by ASHLEIGH MUTIMER
There is one word that perfectly sums up my week – whiplash.
This week I finally gave up on a relationship I have spent the last 6 months fighting tooth and nail for. There is something uniquely heartbreaking about watching someone you love suffer and not being able to do a thing about it.
There’s also a bittersweet freedom in making the decision to be happy and allowing yourself to let go. Never fear though, my new boyfriends Gym, Ben and Jerry will see that I survive the worst.
This has also been one of the flippin’ best weeks EVER!
See? Whiplash!
I’ve been catching up with an old friend; one of those amazing people who can improve your day simply by emailing “Hey there, beautiful”. He is gorgeous, talented, damn lovely and deserves every one of the amazing opportunities coming his way right now.
I’ve had an brilliant week with the kids that I nanny. The five-year-old mostly thinks I’m gross because I’m a girl. But I won brownie points this week because I listen to Queen, just like Daddy does. However, I promptly lost said brownie points when he discovered I know all the words. To all the songs. I am The Voice.
Just quietly, while we’re on the topic of my awesome week… did I mention I’m an intern at Mamamia? Because I AM. Oh so busy but loving every hectic minute with these amazing (and well dressed) women. Take a look at what the Mamamia team AND you wonderful Mamamia readers have been wearing this week:

Nora (MM Intern) in a Gosh Celebrity top from Mamamia.com.au/shop
In other fashion news, the world record for the longest ever catwalk was set last Friday at ECCO’s World’s Longest Catwalk event. Mia hosted the event – here’s some pics of that, as well as everything else that’s been happening around the office and social media this week.

Mia weighs in on the circumcision debate during #QandA
What were your best and worst of the week?







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my gorgeous 10 day old baby boy is my absolute BEST in life EVER and totally OMM!
Worst: The troops lost in Afganistan
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Best: I have my photo and article about my business and how I started it after redundancy in the SMH today.
Worst: the Australian soldiers who ahve lost their lives this week and their famlies’ pain.
OMM: Blessed
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Here is the article
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Ok, it’s time for a giggle,
I thought this was funny.
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Best: Spring weather- sunny days always cheer me up.
Also, being part of the Aussie Curves fatshion blogging group- it’s fun to be challenged by a theme each week and it’s helping me post more often. http://ccurves.blogspot.com.au/
Worst: Father’s Day stuff. My 7 year old made his Dad a card and wanted to post it to him (he lives overseas with a new wife). Except his Dad won’t give out his address, because he doesn’t want to be chased for child support. It was so painful watching Mr7 on Skype with his Dad this morning, asking for his address and showing him the card while his Dad evaded and ignored the question.
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If your ex-husband is on Skype isn’t it easy enough for the authorites to track down his address through his computer IP number?
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Oh dear Bookworm, hearing your worst makes me want to cry. That is so shitty. Your son is lucky to have a strong, loving Mum. Hugs.
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Our beautiful 8 year old pooch has been diagnosed with an aggressive form of cancer, so quite devastated at the moment. He had the biopsies Monday, and we found out tonight. So really that has made this week one of the worst in so many ways.
My best was probably the amazing compassion and kindness shown to me by our vet when breaking the news. She was very gentle, very clear and calm with her explanations and showed emotion as well.
Anyway, it’ll be a rocky road for us but even more so for him. Such a gorgeous dog…my heart breaks
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Whoops – sideways dog!
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So sorry, I’ve been through this and it’s terrible. If the cancer was found in time there may be treatments available. There is an amazing cancer specialist for pets in Melbourne who has great results. Let me know if you would like the details.
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Thanks so much for posting. We’re in Perth but from Melbourne originally so not too hard to go back there for treatment. Would love the details of that specialist, can you post them here? Thank you!
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Best: end to nine months of horrible all day nausea in less than a week. I’m about to have my baby!!!! I can’t wait to be excited about holding my baby not just being obsessed with having this pregnancy hell over with. I can’t wait to feel like a normal person again.
Best 2: how excited my 3 year old is about meeting the baby. She is the sweetest girl on the world.
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One of my favorite memories of my kids is when we were driving home from the hospital with our newborn daughter in the baby capsule with her just turned 3 year old brother in his car seat next to her. He spent the whole ride home pointing things out to her: ‘this is the sun, they are other cars and they’re noisy, those are trees that grown in the ground’ etc. Cutest thing ever. He seemed to think it was his job to fill her in on everything.
Best of luck with the birth!
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That is just gorgeous, gave me goosebumps. What a lovely memory you have to tell him.
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Thanks Anonymous. That is a gorgeous story!!
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Best: my lovely dad is here visiting. Not only do I get to see him on fathers day, but it’s also my birthday on Sunday so we get to share that. It’s wonderful seeing him and my sons enjoy each other.
Worst: I’m sick with an energy-sapping virus.
OMM: trying to perfect a fructose-free chocolate brownie recipe. Latest attempt is cooling now
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Hey, We’re twins! My birthday on Sunday too.
Have an awesome day.
xx
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Oh, happy birthday to you, birthday twin!
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Best: Interning on Monday – awesome way to start my week.
YAY
Still pinching myself at what a wonderful opportunity I have been given and my first article under my name was published
Worst: Getting sick today due to the change in season
Sneezing, sore throat… you name it
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Best: last day of Winter
Worst: still in cold where I am!
OMM: making new friends. Specifically, the wives and partners of my husband’s friends. We all get along etc but we only ever catch up when the boys arrange a male oriented activity eg, bbq to watch footy etc. how do you go from that to seeing if someone wants to grab a coffee etc without sounding like a stalker! Ive sent a few fbook msgs to one in particular to get contact happening but it never goes beyond meeting up when the guys organise it. Does this make sense to anyone? What to do ??
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Best: Some people like me
Worst: Some people don’t.
OMM: Struggling with feeling disliked. I think I have a strong distinct personality and that doesn’t gel with everyone. I have a good group of friends, a man, etc. I just struggle with not everyone liking me and I feel wounded when I think not all my workmates like me or that some friend is a bit sick of me at the moment.
I know not everyone can like you. I have often thought it is better to be disliked by some than be bland and liked by all. I do take note of why some people might not like me though, I am open to constructive feedback.
Is this a female thing, wishing to be liked by everyone? Every customer, every fellow student, workmate, person in the street? It is so silly, I have tonnes of friends, I just feel hurt at the moment a couple of people I know seem not too keen on me.
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This is exactly where my thoughts have been loads of times, I try to keep in mind that I don’t like everyone so how can everyone like me?
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Isn’t that the most illogical part of it?? Even worse is where I want someone I don’t like to like me.
It is so unhealthy, I am just stewing over this and convincing myself people hate me. So unhealthy and ridiculous.
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OMM, all you have to do is look at the political divide. It doesn’t matter what sort of personality you have, half will like you, half won’t. And then you get the small number of extremes. A few will detest you and a few will adore you.
There’s nothing you can do to change it, so don’t worry about it. Xx
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if it helps: you’re not alone. lots of us feel like this, lots of the time. those who like you no doubt love what’s unique about you xx rabbisals advice above is good, I’m taking that on board.
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BEST: Met some fantastic new people this week and got to spend time with some even better ones I already know. Loving every day working here at MM and feel really settled in Sydney now, thanks to some fantastic housemates.
WORST: 5 Australian soldiers killed in Afghanistan. My thoughts are with the families of these brave guys and the many men and women who are still out there fighting.
OMM: I am in life administration hell. I am a walking disaster zone at the moment having no mail going to any address I currently live at, having made no progress on my tax return and having about a million unpaid parking fines. I’m not good with rules. What can I say?
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Best: Finally got daycare!
Worst: baby has decided she doesn’t want to sleep at night anymore. We have been up several times a night for a week now and I’m at my wits end. Feel like a zombie.
OMM : Sleep…..
OMM2: why won’t she sleep anymore. After months of sleeping through the night what the hell has changed?
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Child care – FIST PUMP!
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just wanted to send you hugs on the random no more sleeping through the night thing….I feel your pain! so much worse when you have tasted the glory of a full night’s sleep only to have it ripped away again….it’s just cruel! xxx
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KP I’m in the same situation! I’ve been told that often its a developmental thing… God knows how that works but I just hope he starts sleeping through again soon! Goodluck in your quest for sleep too!!!
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Best: My life is total bliss and im so utterly happy and lucky to have a beautiul sexy and smart husband, amazing talented friends and loving supportive family
Worst: the soldiers that we lost this week…my heart breaks for their families
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BEST: We nearly kissed. We got drunk and had fun and want to be with each other all the time. I got to walk into work this morning and see him. It’s awesome.
WORST: He has a fiancé. I have a boyfriend. His out of duty, me out of convenience. It’s messy.
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Not messy – stupid
If you want to be together, do the right and kind thing and break up with the people you’re with.
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we will.
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BEST 1: I think this week has marked a signal of the strong me coming back into my life and the world. Its been a long three weeks after being dumped by a guy that I truly loved and that I spent six months (fighting tooth and nail like Ashleigh) fighting for. I have suffered for three weeks and felt like rubbish but that all went out the window on Saturday night. I went out with my friends and had a legitimate good night dancing and carrying on and started to feel better, even a little bit happy.
BEST 2: On that Saturday night, it seemed to be a bit of a sign that good times were ahead because I ran into a guy where I was that I kind of was going on a few dates with (not sure the word for it) before I met my ex. (Obviously, I picked my ex over him.) He’s six years older than me, a lovely guy that I used to work with and is a really charming and good hearted person. You really start to appreciate a nice guy after going out with someone who treated you disrespectfully. (Not wanting a rebound though so TAKING IT VERY VERY VERY VERY VERY CAREFULLY AND SLOW.) Does anyone else think that is a sign?!
BEST 3: Had the best chat with him last night and went to lunch with him today and it was back to normal. Was so good to feel like I could be myself again and not be miserable.
BEST 4: The new interns that have started at Mamamia, especially Phoodie. I love reading her comments and they have really added a breath of fresh air to the Mamamia community!
WORST: Guy that broke up with me hasn’t even made a flicker of contact since our conversation about a week after the breakup and the fact that I have a 2500 word Constitutional Law essay to spend some of my weekend on.
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Worst thing, I had what I thought were two assignments due on the 28th, so i uploaded them on the 27th, plenty of time, look a little later, two emails from my tutors, assignments had been rejected, turns out they were due on the 24th, and since I didn’t ask for an extension, they are not allowed to mark them.
It was my mistake pure and simple, I didn’t double check, and this mistake is going to cost me, without these assignments I cannot pass those subjects, which means I would get a N or fail.
I have already lost the first semester of this year due to being in hospital from October last year until just over a month ago. It turns out that it is better to just drop those two classes, which is just a discontinue rather than a fail, and add one more year to my already long long degree.
Which puts all my other plans into dissaray, I am feeling very very stupid and worthless at the moment, and to top it all off, I am not getting anywhere with my physio, still dependant on the walking frame and hating myself more each day.
Good thing??? Can’t think of a damned thing.
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Boodie, just know that everything happens for a reason. Maybe your dream job is waiting for you but needed you to be an extra year. Just keep believing in yourself and staying strong. xxx
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Thank you, I am trying so hard to believe that it will all work out for the best.
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After having two assignment stuffups in three weeks, I feel your pain Boodie
It really sucks that you can’t just say, “Oh shit, I made a genuine mistake but usually I’m good … can’t you let it slide this once?”.
For your good … All I can think is that every time plans change, doors to places that you don’t yet know about appear.
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I had a family member die in a very senseless way this week. I’ve been thinking about their loneliness and desperation and their mother’s anguish ever since.
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Sending you hugs xxx
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Hugs to you Anonymous, I can’t even imagine how you are feeling but sending you love x
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My baby girl said her first word today – mum!
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Congratulations! How exciting.
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2 bests and worsts this week!
Best 1: we won our final hockey game Sunday! We didn’t make the finals or anything, but it was a great way to end the season.
Best 2: Me and my friends have booked a table for a Harry potter trivia night in the Great Hall at Sydney uni in October! Ages away but still so excited cos I’m a massive Harry potter nerd!
Worst 1: got called for jury duty the 3rd time this year. And i don’t have an excuse to get out of it this time so I have to do it. Bummer. Someone please tell me it’s not that bad!
Worst 2: cleaning some old rusty metal artifacts at work experience and i cut my finger on one of them. I need to get a tetanus shot now, waaaah I hate needles!
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Oh man, I would step over my own mother to go to a Harry Potter trivia night!
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We sydney uni people are a tiny bit obsessed with Harry potter
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I had to go to Jury duty on my birthday! Any other time I would have been happy to go. I didn’t get onto one but it is a long day, I recommend taking a book or something else to do. I found the whole process very intersting though. I know a few people who have made it on to one and they said it was not that bad.
The Harry Potter trivia night sounds awesome!
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Best: Had my sister-in-law and nephew stay for a week Lots cuddles, giggles and playtime with my two boys aswell.
Best: hubby bought a cross-trainer so he can get fit! His physio told him off for being over-weight and now he has decided to do something about it.
Worst:Reason SIL stayed for a week. Her partner/baby-daddy is being rather a wanker and it looks like it might be the end of the line for them. He runs his own business and has extremely poor money management skill. This resulted in my SIL having to return to work when her little one was only 9 weeks old just so there was some chance of being money in the bank. And so he could pay child suport for his 4 year old. Makes me and hubby SO VERY ANGRY at him.
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If Graeme Morris caused a bit of a stir this week, I think the ladies of mamamia are going to go apoplectic about this…
I’m not agreeing with any of his sentiments either.
http://www.news.com.au/national/alan-jones-women-are-destroying-the-joint/story-fndo4eg9-1226462326339
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I am trying to contain my outrage. (And swearing).
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I can’t imagine why Jamila!!
Seriously, it’s not worth giving opinions like this oxygen. He’s doing it just to get a rise out of it and I would hope that the PM ignores it.
Then again, in my opinion shock jocks are right up there with game show hosts as having the most useless and non contributary occupations ever.
Have a good weekend,
S hane
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I agree, this is the opinion of Alan Jones we are talking about, not anyone important. Besides there are really not that many people listening to him so he doesn’t have a lot of influence.
My first post disappeared so I hope this one works.
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Yay it posted!
I have to add also that his comments have sparked some pretty funny comments on twitter.
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As a woman of 50 and I agree with him. Just for the record.
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Best: Catching up with LPC in Melbourne. What a great chat! Can’t wait to do it again, next time with cooking.
Best #2: The weather is getting warm, I am healthy, and getting fitter by the day. Can’t wait for shorts and skirts and fun in the sun!
Worst: Boredom at work. And our rent is going up. Yeah, it’s really not so bad at all.
Love to all xx
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BEST:
It’s been a VERY PRODUCTIVE week, and productivity makes me happy! Or maybe being happy makes me productive?! Who knows!
LOTS of time in the kitchen, which I passionately love to the moon and beyond (my phavourite room int eh house by a mile!) and plenty of time catching up with friends who I haven’t seen in decades and centuries gone by.
I have just devised POTENTIALLY the most delicious thing that this planet has ever seen. I have created this recipe specifically for my husband, for Father’s day and I can’t wait to post about it because it will have one and all in tears from yummy-ness! Can’t wait to share it with hubby and the whole family on Sunday.
WORST:
The whole Charlotte Dawson thing.
As I commented in Jamila’s post on this earlier, it makes me really really sad for 2 reasons. 1) That CD is living through this mess right as we speak but also 2) that we are *all* stuck in the middle of this. At SOME point, someone we know has or will be cyber-bullied and we don’t yet have the answer re: how the hell to stop it.
I hope everyone has a lovely weekend and a great week next week too!
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Not really a ‘best’ but I am in the 2 week wait before my next period and I love the hope I feel every month waiting to see if I’m pregnant. oh, and I love daydreaming about it
Worst: I weighed myself yesterday and I have put on 10 kilos in 6 months! I’m now hitting 60 kilos which to a lot of women is not much but I am quite short and petite so for me that’s a lot
need to start looking after myself better
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I’m in the two week wait as well. The hopeful daydreaming is definitely the best part. Fingers crossed for you
(The page seems to be having a slight spaz so hopefully this doesn’t post twice)
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Best: Am loving being a project manager for our new (old) house. But, far out, an old house just eats money! Plus a new client this week (is there anywhere that sells time?)
Worst: I have a stress ulcer on my ear-drum. It’s weird, like a stomach ulcer but in the wrong place! Dr has given me drops. But the odd thing is that I was stressed two weeks ago, not now. I guess it’s just my body catching up?
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stomach ulcers are mostly caused by H. pylori bacteria not by stress just so you know
so if its the “same as a stomach ulcer” you need you some antibiotics
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Best: We’ve booked our holiday to Phuket! I’m so excited, I can’t wait! It will be our first ever family holiday.
Has anyone stayed at the Holiday Inn Resort in Patong? Is it a good place to stay with 3 kids?
We need to book a hotel and I’m clueless as to where to stay. Any recommendations would be such a great help.
Worst: Everyone is sick and I just want to crawl in bed and rest.
Hope everyone has a great weekend!xx
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Hi Kate,
Patong is the party area, it’s pretty much wall to wall bars, stripclubs, markets and dodgy ladyboy shows. And the beach there isn’t that nice. I would recommend Kata or Karon more if you have kids. Less seedy than Patong and much nicer beaches.
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We recently stayed in the Sunwing resort in Kamala. Couldn’t recommend it highly enough. I agree with nikster, probably best to avoid staying in Patong.
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Thanks so much for the heads up! I will definitely look into those areas, so glad I asked!xx
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Agree about Patong!
We just came back from Centara Karon Beach. Loved it and very kid friendly.
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Thanks Mum2three! I have already started looking up hotels in Kata and Karon.
Any more recommendations from anyone about places to stay would be a huge help!
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I’ve stayed at the holiday inn in Patong! It would be good for kids they have a big pool as well as a pool for little kids and nice rooms! All of patong is not a party area I’d happily walk around with kids at night tasting foods and shopping. One street is a full on party street which will be clear to you when you arrive and you can steer clear of that. It was also cheap and well accommodating!
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Best: Law reading week so only half the amount of classes as normal! Also Mid Sem Break next week!
Worst: I’ve been sick all week and thus extremely unproductive and haven’t exercised : (
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Best: I lost 2.5 kilos!!! I started the Michelle Bridges 12WBT this week and am really enjoying it. I can’t do most of the exercises because of my shoulder but have been walking and sticking to the meal plan.
Worst: All my muscles hurt. So much pain. I know I’ll get used to it eventually but, my god, OW!
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Good for you Nikolinka! I did Round 1 this year and saw some great results. I haven’t kept doing it due to money shortages, but it definately taught me a heap, and I’ve continued to loose on my own. I’ve lost 10kg (about 12% of my body fat) and still more to go. Enjoy the rest of the round
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Thanks. I’ve certainly learnt a lot during the first week already.
10kg is amazing! Congratulations.
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Best: A much better start to school than the same time last year! I have made some great friends and actually feel like I know stuff. Plus I am involved in some stuff on grass roots level, which feeds my ego and makes me feel useful! Plus our new apartment is so close to campus, we can literally jump on any bus that comes past the door to our apartment (the bus stop is right there) and it takes us to campus in 5 mins.
Worst: Our new apartment is awesome, but the condition we received it in was not. We had a meeting with the property manager today, and it turns out they used a dodgy cleaning company for this turnover (all apartments in US campus towns have August to July leases, and turnover is a mass affair!), unbeknownst to them until people began complaining. At least things might get repaired soon now that we have shown them around our apartment and they have seen exactly what it wrong!
OMM: The wait for settling into routine…I hate it! I either want to be completely in routine so I know where I am at, or completely have no commitments…not halfway! The next couple of weeks should see this happen, though.
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Rach are you studying here as well? Or is school referring to band stuff? Sorry about your apartment hope things get fixed soon! Our landlord is not much better we sent him an email over a month ago with stuff that is still not working in the house and he has not even contacted us yet! It’s not big stuff but still… oh but he was quick to call husband last month when he thought our check for the rent hadn’t cleared except that it wasn’t even our check he had put in and he realised after and then apologised.
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Best: Fab night out with a bunch of friends last night. I’m so lucky to know so many amazing people.
Worst: I haven’t heard from my boyfriend for 48 hours – he’s in the navy and is not always able to contact me so that’s not really out of the ordinary, but with everything that’s happening with the ADF and also with reports of damaged patrol boats, I am STRESSING. Would love just a quick text from him to say that all is well.
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Hope you hear from him soon Nat, that’s a horrible feeling x
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Hope you feet a message soon Nat so you can relax. Am sure you will!
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Aww, hope you hear from his soon Nat ! xxx
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Best – attending my friend’s wedding this past Saturday in Toronto. It was a short trip but being at her wedding was amazing!
Worst – Haven’t been feeling the best for the past few days, just feeling a little blaaa and just not in the mood for doing much. Also just thinking about how everyone I care about friends/family are all back home and when I will get to see them again
Didn’t help when my mum called this morning either…..
Hopefully it will pass!
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I was like that end of last week, but now I am back around my friends and starting school again, it seems to have lifted.
Remember…wine solves everything!
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Hahaha unfortunately I’m not a wine drinker
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Chocolate also solves everything!?
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Best: realising I don’t have to be in control of my life every minute of every day. Sometimes is okay to admit i am tired and to just sit back eating bad food and watching E! News.
Worst: having to sort out and talk about complicated friendships
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I love your best! We all need that chill out time. Hope you can sort out your worst, friendships can be both brilliant and difficult xxx
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THANK YOU. I love that I can vent on this website and not be judged.
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You’re very welcome xxx
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Worst: Saw my neurologist yesterday and he thinks that the swelling in my brain has returned/worsened.
So I have to increase my steroid and hope that settles it down. He also advised me not to even consider returning to work until next year. So a bit of a setback. But I’m hopeful that increasing the dose will make me feel better as the last month hasn’t been so good (increasing nausea, dizziness etc).
Worst: daycare just called and Master A is running a temp. Sigh.
Worst: I have soooo much to do today as we are heading off on a roadtrip and I have no motivation whatsoever. Also if the kids are sick….. ugh.
Best: looking forward to seeing my siblings and my brand new niece!!!
Better get off the computer and do something productive! Hugs to all.
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I hope u feel better. stay positive.
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Huge hugs, oopsy xx
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Take care of yourself my dear. xx
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Hope it’s one step backwards & two steps forward soon. Big hugs. xx
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Hang in there Oopsy
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Ashleigh – I love your B&W post particularly the comment about your new ‘boyfriends’, brilliant!
Best: I started a Facebook page last Thursday and I’m up to 44 likes! It’s about health and fitness at every size, something I’m really passionate about. I’m loving getting to offer an alternative view point and it’s helping me in my recovery from an ED. It’s called A Healthy Paradigm if anyone wants to check it out – thanks to the MMers who have already liked it, I really appreciate it.
Another best: We’ve had a taste of Spring here in Melbourne, it’s been a bit of a tease but I’m loving the warmer weather and sunnier days.
Worst: It’s the last day of Winter and I’ve caught a cold; nearly made it through without one. Oh well, that’s a pretty good worst I think!
OMM: The way the world is changing. I’m not entirely convinced it’s for the best…
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Best: Go back to where you came from… what a brilliant, brilliant show!
Worst: Feeling guilty that I want a 3 bedroom, 2 bathroom house with a garden for me and my partner when we don’t need all that room, and aren’t planning on kids at all. Having seen so much poverty portrayed lately, I just feel bad that I was lucky enough to come to this country and be given so much opportunity when others have absolutely nothing in comparison.
OMM: My partner and I are having trouble on finding places that we both like. We’re not in a rush but it’d still be nice to find something we both agree on!
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Go Back to Where You Came From = amazing television.
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Best: Started a new course, which helps adds to my qualifications. It’s been a long time since I’ve needed to study or do quizzes and questions so I am feeling really motivated to do well.
Other Best: After seeing a MMer poster comment on the Michelle Bridges 12WBT and having heard so many positive things on an impulse I joined this Monday, just in time for the start of the 3rd round. I don’t need to lose weight but really wanted to improve my diet and do a lot more exercise. The food has been surprisingly delicious and filling and have enjoyed the first 5 days.
Worst: Happy to say no worsts! With my new course and diet and training I really feel like I’m going into Spring with a new spring in my step really
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Best #1: It was my sister’s kitchen tea and hen’s night last weekend. We cooked for 40 people and then we went out in the city for teppenyaki and karaoke. Great day but very exhausting (especially since me and one of the other bridesmaids did most of the work) and I am looking forward to doing zero this weekend ( apart from the wedding rehearsal).
Best #2: I’m going to the USA in ten sleeps!
Worst #2: I am really dreading seeing myself in the wedding photos. Am going to go on Weight Watchers when I get back from overseas. I’m only five feet tall so any extra weight is really noticeable on me and I really need to do something about it. Feel so bad about myself all the time.
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Nat and I calculated that it is only 116 sleeps till Christmas today and we got excited about that. Ten sleeps! That’s practically tomorrow!!!
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I’m jealous, I’ve still got 20 sleeps til I go to the US. Time is somehow both dragging and going super fast. I want to go now but still have so much to get done before then.
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The trip has completely crept up on me because I’ve been so busy with the wedding!
Where are you off to Ravenpuff? This is the third time to the States for me and I’m going to LA, Las Vegas, Denver and then for a ten-day road trip across Texas. V excited and v glad my boyfriend is the one who’ll be doing the driving.
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This is my first time. I’m going to San Francisco, LA, Las Vegas, New Orleans, Orlando, Washington D.C, New York and Boston.
Phew. I’m exhausted just typing all of those places. I think I’ll need a holiday from my holiday when I get back.
A road trip sounds amazing, I hope you have an amazing time
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Worst: Got that horrible tummy bug that was going around, made good friends with my bathroom this week! Missed a day of uni and have only just recovered
Best: Little bonding session with my mum last night, we dyed our hair, did our nails and discussed Puberty Blues. Too cute!
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One of the mums on #1boy’s soccer team said last week that her sister acts in Puberty Blues and I had to admit that I hadn’t heard of it, of her sister and that I don’t really watch tv! (insert red face)
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Best: Lovely sunny day here and it is my birthday on Sunday!
Worst: My brother is having surgery today. It is minor but still under general anesthetic so I will definitely be relieved to go and see him tonight!
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I’m sorry to ear about your relationship Ashleigh, time will help x
Best:I’ve just been told that I’m going to featured in a magazine in my industry as an up and coming woman in my field, full profile and video interview… excited much! I need to book in to the hairdresser
Worst: My step dad is going through a hard time and I pretty sure has depression, I feel so sorry for him, and my mother it is effecting her a lot…t sure what to do about that
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Hey MMers. Happy Friday
My Best: I’m well. Changed my meds again – fingers crossed. Been doing the Michelle Bridges 12 week thingo and been pretty disciplined. Lost a kg already – and I still had a wine last night
My Worst: Parenting issues. I call my ex husband the ‘human mollusc’ because he is a lazy shit. He ‘babysits’ the girls rahter than parents them. They are both grounded at the moment so last night he takes them shopping and doesnt give a shit about the chores they are supposed to do. I cracked it at him this morning as the girls are fighting more and becoming difficult. Told him he can pay extra child support and i’ll hire a teenage babystter to do the same job. He just ignores me. Just exhausting trying to raise good kids with a 37 year old teenager….and of course I feel guilty because II chose this spectacularly shit specimen to breed with.:(
OMM: Going to see a fave cover band tonight. There should be dancing a plenty.
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Best: Finally started to get some interest in some applications I need to put out in order to graduate! Last week it was all ‘no’.
Best: I wrote a post on the use of social media yesterday for good and not evil, and already it’s rocketed to #3 most popular on my blog.
Worst: I booked wisdom teeth surgery last Thursday. That seemed to set off the pain in the my teeth – this week they have been driving me nuts! Only 100 and something days til they are gone…
OMM: Came across the White Ribbon Day ‘Swear’ campaign. What a wonderful campaign and very timely considering I heard the saddest story about domestic violence this week. It really affected me and I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it. Really want to do what I can to help to stop stuff like this happening.
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My first post on best and worst and I have a couple of each cos I’m greedy.
Worst – #1 My boyfriend went on holiday to Vietnam this morning. WITHOUT ME. #2 After liviing in Sydney for a month I STILL HATE IT.
Best – #1 I get to meet the boyf in Vietnam for 5 days next week! It will have been the longest we’ve been apart since I moved and the long distance thing is breaking my (and his) heart. #2 The beautiful weather in Sydney today reminds me of home (Brisbane) and rather than dwelling on being miserable I’m being thankful for all the goodness in my life. I am a bloody lucky girl.
OMM – the tragic loss of our soldiers. While I hate being away from my family and friends, I’ve moved to a big, beautiful, peaceful city. By choice. I’m not away at war and apart of from my loved ones for months on end, with my life in danger. Its really put things in perspective. Much love.
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Oh Jayleeb! I am sad that you hate Sydney. Why do you hate it? Where do you live? Maybe you just have to get used to it – I promise it’s a really lovely city (except for the traffic sometimes!!)
As for the long distance thing – my boyfriend and I have been long distance since February and originally it was just awful but it really does get easier. I still get butterflies whenever I get to see him!
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I’m sad that you hate Sydney too! I promise it can be really lovely – and with spring around the corner, she’ll be showing off her best soon. Hope things improve xx
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Oh thanks Nat. I live in Pyrmont, with a girlfriend that moved down with me from Brisbane. I really have no reason to hate it, I don’t think I’ve really given it much of a chance (I’ve been home twice and I’ve only been here a month). It’s mostly that I am just getting used to not having a car, and not knowing where things are (favourite pub, coffee, shopping etc) I know thats the fun of it to get out and find all those things out, but I’m just in a funk at the moment. And I miss my ‘people’ desperately. Not just the bf, my bestie, my parents. Just questioning why I wanted to move in the first place. And to me it seems Sydney people are mean. I feel like I fight the world just to get to walk to work in the mornings! I’m sure there are lots of lovely Sydney-siders, but I don’t know how to meet them (who wants to talk to the lonely girl in the pub?!) I’m sure it will get better with time, everyone tells me it takes a while, and I do love the excitment of getting to see my boyfriend after I haven’t seen him for a while, definitely keeps the honeymoon period going
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oh hugs to you Jayleeb. When I moved from Brisbane to Sydney (many years ago) I hated it too, for all the reasons you said. Then we made ourselves do some of the more touristy things, and start exploring. I found myself stopping and looking at the harbour bridge going “wow I’m in one of the most exciting cities in the world, how cool is that” and that really helped. Also finding some cool clubs and pubs helped (like the basement is pretty funky). Eventually I grew to love it (especially the harbour on a sunny day, the water goes all shimmery and pretty). Give it time, in the meantime plan a fun day- catch the ferry to manly, and have lunh overlooking the water). It will get btter
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jayleeb, my boyfriend lives in Pyrmont and our fave coffee place is call Cafe XXII (22) – hands down best banana bread in Sydney!! You’ll learn to love Sydney I hope – you just need to give yourself a day (or week) for exploring! Plus there are a lots of great bars around Darling Harbour – try Blackbird for their awesome and reasonably priced cocktails!
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Sydney people can be mean, I totally agree with that. I hate walking to work in the morning – feels like I’m constantly getting shoved by men in suits! But there are some really lovely people around too. You should join a team or something – maybe there’s a sport you like to play, or a hobby you have? – that can help you meet new people? We’re also thinking about organising a Mamamia meet-up in Sydney so you could come along to that and make friends
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Thank you all for the lovely comments and encouragement, it has made me feel better about the move. I do love to play Netball and have been meaning to find a team, motivation has just been lacking! And would love to go to a Mamamia catch up and make some friends
I did just have a lovely lunch in the sun in Hyde park so that has made my day.
And Freyanoble – thanks for the hot tip, will check out Cafe XXII on the weekend, I am a sucker for Banana Bread & a good coffee.
Happy Friday guys x
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There’s a community centre in Ultimo (on Harris St) that has netball comps – it’s near the Powerhouse Museum. Check that out. I think there’s one down at the Rocks too. Sydney Uni also has a pretty flourishing mixed and girls netball comp a few nights a week that you could definitely put your name down as a single player and get hooked up with a team for, it just depends where they all are in their seasons. Saturday netball is winding up at the moment, so there’s a good chance Moore Park (near Fox Studios/SCG) is getting ready to start up their night comp too.
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Please everyone don’t shout at me for this….. but maybe it’s the area where you are living? Pyrmont is very inner city and inner city areas can be rough. I used to live in Darlinghurst 20 years ago and loved it but now it really depresses me, homeless people, mentally ill people – but lots of great people don’t get me wrong. It’s just that these areas can be a lot tougher and meaner than others… something for you to think about. I would definitley talk to you at the pub!
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Best: Go Back To Where You Came From. That series rocks.
Worst: I want to say a freaking annoying cough but after seeing what families go through with makeshift homes, no food, living fear, losing family – I don’t think my cough really cuts it in the scheme of things.
OMM: said families.
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Best: My gorgeous sister returns tonight from Europe.Counting down the hours until I pick her up from the airport. Looking forward to catching up on her travel news over dinner with friends.
Worst:none today – very grateful.
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I’m seeing my sister this weekend too. She’s only a few hours away – can’t imagine how excited you are Kate!
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BEST: I had one of my blog posts put up on iVillage!! Received an email from Lana, next day, kablamo! Very excited
You can read that here: http://www.ivillage.com.au/ridiculing-me-in-public-not-going-help-me-lose-weight/152151 and my blog is here: http://iamevilcupcakeblog.wordpress.com/
WORST: Gamer Guy has been in Sydney all week. We have both tried to meet up, but every option either of us comes up with, the other can’t do. So I’m going to miss out on seeing him
He’s just as frustrated as me.
WORST: Still feeling a bit lonely and mega horny. Not really a good combination.
UNSURE: My best friend Melaine is moving in with me tomorrow.
Hope everyone has a good weekend full of love, light, cupcakes and Jack Daniels. And puppies and kittens. With the occasional unicorn
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As The Whitlams sung: there’s no aphrodisiac like loneliness.
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Awesome article! Well done on getting noticed and published
Xx
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Unicorns that poop rainbows?
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Great article! Congratulations.
Buy a good vibrator
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Hey Evil Cupcake,
I just clicked the link and read your post. At the start you say ‘I know I’m overweight. I know I need to do something about it’ and then at the end ‘other than asthma that I’ve had since I was a teenager, I’m perfectly healthy. I’ve had all the tests to prove it’.
So my question is (not just to you but to everyone) – why do you need to do something about it? All your weight tells you is the amount of mass your body exerts against gravity, it doesn’t define your health. So if you are perfectly healthy than why change? Because society tells you that you have to? Because society thinks we’re all meant to look at certain way. F*** society. I 100% agree with you that fat shaming and ridiculing is not hopeful in any way.
If you’d written, I engage in unhealthy behaviours and I know I need to change it, then I would have looked at this differently. Please don’t give into society. Choose to follow a healthy lifestyle and let your body settle at it’s happiest and healthiest weight, sometimes that might or might not be the number we/society want to see on the scale.
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Thanks for your reply little Jojo.
I want to lose weight, just a little bit. My ideal (and bugger anyone elses opinion) is to get to a size 16. Why? Because I want to be fashionable. I want to wear something other than a mumu! The clothes they make for large women are horrific. So that’s it really.
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That’s a great point Cupcake. Can I ask, would be still want to lose weight if there was better fashion available for larger sizes?
I re-read my comment and I hope it doesn’t sound like I was having a go at you. I’m totally in support of you – I’m just angry about the notion that we all have to be a size 8 (and that’s no offence to those who are size 8, I just don’t think we are all meant to be).
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Maybe just a little? It’s more about comfort factor for me.
And I didn’t read your comment as having a go at me
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Cupcake I totally understand about the wanting to look fashionable! I love City Chic myself! Gorgeous stuff and right on trend.
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Best: So I turned 30 this week. As my friend said ‘welcome to our club’. I don’t feel any different than before. Should I? Is it a big deal?
Worst: nothing really. Just tired from hosting 2 parties in a week(my daughters 4th on Sunday).
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30 is nothing! I felt the same way.
Enjoy life, keep on keeping on.
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Best: Getting told this morning that I’ll working in another area of our office for 5 months starting in a week! This job is more aligned with my skills and experience..so, so, so excited! Hopefully it leads to other opportunities.
Worst: awaiting a family members biopsy result…knot in my stomach.
OMM: worrying about the family member and hoping with everything I have that there’s no cancer.
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Best: made it to the gym three times this week after a six month break. Twice with a personal trainer and once on my own. Looking forward to resultant increase in muscle tone and decrease in fat deposits. I feel so lucky that I have the sort of body / metabolism / whatever that responds well to diet and exercise. I watch people like my mum slogging their guts out at the gym and eating next to nothing just to maintain their weight, whereas the one time in my life I was overweight, I lost the ten kilograms and then another six just by getting my sh*t together. Genuinely grateful for my healthy body.
Worst: found out yesterday that the woman’s whose job I took over when she went on maternity leave had her baby die during birth. I just feel sick thinking about it. Term baby, mother didn’t have any special health concerns other than gluten intolerance, but during birth she had a complete placental abruption (placenta came away from the all of the uterus) and the baby died and she nearly followed. Even when I worked as a midwife I never saw a term baby die during birth, it’s just so shocking and unexpected even though I know that these things sometimes happen. Juxtapose that with the photographs that my sister sends me every morning of her newborn baby and it just highlights how you never know what’s around the corner.
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Oh that’s so sad:-(
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Best. I’m pregnant yay it’s a bit earlier than expected but still yay
Worst. Morning sickness i always forget how horrible it really is. Oh well only 8 months to go.
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On Your Best: congratulations!
On Your Worst: that’s the spirit!
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Congratulations! It’s never too early to secretly celebrate! ENJOY.
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Best … 6 weeks pregnant!
Worst … Morning ‘all day’ sickness argh. I’m so stressed as to how I’m going to take care of my toddler ~ cooking makes me feel so ill. How do women cope with this?!! I have to remind myself I worked through my first pregnancy and managed to get through it. This will be the last time EVER I have to feel this way 2 will be more than enough for me! Good luck to you kitten
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I’m on my third and have imbraced tinned soup and freezer meals for my other 2 it’s only for a short time and otherwise they eat very heathily
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