control everything in her life. She suffered from bulimia years ago but thankfully stopped before it damaged her health too badly. When my niece was born 3 years ago, she suffered from undiagnosed postnatal depression which she refused to accept she had and instead blamed the hormonal imbalances for contributing to a large array of food “intolerances”. In order to treat herself for these perceived intolerances she gave up sugar, alcohol, caffeine, grains in all forms, fruit, dairy, yeast and probably several other foods that I can’t bring to mind right now. When we, her family, expressed concern about her body’s capability to breastfeed and have enough fuel to survive – on vegetables, meat, coconut products and olive oil alone – she first told us to mind our own business but eventually started to take vitamin supplements to replace nutrients she wasn’t getting from her food. Her mental health improved almost immediately due to the fact that her life was now back under her strict control but we worried and continue to worry about the long term affects of such a strict diet. My other sister and my mum and I have all tried at various times to persuade her to start including other food groups in her diet, especially grains, but she has reacted so badly to our interference that we have now stopped mentioning it at all. We would rather have her and our niece in our lives so we ignore her eating issues. It’s hard though. We love her and want her to be happy and healthy. We just hope that the large variety of supplements she’s taking go some way toward keeping her internal organs healthy. One thing we’ve all learned in the last 3 years is that eating disorders come in many different guises and are only a symptom of underlying mental health issues…
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I think I have an obsessive personality. The times in my life that my weight has been anything close to healthy has coincided with me replacing eating obsession with an exercise obsession, I hope this time I can get the scales just right this time enough exercise *and* the right amount of food.
I feel like I have finally ‘got it’, but having read the above article, will have to watch I don’t become moderately orthorexic. I feel like I might have ‘trigger foods’ that I wont have the self control to eat in moderation, so am avoiding. The number 1 being pasta. Having only ever eaten pasta as the star of the meal, the idea of having a small bowlful just isn’t sitting well with me. Some of my favourite dishes involve pasta, and having small children and a hearty-eater partner I really can’t stay away from it forever….unless I give them pasta and I have none, hardly ideal.
I’ve also cut back a huge amount on my dairy. I have 1% or no fat milk a couple of times a week with my cereal, and a couple of times a week I have some low fat cheese, but I am sure this is not enough dairy.
I am getting healthier, losing weight at about the right rate, making healthier choices, but feel like I still have a long way to go to get the balance right – I think the scales have swung too far the other way right now…{sigh}…and my portion sizes are still a work in progress.
I wonder, will I EVER get it right?
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MBK’s Mum – Do hang in there. I am sure you will find a balance. The key word you mention here is ‘obsession’ though, which is entirely related to your thinking and emotions.
I would suggest that your obsessive thinking and emotions are the reason you are finding it hard to get things ‘right’ – or balanced, with you feeling great at the same time.
I would encourage you to think about going to talk to a counsellor or someone about how you feel as it may really help you to understand why you feel this way and how it can be lessened so your relationship with food is a more nurturing one. I believe you will get it ‘right’ if you explore things for yourself in this way. I wish you all the best.
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Thank you Julie. I would really like to get to a stage in my life where my health isn’t something I have to think SO much about, I’d love to be able to eat like ‘normal’ people, you know, mostly healthy, generally low fat, low salt, but being able to indulge now and then knowing full well the next meal will be another ‘normal’ healthy meal!
I think you are very right, that I do need to get some help with this – now this is going to sound like a really stupid question, but where on earth do I start to look for someone qualified to help with this particular issue? Go to me GP for a referral?
Really appreciate your advice, I feel more and more confident that I can overcome my ‘issues’.
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It’s not a stupid question at all! You don’t need a referral from your GP to see a counsellor/psychologist but depending upon other life issues/circumstances it may be a good idea to go through them because you might be able to receive some Medicare rebatable sessions.
It can be all a little confusing so if you would like to email me at julie@beautifulyoubyjulie.com I can gladly help with a path. It will be helpful to me if you could let me know what state you are in too. Happy to help.
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That is such a generous offer thank you Julie. It is indeed all a little over my head.
Email sent most promptly!
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I’ve been bulimic since I was 13 or 14 (I’m 31 now) and while I would almost hesitate to call myself that sometimes now, due to the vast improvement in my behaviour, I’m most certainly orthorexic. I briefly tried anorexia and found it unsuitable in teh sense that it drew attention to me that I didn’t want (thinking of a 14 year old girl who was intensely secretive and self destructive) I am ALWAYS trying to lose weight ( I am by no means overweight and am “normal” in terms of BMI) but since I got clean 4 years ago, my food/eating battles have moved back ot the forefront. Funnily enough, I put on weight when I stopped taking drugs
and while I was just damn grateful to be free of the mental/emotional/spiritual pain of active addiction for a long time, i’m now back at the place where my mechanism to “control” my feelings – or give me a sense of control where there is none – is food and eating. i have had to exert enormous willpower lately in order to restrain myself from throwing up after meals – normal meals – and i’m consciously reducing my food intake and planning ahead for potential “issues” eg social occasions. Plus my financial situation isn’t great so that gives me another reason to “ration” food
. I do make a concerted effort to eat healthily, as I’m well aware that my body needs fuel etc but I still struggle everyday with what I do and don’t put in my mouth, or keep in my body.
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Hey Julie I have a question:
How did you stop from getting into that obsessive mindset when you DO need to lose weight and be healthier?
I am overweight and really do need to lose weight and get healthy, but I really struggle with the mental stuff. I am an emotional eater, and I’ve been reading books about emotional eating that I’m finding quite helpful, but as soon as I try and do a food diary, or plan my meals, I start obsessing and worrying about food and it’s not enjoyable at all.
Maybe that’s too vague a question sorry, but any suggestions?
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Not vague, bloody good question. How do you keep between the extremes of food nazi and blind emotional eating?
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Hi Bookworm. Not a vague question at all!
You have already identified that you are an emotional eater and you certainly aren’t alone in that boat. Based on the fact you are saying that you already know some of the things you may need to do, but your thinking/emotions are getting in the way, I would suggest that the reason you are struggling to lose weight is not because you need another food diary or meal plan, but rather someone to talk with to help you understand why food is bringing up these feelings for you.
I think another important thing to ask yourself or investigate further is why you want to lose weight. You say you need to lose weight to be healthier, but are you measuring your health solely based on what you weigh? Your overall health is about much more than what the scale says and is actually related more to your fitness level and things such as blood pressure and cholestoral.
Just something to keep in mind as I have seen so many people who come to talk to me hell bent on the fact they need to lose weight for ‘health’ reasons, but when it is unpacked a little it is actually more to do with how they feel about the way they look. This in turn means the ‘real’ issue is one of self esteem and body confidence. It doesn’t mean of course that someone cannot choose to lose weight as well if they want to, and it’s not destructive to them, but without adressing that core issue first – nothing will work long term.
I would genuinely say throw away the diaries and plans for the meantime (if not forever) because clearly it is not working for you. So many people have difficult and draining relationships with food – it’s ok to go and talk to someone to see what’s really happening for you. I wish you all the best!
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Thanks for your answer Julie.
I’d say I have both reasons, health and self-esteem.
I have health issues stemming from the weight, like sleep apnoea and heartburn, and sore feet all the time, and I’m not as active with my children as I’d like. So I want to improve that- be fitter, and have less weight putting pressure on my lungs when I sleep, etc.
But yes you’re right, I’m not happy with myself at the size that I am. I want to be able to go to a “normal” shop and wear clothes that I like. I want to look in the mirror and see my real face, not me hidden behind my weight. I want to be close to the size I was before kids and marriage (not the same size as that would be unrealistic, but you know a size 18-20 instead of 22-26. I averaged a 14-16 before kids.)
I agree with you, the core issue of self-esteem needs to be addressed. I’ve been seeing a counsellor for the past year and she’s really helped, though she hasn’t any experience with food/weight issues, she’s been good at working through general stuff (like the abusive marriage I was in). I think I’ll eventually need to see someone who is more experienced with food relationships.
So I guess I work on the self-esteem & body confidence, and stay away from food diaries and plans? That as my head gets sorted, the healthy body may more naturally follow on from that?
Sorry guys that was a bit of an essay. I actually sat here for a bit deciding whether to post this or not. Thanks for the taking the time to read and answer my question Julie.
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Yes – that would absolutely be my approach. Work on your self esteem and confidence which in turn will mean you should develop more self love and an ability to then eat mindfully and with balance. Many people’s concerns with their weight stem firstly from their thinking and heart and as those things improve – so does their body and overall health.
Talking to someone with more of a specialisation sounds like a great idea and I’m here if you need that. Can I also recommend a book called ‘The Self Compassion Diet’ by Jean Fain. I think you will find it really helpful.
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Yes – work on your self esteem and confidence about your body and so many other things will flow, including hopefully for you, less mental anguish about food. Talking to someone who specialises in this area would also be helpful.
Most of all don’t give up on yourself. Any change someone wants or needs to make to their lifestyle must come first from a place of self love – not punishment. This is why diets fail. People go on them often because they ‘hate’ their body, are ‘ashamed’ of what they look like and ‘loathe’ being a certain size. Such thoughts set people up to fail beautifully right from the outset. Learning to treat yourself with loving kindness first, even if you wish to make changes, is the key.
I have a book recommendation for you too – ‘The Self Compassion Diet’ by Jean Fain. I think you will find it very helpful.
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Dr Rick Kausman is a GP who has written a great book called “If not dieting, then what?” I highly recommend it…
His website is: http://www.ifnotdieting.com.au/cpa/htm/htm_home.asp
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“I want to be close to the size I was before kids and marriage (not the same size as that would be unrealistic, but you know a size 18-20 instead of 22-26. I averaged a 14-16 before kids.)”
At the risk of giving unsolicited advice – it also seems like you have some beliefs that need to change – there is nothing unrealistic about wanting to return to a ‘before kids’ weight for most people. In fact, for some they will be smaller after kids – for whatever reason. before worrying about your food and exercise, it might be better to work out why you are overweight – a good question to explore with a counsellor is “how does being overweight serve me” or “what do I get out of being overweight”. An example of an answer I have been given to this question (after some discussion) was along the lines of – being overweight means that I don’t have to aim too high. This answer was from someone who has had sky diving and white river rafting on her list of goals but she felt that being overweight stopped her from doing those things so she could put them off until she lost the weight – once she realised this and changed her beliefs around that the “diets and excercise” started to “work”.
Good luck!
S
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It is always interesting to see where people get their information from. My sister is a former drug addict whom I believe became addicted to the gym and is now beginning on a food obsession. She sees the slim fast lady (or some other diet drink) at her gym for nutritional advice. This woman would have no idea of her history of addiction, although her gym attendance records should surely indicate an issue.
My aunt and uncle see a homeopath, and have now cut out dairy, gluten, sugar and meat. I don’t know what their doctor (if they see one) thinks but they look dreadful.
As far as my own diet goes I essentially only monitor how many fruit and vegies the family has eaten. We only eat meat at dinner and eat a couple of vegetarian meals a week (this is more a financial decision). Carbs are popular with my kids of course, so we eat lots of pasta and rice. I’m considering switching to brown rice and wholemeal pasta. I try and keep processed foods to a minimum. The only part of the diet I actively monitor is fruit and veg servings though.
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Yeah, monitoring food & veg is a good idea. I always try to work more veggies into a meal, I’ve never made a bolognase sauce that didn’t include a carrot at least. Or a lasagne without spinach.
I should monitor fruit & veg some more! Hmmmm.. maybe a wall chart for my eldest? Worked with toilet training…
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My tip is to put as much healthy stuff in their lunchboxes – they seem more inclined to eat it at school for reasons best known to themselves.
Also, fresh healthy lunchboxes = parenting brownie points.
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Lunch box is a sandwich, two pieces of fruit and one of those le snack cracker and cream cheese thingies, so I’m happy about that.
And she eats an apple or banana every night before bed too.
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Im pretty sure the reason is lack of choice combined with hunger! LOL.
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Don’t be so sure about “lack of hunger”. I was a REALLY fussy child growing up (sorry mum!). Didn’t like any of my mother’s cooking (bless her, she made all the hippy favourites today without seasoning or salt so everything tasted like cardboard) and simply refused to eat, or ate very little.
This in turn caused my mum to be anxious and me to be fear her should she ever find out I never ate what was packed… it wasn’t a fun relationship I had with her or food at the time.
Eventually though, my tastebuds changed and I started to enjoy her food (in turn she learned to add a touch of salt and oil) and all my food traumas dissapeared.
Healthy food is great to eat if it’s tasty!!
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No one has mentioned Michael Pollan. He has a great article “Unhappy Meals” http://michaelpollan.com/articles-archive/unhappy-meals/ which is probably the most awesome 10,000 words you’ll read this month (or maybe year).
His advice is ‘Eat food, not too much, mostly plants’.
He does go on to explain the reasoning behind that statement in more detail, of course.
Julie – what are your thoughts on Michael’s work? He’s getting reasonably famous in the US, is the star of Food Inc. I’ve read his books, I think he makes a lot of sense and isn’t restricting (he’d never say eat brocolli only for two of your meals a day) but I’m always ready to hear an opinion on his work from a professional.
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Hey, Idle Dad – I just read Michael Pollan’s book “In Defence of Food”…and then I read it again. I hesitate to use the words life-changing in the context of a book about food but it really was an extradordinarily eye-opening read.
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Indeed, in fact the article I linked above eventually developed into that very book. I understand what you mean by life changing, because it completely changed how I thought about food, but it isn’t a restrictive diet rule book, more a think-about-food book.
I also liked The Omnivore’s Dilemma, which was facinating. If you haven’t read it yet, do so.
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Have ordered it from the library…thanks for reminding me about this one.
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I am aware of Michael’s work and think he has some great things to say and share but will admit to not knowing it intimately. I have always researched more on the psychological and emotional aspects of people’s relationships with food but you have peaked my interest to learn more.
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Fair enough, I can see the distinction between your work and his. Thanks for responding, in any case.
Reading the linked article will give you a good idea of his overall philosophy, he’s probably glad he wrote it because it led him to two bestselling books (In the Defense of Food & Food Rules)!
His other book, The Omnivore’s Dilemma is much more about where your food comes from. Very interesting too.
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I know this is a bit off-topic but I love the MM community (all the varied opinions!) and I was hoping for some advice/feedback on a different kind of healthy eating/weight issue. I am currently 22 weeks pregnant with my first child and am struggling to see the weight go up. I had always been about 5 kilos overweight ( a lot on a small frame) until about 4 years ago when through healthy eating and exercise managed to finally drop the weight and I was able to maintain it until pregnancy (obivously!) In addition to seeing the weight go up (at a normal healthy rate btw) my healthy eating has somewhat gone out the window and I keep eating junk (biscuits and LOTS of chocolate) which is suprising me. I don’t think ” eating for two” or “Oh well, I am pregnant I can do this” but for some reason I am struggling to eat as healthy as I was. I am not sure if it is because I have a hard time with the gain anyway that I think “eh, stuff it” or what.
I guess this is not making a lot of sense but I am just wondering what others went through while pregnant as my eating habits and attitude have really bothered me the last few days.
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I’m 23 weeks pregnant and going hell for leather on the junk food too. I am normally about 55 kilo’s and quite petite. This is my second pregnancy. I put on 20 kilo’s with my first, then lost it all within about 4 months afterwards (due to a strict diet and exercise regime). Because my baby was healthy and I was able to be disciplined to lose the weight, I am very relaxed about what I eat. If I crave it, I eat it.
In the first few months all I wanted were carbs. Thankfully now i’ve calmed down on that a little and am able to include salad and vegetables as well.
There isn’t a day that goes by when I don’t think about the size of my thighs etc but I feel confident that i’ll get back to my normal self once this is all over.
It is hard if you have been used to maintaining a smaller size, but at the end of the day go easy on yourself and remember that if you lost the weight before, you definitely can do it again!
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Thank you!! Part of me just says go with it and get over it! I am usually quite disciplined so I am sure that won’t disappear after the baby’s here.
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PS. If it is any consolation, the amount of chocolate i’m consuming should be illegal!
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Pregnancy is the time to relax with thinking about your weight. Easier said than done I know but the more you worry about it the more you are going to binge on junk food to combat stress. Just try to eat as healthy as you can. If it is sweet stuff you are craving try and find sweet healthy alternatives. Remember that you are not eating for two but you are needing more food to combat the fact that your body’s cells are replicating – so if there are days you eat a lot then it is probably for good reason.
Keep exercising through your pregnancy – I cannot stress that enough. Of all my girlfriends who have been pregnant over the last couple of years (and there has been alot) the ones who bounced back the best stayed active. Obviously make sure your exercise choice is safe for you and bub.
The other advice I can give you is to have a plan for exercising and healthy eating once bub is born. For example I researched a ‘mums and bubs’ exercise group and once bub was a couple of months old I eased back into exercise this way.
Lastly remember this – you once put on weight and through commitment and will you were able to take that weight off so you have already proven to yourself that have what it takes. Believe that you’ll be able to do it again after bub is born.
p.s. keep in your head ‘nine months to put weight on, give yourself nine months to take it off.
p.p.s. you will be suprised how much weight slides of breastfeeding and/or being super busy with a new bub.
p.p.s. don’t you dare let the fear of weight gain over-rule this amazing time in your life – you’re going to be a mum soon – Amazing!!!
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Be aware that there are many unfortunate people out there who put on weight or at least don’t lose it when they breastfeed. It doesn’t help me lose weight At All! Buggery.
I start to lose weight when I Stop breastfeeding. (Apparently a hormone thing).
I just want to put it out there so that women who don’t shed all their baby-weight in a few breastfeeding months don’t feel like fat failures who will never lose weight! You might just be like me!
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Good point Redballoon i am the same re losing it once i stop breastfeeding. Also i found especially in the first few months of breastfeeding you are so hungry all the time and are getting used to having to shop etc around the baby that it is quite easy to overeat without realising it.
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I agree, my sister and I had babies at the same time (ish) and one of us gained weight while breastfeeding, the other lost and 12 months after each of us stopped feeding we were back to about our same pre-preg weight and eating habits. So not even sisters are necessarily going to have the same experience when it comes to pregnancy and feeding babies. Our other sister (my identical twin) finds that she will hold the weight until almost exactly 2 years after she has the baby (this happened to her 3 times) at which point, with no change to diet or exercise her body shape changed and she lost some weight! It is really noticable and quite strange how consistently it happend with her. It must be the hormones!
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Me too! I look okay a couple of weeks after giving birth and then stack it as I am breastfeeding. It is like the full switch is broken in my head, but when I stop breastfeeding it fixes itself.
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Hi Tillie, I SO get what you’re saying. I put on 30 kgs with my baby (yes, 30!) but for some reason after she was born, I lost all taste for junk food. All the weight I put on was pure fat, but there is nothing like that feeling after you’ve had the baby and you feel so slim! I seriously thought the ward was my catwalk! For three months after she was born my eating returned to normal, so I think that, probably combined with breastfeeding, helped me regain my figure. So go for it I say! Don’t be scared of ‘letting yourself go’ cos chances are you won’t. Enjoy every morsel!
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My best friend has had two really hard pregnancies (i.e. constant and severe nausea which did not let up (actually it peaked at the end) for the whole duration.
My friend has quite a balanced approach to eating, steers clear of processed stuff, has brown rice and grainy bread instead of refined carbs, lots of fruit and vegies, but allowing herself the occasional treat every now and then. She found during her pregnancy that the only food which didn’t make her gag and dry retch was anything HEAVILY processed. (i.e. hideously yellow mac and cheese from a packet or ‘just add water’ chai latte sachets, etc). It really did her head in.
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Thank you all very much for your comments! Much appreciated. xxx
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I wanted to enjoy my pregnancy and being able to let go was a new and exciting concept for someone who works in fashion. But then I got gestational diabetes and had the strictest diet ever… but I have to say eventually I felt great with the food I was eating and continued some of the principles after I gave birth.
But… I was devastated at the beginning- being pregnant had given me permission to eat marshmallows any time I liked and I was so upset I couldn’t do that anymore! So I say take advantage of it, let yourself put on a few extra kilos, just enjoy and try not to stress too much- if you are disciplined you’ll lose the baby weight. Just give yourself a year to get back into shape and don’t look at magazines of Hollywood starlets who lost it all in a week!
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I love this article – it completely captures the reality of post diet sisterhood. Diets are only for fat people these days – so what to explain all those kooky “diets” everyone else is on? I know a woman – completely ticks every box of the orthorexia nervosa description – who, horrified by the amount of weight women seem to gain during pregnancy (never sure if she meant baby “weight” or excess weight) has written a book to help you diet during pregnancy. She is neither qualified, nor a parent but seems to have tapped into a contemporary zeitgeist. The fact that there is a market for a book like this supports the notion that there is some serious dysfunction out there.
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I sometimes wonder if this dieting / food restriction and obsession thing with girls becomes such a thing due to the fact we use food, and food deprivation as a bonding tool.
ie The way we talk about nutella, and chocolates being devoured as a way of all feeling like we have something in common. The way when in magazines the writer introduces the hot young star in the article by saying “she is tucking into a burger and fries…” – it breaks a barrier. Celebs, and all of us use this to try to gain a feeling of being ‘inside’, ‘part of the gang’, feeling like we have something in common. In much the same way some girls use deprivation as a bonding tool. Bonding over how hard diets are. How much they miss caffeine, sugar, wine – whatever. Having a ‘naughty’,'sneaky’ wine together ‘even though we shouldn’t.
Food is just so emotionally tied up with our relationships with people. For me, having good healthy eating habits only happens when I am feeling good about myself, my LIFE choices and comfortable and confident in my relationships with partner/friends whatever. I don’t have anything to prove so I don’t need to bond with Jane over 3 bottles of wine. Or Katy by telling her about scoffing a king sized block of choclate (I didn’t even feel the need to eat it). I’m not saying it is wrong to do these things occasionally ie after a break up, a very bad day or whatever, it doesn’t make you a terrible disordered person. We all need blowouts sometime. But if food is not thought of as simply fuel and pleasure in moderation – MOST of the time, there may be a problem.
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My Nan always said, “A little bit of what you fancy does you good.”
I’m sticking with that
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Strangely enough, I have never been healthier, or as slim, as I am now after moving in with my partner of three years, who was a real ‘meat and three veg’ man. Lunch is usually leftover dinner and cereal and fruit for breakfast with little treats throughout the week! An example of everything in moderation?
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What I want to know is … WHO DO I HAVE TO SLEEP WITH TO GET MY HANDS ON THAT BOWL OF SMARTIES … RIGHT NOW??!!!!!!
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I am just about to raid the kids boxes of smarties
yum!
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I may just have to go out and buy M&Ms now.
I can’t concentrate on work.
NEED. LITTLE. ROUND. COATED. CHOCOLATES. THAT. I. CAN. DIG. MY. HANDS. INTO. AND. SHOVEL. IN. MY. GOB.
NOW!!
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Wholeheartedly agree with this article. I have previously tried no-carb, lo-carb, CSIRO, lemon de-tox, liver cleanse, et al., and have only started losing weight when I simply ate sensibly, learned about portion sizes and gave myself a treat day once a week to limit cravings.
That said, I have just suffered through a suspected gallstones attack, and until my scans come back and we get what’s going on sussed, I have to avoid dairy, red meats and all fats, even the good ones. I just spent 2 hours wandering around the shops, obsessively planning meals that I can feed my family and still eat part of, wondering what the hell I could actually eat and obsessively reading nutrition panels. I could not live like that.
A healthy awareness of what’s good and what is a treat or occasional indulgence is fine, but to spend every waking minute obsessively thinking about food, calories and burning them? Honey, I have better stuff to do.
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I feel sorry that you have to eliminate all those foods. I have gall stones and I have no idea what will set an attack off. I can have something everyday for a week and on the 6th day it will set off an attack I can then eat it on the 7th day and will be fine. Bit annoying but oh well could be worse
Good luck with your scans
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I have had gall stones in the past and like you had no idea what triggered the attacks off. Best thing I did was get my gall bladder removed.
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I had my gallbladder out and it was liberating! It was key hole surgery, I was in hospital overnight and it changed my life. I didnt get the typical sort of attack with lots of pain. I had sudden on-set violent vomiting attacks. My last one was triggered by a yummy Lebanese take-away dinner. Now I dont have to worry about eating out and racing home just in case..
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I’ve been in a happy relatiionship with a guy for almost two years. He is a personal trainer and has always looked great! Lately though he has become a little too picky with food, and it’s beginning to affect our relationship. We don’t live together, but it’s hard to have him stay over because I find myself not wanting to cook for him, afraid he’ll criticise me for making pasta for dinner (Carbs after 3pm!?! NOT ALLOWED!) He doesn’t understand that his obsessiveness is starting to take over. We need to acknowledge that mental health issues including eating disorders affect those who love the person suffering as well as the individual.
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It’s important to remember that body image and eating disorders do not only affect women. I hope you and your boyfriend can work through these issues, it’s so difficult to see someone you love battle with anxiety. Look after yourself!
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In order to have abs, most guys have to be very strict about their diets. Most Hollywood actors are on diets that are as strictly measured as the actresses in order to maintain their six packs.
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The girls joke at work about me having “carb-phobia”, only because I limit the amount of carbs I can have each day (to the gram I must admit). I do still eat carbs i.e. rye bread, cruskits, apples, milk plus lots more, but just not in excess to maintain my weight.
But to be honest, it really does limit my choices and happiness some days e.g if I go over the amount of carbs I know I should have, I will feel really guilty and think it will show straight away on my body – crazy I know.
And that is the thing, I know I need to lighten up more about it but the hard thing is once I had the knowledge of the amount of carbs, protein, fat etc I need it is very hard to simply forget it and also because I know it works in tems of keeping slim.
So I eat very healthy and feel confident in my body most days, emotionally every day it is a battle.
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Can’t believe you list apple and milk as carbs? I’ve always imagined when people are warned to not overindulge in carbs that is a reference to potatoes/breads/rice etc not that you would be counting (by the gram) an apple and milk?
Feeling confident in your body is one thing but confidence as a person including emotional wellbeing is a much more all encompassing goal to strive for me thinks. Good Luck with letting yourself relax and learning to count moments of happiness instead of grams of carbohydrates
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Apples have a lot of carbs in, and so does milk. It’s the little things that catch you out!
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Mmm I know! Crazy, but any carb is a carb (no matter where it comes from) in my mind.
– I am trying.
I like your tip – counting the moments of happiness instead of carbs
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Hi aaa, maybe try and change the words around in your head when you look at food? Like when you talk about milk, call it diary or an apple is a fruit and then feel better that you’re achieving the right level of calcium for your bones and getting one portion of the 5 fruit / 3 veg (or whatever the numbers you need) a day you’re meant to have.
Cutting down on complex, high GI carbs such as bread and pasta is one thing, but when you start to see all food groups for their carb value, I can see how you can start to become obsessed, and that can be a little worrying.
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Hi ren, thanks for the tip. I guess I could fake it until a make it! haha
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It’s taken me a lifetime but I’ve finally learned; everything in moderation.
After years of tummy troubles, I thought I had a wheat intolerance which turned out to be lactose intolerance. Makes it hard when you love that well-made regular skinny long mach in the mornings, so now I just have them every second or third day. I find I don’t have trouble if I don’t overload on milk.
Everything else I just make sure I exercise regularly, make healthy food choices most of the time and don’t fight the cravings for carbs or choccy everytime they arise.
Like I said, it’s taken a long time but I’ve finally learned everything in moderation
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Thanks for this article Bec. As some people have already commented, we so often think about eating disorders in terms of only anorexia or bulimia, however there are millions of people worldwide suffering with this type of extremely disordered eating.
The most common type of eating disorder is actually EDNOS – ‘Eating Disorder Not Otherwise Specified.’ It refers to extreme eating as described above and most people who may not meet the diagnostic criteria for anorexia or bulimia fall into this category eg. someone may be starving themselves and very underweight but still get their period, meaning they don’t have anorexia but do an EDNOS. Many EDNOS cases tip into other types of eating disorders, but even on their own are highly dangerous and even deadly.
If there are any readers or commenters today that would like to ask me questions or some advice here at MM, I’m very happy to answer.
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Oh! I could write for hours about this. But you have done so beautifully.
TOTALLY agree.
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I’ve got coeliac disease and it hasnt been hard to follow a gluten free diet. You just focus on what you can eat, not on what you cant. What is hard is following a nut free, egg free and dairy free diet on top of that as Im breastfeeding my daughter who has all of these allergies. Plus she seems to be intolerant (different to allergic)to alot of other foods Im eating such as high salicylate foods. So Im on a strict elimination diet til she is weaned. And she WONT take a bottle from me at all. This is incredibly hard… no herbs, spices, sauces, most fruits and vegies. All on the banned list.
And Im someone who LOVES food… as in I dream about it, look up recipes a lot, yes it consumes my thoughts at times hahahah.
Anyway hopefully she will be weaned sooner rather than later! One bad thing I can eat (but know I should cut out) is sugar. But only once I can eat all the normal things!!
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This month I have given up alcohol and caffeine, next month I plan to tackle sugar. Why? I have no idea.
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oh dear. Wine and coffee.. I don’t want to live a life without them.
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No caffeine?? No sugar?? Nooooooooooo!!!!!!
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D’oh – that was me.
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Truth be told I don’t feel any better at all!
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So could it be possible that because we (as a society) are not deprived of anything integral to our survival, we subconsciously feel guilt and need to deprive ourselves?
If you drink alcohol/caffeine moderately, and gain enjoyment from them, what is the problem?
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Some chocolate just arrived at the office, Nat and I waited roughly 0.12 seconds before we broke into it!!
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I just did that for nine months of pregnancy and am LOVING a glass of wine (with any cheese I feel like) and ice coffee’s again!!!
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How amazing is that first piece of post-pregnancy Brie?!! OMG,
I’ve got goosebumps.
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and smoked salmon…..
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*salivating*
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Reminds me of beginning of The Biggest Loser this year, when they made the trainers eat with the families and weigh in afterwards.
The trainers reaction to their weight gain demonstrated that healthy-eating has the potential to become an obsession that is just as psychologically dangerous as over-eating.
Essentially both trainers and contestants share a disordered relatiobship with food; just at opposite ends of the scale (mind the pun).
While Biggest Loser is an extreme example for television, if you can’t enjoy the occasional beer, piece of chocolate or gain a kilo or two without tears and drama then your body might be in good place, but your head certainly isn’t.
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So so true!
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So true! I found it particularly unnerving when the blonde female trainer said she had “never had junkfood or alcohol in her life”. What?! Was she wearing leggings and trainers as a five year old abstaining from fairy bread at kids parties??? I find that weird.
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LOLOLOl!!
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I’m sorry to say I disagree with you. I eat very healthily and work out every day, but I am definitely not orthorexic. Due to the fact that I hardly ever eat processed junk food such as what was on the show, I also have the same reaction – one thing tastes okay, but to have all that food would make a normally healthy eater feel disgusting!
I do think the entire thing was played up for the cameras – I don’t actually think the weight gain they experienced was real due to the fact that very fit people have super high metabolisms and can generally last 1-2 days without a noticeable difference. Nevertheless, it is much harder to get the weight off than put in on, and I think that’s where the tears came from. As someone who takes pride in my body, I know if someone made me eat all that horrible food and gain 5+ kilos in a single week, I would probably burst into tears too!
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Absolutely! I know people who have begun personal training recently. They have been put on super strict eating & exercise programs. None of them actually need to lose weight, just perhaps tone up and gain some fitness. Apparently they will stick to this regime for life or until they get sick of it. Its just so extreme for every day people who arent aspiring to be super models or elite athletes. I cant see how it can be healthy to be so obsessed with every bit of food that you eat in the name of being healthy.
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I got a little worried watching the Biggest Loser last night. They were showing footage from when the trainers went to live and eat with the families. Tiffany, the white team trainer, was saying that she just burned 213 calories heaving and retching, because her body was trying to reject all the junk food. How on earth does she know such an exact number of calories that you burn through vomiting? I was very concerned.
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Or what about when she literally cried in her video diary about the fact that she ate the parmigiana and was saying her “body is a temple” and she “treated it like a nightclub” tonight..? Kinda sounds like someone who also has food issues!
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Totally agree…who has the more food issues? She was just as bad…totally neurotic. You would think by the way she carried on she just shot up heroin. Way over the top. She came across as totally sanctimonious and princessey…ugggggggh. No thanks.
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Yeah. I think she was drunk as well though…
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Hi Jacqui – That entire show is a massive concern. So many times I have seen things on TBL that have made me cringe and even cry. It’s dehumanising and I always worry about how it is being translated into the minds of viewers who may be highly vulnerable to food, weight and eating concerns – not to mention the contestants themselves. I particularly don’t think it a good program for children to watch – who wants a child to learn that exercise should be punishing and involve someone screaming at you?
I have previously watched the show out of interest and research but this year have made the commitment not to watch at all. I did however hear Tiffany in a radio interview this week stating she avoided oranges and most fruit because they were too high in sugar. That’s not a balanced message at all. It’s just an orange. An orange. I would hate to think what she would think of my banana cake.
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Oh Jeeeeesus.
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I agree completely – I have been watching TBL this year, but I’ve spent so much of the time cringing and being horrified at how the trainers are treating the contestants. I don’t care how many kilos overweight you are, you are still a human and no one is so overweight they deserve to be belittled and screamed at, or spoken to in that manner.
Oh lordy, I can’t help but roll my eyes when people start claiming “Oh you can’t eat *insert fruit or vegetable here* because you will gain weight…”. Sorry, but I’d like to meet the person who actually gained weight from eating too many bananas or potatoes (two of the biggest offenders I hear blamed).
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who knew an orange could be so evil….and they look so innocent with their bright, happy orange skin.
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yeah.. I kinda stop listening when people start saying certain fruits and vegies are bad for you.. WTF are we supposed to eat then!!! Everything is bad for you if you don’t eat in in moderation!!
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So true. My partner is a Personal Trainer and hates TBL as it promotes excessive weight loss over a short period of time (shocking the body) and also so many of the contestants have not exercised i.e. ran in years and yet they are expected to run full speed on a treadmill on day one!
PS re the calories and how the trainer knew the amount – sad I know but she probably wears a heart rate monitor all day to see how many calories she burns daily.
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Totally agree aaa. I.m certainly not qualified in any way to make judgements but surely pushing chronically obese people who have not exercised at any sort of intensity for years to do the things they do is a recipe for disaster. Add to that the fact that I am sure the majority of them would be going through withdrawals from the dramatic change in diet they are experiencing.. It’s a wonder they want to stay in the house at all. Surely slow and steady is preferable and far easier to stick to!
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Totally! I remember watching a TBL cooking episode a year or 2 ago, and when the nutritionist put a whole egg into the dish (as opposed to just the egg white) Michelle Bridges actually gasped. WTF? What a waste to only ever use egg whites!
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Tiffany was a bit of a joke saying she treats her body like a temple yet she obviously uses peroxide on her hair regularly and has a love affair with teeth whitener.
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Oh thank god someone has said this out loud. There are more eating disorders out there than just anorexia, bulimia or over-eating. The guilt and restrictions put around food by most people are very much mental issues that need to be addressed.
I think any obsession with food, whether it’s the good stuff or the bad stuff, is unhealthy. It’s fuel and it’s something to enjoy, but when it dominates your life, it’s a disorder. If it was anything else, sex, drugs, or work for instance, we’d recognise an unhealthy association immediately. For some reason food issues like this get swept under the carpet because these people are trying to be ‘healthy’. We’re obsessed with that to the point of blindness.
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Yes! That sums it up perfectly, if it dominates your life then it’s a disorder.
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I am reading The Sweet Poison Quit Plan at the moment and have been doing Weigh it Up (free online program designed to help us lose 5% of our body weight) since October. My husband, feeling increasingly limited in what he can eat, says he is now worried I am going to read more books and he will end up as a breatharian!
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hahaha
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