by JAMILA RIZVI
I truly believe that there are some kinds of hurt that can only be healed with a tub of Neapolitan swirl, a chick flick and your girlfriends.
I don’t have a scientific basis for this pronouncement but back in the day, a group of old American dudes declared some self evident truths and now I’m going to do the same.
My girlfriends and I have our ‘dealing with heartbreak’ routine down to an artform and it always involves some variation on the essential items above.
Exactly which variation depends on the length of the offending relationship and the level of evil doing committed by the man involved.
And somewhere between the heartbreaking romantic climax of the first film and the laugh-so-hard-you-wee-a-little-bit moment in the second – somehow everything just seems: a little bit less awful.
The strange thing is – this little exercise isn’t too dissimilar to what we do when we’re gossiping about a new relationship, or mourning the loss of a grandparent, or celebrating someone’s work success or in fact, just hanging out together.
And that’s because a girls’ night in is always infinitely more enjoyable than a girls’ night out.
Critical though, is the correct choice of film. In fact, the wrong film can spell DOOM for a girls’ night in. Okay, notsomuch. But still, if you’re having a girls’ night in, you may as well do it properly.
And that means not being suckered into hiring some trashy try-hard piece of crap, with more Hollywood stars than can fit comfortably in a Tarago (Valentines’ Day anyone?)
Here are my top five film picks for a girls’ night in:
(1) First Wives Club.It’s disgustingly rare to find a good film about a group of women over 40 – but this is one of them. And it’s fabulous. Goldie Hawn, Diane Keaton and Bette Midler form a club in order to get revenge on their ex-husbands, who have all left them for younger women. What I love best about this film is that it is seemingly focused on the three women’s romantic relationships but ultimately the moral of the story is actually one about girlfriends supporting one another. And then at the end they all dress up in white suits and sing and dance about the power of the sisterhood. Rock on.
(2) Little Women. It’s not every day that a film does justice to a book as good as Lousia May Alcott’s Little Women but the 1994 Gillian Armstrong version does just that. The storyline follows the lives of four very different sisters who are growing up during the American Civil War. Highlights include a rather delicious, young Christian Bale as Theodore Laurence declaring a wanton and obsessive love for Jo (before promptly taking up with his sister) and the ever-wise words of Susan Sarandon as Mrs March.
(3) Crazy Stupid Love. Ryan Gosling: Without. A. Shirt. On. Need I continue? I suppose not but in the name of completeness I shall provide you with a convincing spiel nonetheless. This is 2011 romcom follows the fumblings of Steve Carrol’s Cal Weaver after his wife asks him for a divorce. Cal seeks to rediscover his manliness (AKA pick up chics at bars) with the aid of newfound buddy Jacob (Ryan Gosling), who at the same time is chasing girls himself. It’s worth a watch simply for the beyond-awesome reaction from Emma Stone’s character Hannah to Gosling’s abdominal muscles: “Will you take off your shirt… fuck! Seriously? It’s like you’re Photoshopped!”
(4) Mean Girls. “… And none for Gretchen Wieners.” Mean Girls gets a gurnsey in the top 5 because let’s face it – is there anything more fun than reflecting on the bitchiness of high school and congratulating yourselves on the fact you’re no longer there? This is a teen movie with bucketloads more class and smarts than its competitors. Plus, it features Lindsay Lohan back when she was a feisty redhead with a promising career ahead of her. So you won’t be stuck for conversation.
(5) Dirty Dancing. This absolute classic from 1987 has everything a good chick flick needs: A hot male lead, a stellar soundtrack and – some dirty, dirty dancing. Baby falls in love with her dance teacher (Patrick Swayze – who could blame the girl) and things get a little out of hand thanks to some ‘hungry eyes’ and the carriage of a watermelon from A to B. I’m not sure quite what it is that makes this such a girls’ night in success but THAT lift in the water is just about the hottest thing that will ever grace your small screen.
A girls’ night out can sound enticing but once all the dress buying and shoe matching and make up perfecting is done – then the reality is it usually ends in disappointment.
Whereas a girls’ night in means: no losing one another on the dance floor, no excruciating pain from too high heels, no complaining about the DJ who only plays crappy unce-unce music and no Macy Gray, no desperate 3am cab search parties and no appalling pick up lines from men.
Plus you can watch one, if not all of these amazing films. What’s not to love?

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What are your best films for a girls’ night in?











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128 Comments so far
Anything with Ryan Gosling in it!
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So many to chose from but Love Actually, Pretty Woman and The Lake House
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Bridget Jones, Dangerous Liaisons, Dirty Dancing or Grease
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Love Actually with its twisting storylines; A romantic movie of a kind. Keira’s story made me smile, One of the best films for a while.
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I am now inspired to have a girls night in! I have read everyones fabulous choices, my absolute all time fav, The Princess Bride.
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I love Pretty Woman and When Harry Met Sally for my girls nights in.
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when girls are tired from the work
And tense from the study
It’s fun to watch Legally Blonde and Big Business
And eat chocolates with a buddy
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Commenting because when I submitted above there was no comment box above to answer with…. Grease, The Holiday and Dirty Dancing would be my three favourite flicks to enjoy with gal pals.
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Forget romance, heart-churning, head spinning action is in, so bring on the Bourne Trilogy.
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Any movie that has the girls in fits of laughter with tears rolling down our faces is perfect. Bridesmaids and What to Expect when You’re Expecting come to mind. Thanks for a great giveaway, I would absolutely love some Simone Perele lingerie ♥
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Rocky Horror Picture Show – what could be better than a sing-a-long with friends?
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Anne Of Green Gables.
A true classic.
Definatly a chicks flick.
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Boys on the side – the funniest, sadest and heart warming journey of 3 very different women discovering themselves.
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There was no space in the entry form for my answer or to select which Simone Perele items I like best.
For a girls night in, I believe that, as an 80s child, you just cannot go past the John Hughes films like The Breakfast Club, Pretty In Pink and Sixteen Candles. Reliving my youth and having a laugh all at once.
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27 Dresses or anything else with Kathryn Heigl
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Dirty Dancing and Bridget Jones!
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Roman holiday, a feast to the eyes and Rome as the background, Gregory Peck and Audrey Hepburn show that opposites of any kind do attract.
“Breakfast at Tiffany’s” I thank for giving us a classic style that will stick around and a movie that is lovingly watched to this day.
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The Notebook and The Vow are my all time favourite chick flicks
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Mama mia..so fun to sing alone after a few glasses of wine!
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Grease, Circle of Friends, Ghost, Pretty Woman & An Officer and a Gentleman. All great viewing at any time. Pride & Prejudice if you want to spoil any date for the rest of your life with unrealistic expectations!
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Any movie with my girlfriends to have a laugh and a few wines with me but one with some eye candy is always a bonus.
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Beaches with Bette.
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Dirty Dancing, Moulin Rouge and Grease – dance the night away drinking bubbly!
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Bend it like Beckham, Amelie, The Sapphires, Your sister’s sister, Three Colours trilogy, Love Actually
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Nights In are almost always more enjoyable in my view! I was interested to see the Cancer Council sponsored this post. I assumed posts for charities would be free?
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Sound of Music. Love, nuns, matching outfits and puppets, all set to the backdrop of the Second World War. Brilliant.
So glad you included my favourite move ever, When Harry Met Sally, was getting a bit worried towards the end there!
Ahhh, Dirty Dancing. Totally love the very last seen when Patrick Swayze is mouthing the words of Time of My Life. The look on his face….swoonworthy.
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Sound of music was on Fox Classics on the weekend.
Loved it.
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all of the below and Circle of Friends – chris o’donnell with an irish accent – yum
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I love the first wives club, never gets old!! There’s nothing better than a girls night in. The hardest part is getting everyone together at the same time! Everyone is so busy these days.
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“LOVE ACTUALLY” is my favourite in this genre, and a little-known British film called “Truly, Madly, Deeply” will have you reaching for the “Large & Thick, Silk touch” Kleenex.
We saw a wonderful Foreign film recently “CARAMEL” by beautiful Lebanese actor, writer, director Nadine Labaki…..that’s definitely going on the list.
There are SO many films I’d love to suggest…………
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Gosh so many different movies to pick from but here are my favourites.
Bend it like Beckham – love this movie – funny and inspiring and funny
Boys on the Side – go girl friendships
Joy Luck Club – go complicated relationships with your mother
EverAfter – soooo romantic
The Wedding Singer – go 80s fashion
Muriel’s Wedding – what’s not to love?
Looking for Alibrandi – LOVE
My Brilliant Career – marry him you fool.
About a Boy – the only movie where I really fancy Hugh Grant
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In no particular order…
While you were sleeping
Comrades, Almost a love story (Hong Kong film)
Love actually
The Breakfast Club
Sleepless in Seattle
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In no particular order:
Steel Magnolias (classic! One of the only movies that makes me cry)
Something Borrowed (loved the book more, but still enjoyed the movie)
The Wedding Singer (the best feel good movie ever!)
Never Been Kissed (a fav from my teen years, Michael Vartan is hot!)
Now and Then (another one to remind me of my childhood! My daughters will be watching this!)
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And Bridget Jones definitely tops my list – though it’s much more apparent in the books than the films how supportive her friends are….
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2 Days in Paris (because it’s hilarious)
Reality bites (for old times sake)….God knows how many times my friends and I have danced to “My sharona”!!! The 90′s were so much fun!
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Amelie
Bridget jones
Love actually
High society
Breakfast at Tiffany’s
The sound of music
Reality bites
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I already posted this, but it didn’t show up.
It’s hard to choose just 5, but in no particular order….
Grease
Clueless
Notting hill
Love, actually
How to lose a guy in 10 days
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Bridesmaids – to p#ss ourselves laughing
Amelie – so delightful in Montmarte
Love Actually – firm favourite
Before Sunrise – Ethan Hawke all grown up from Dead Poets Society
Pride & Prejudice – BBC with Colin Firth
Flashdance, Dirty Dancing, Grease, Ferris Bueller’s Day Off, Fried Green Tomatoes at the Whistle Stop Cafe – all for nostalgia
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Sabrina with Audrey Hepburn
The Princess Bride
Pride and Prejudice (Colin Firth)
Gentlemen Prefer Blondes
Clueless (so clever)
Steel Magnolias
Fried Green Tomatoes
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I’m a graduate of film studies so I should have a stack of clever, edgy alternative films to contribute but truth is I love the chick flicks mentioned here! Happy to hang with Bridget Jones, Mama Mia, Thelma and Louise! But just to give my edumecation a nod i will add one of my arty favs is ‘Three Colors Blue’. This is a sobbing good two hours of chick therapy albeit with subtitles. And Jamila i need to add wine to our chosen concoction!
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Whilst not a movie, for me Pride and Prejudice (the series with Colin Firth, swooooon) is a must have for a girls night in. Doesn’t matter how many times I watch it, I will never get sick of it. Aaaahhhhhh.
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Terms of endearment
An officer and a gentleman
Beaches
Steel magnolias
Camille
Gone with the wind
Bridget Jones diary
Muriel’s wedding
Bridesmaids
Erin brockovich
Thelma and Louise (my personal fav)
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My favourite is
Fried Green Tomatoes at the Whistle Stop Cafe. Brilliant!!
And then in no particular order I love:
Mamma Mia
Muriel’s Wedding (getting the Abba vibe?)
Moulin Rouge (or maybe it is a musical vibe?) (or an M vibe?)
Ghost
Thelma and Louise
Beaches
Steel Magnolias
I could go on but these are some of my favs!
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Jamila that was an excellent top 5! This is really hard. After significant pondering here are my top 5:
Empire Records (for classic good times, good music and “what’s with today, today?”)
Ghost (the clay scene gets us every time)
Amelie (for when we’re feeling cultural)
He’s Just Not That Into You (for when someone’s broken up with a guy)
Dream For An Insomniac (for when my friends are humouring me and will let me quote the whole thing, from start to finish)
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Thanks Steph! Amelie narrowly missed my cut
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Empire Records! My flat mates and I must have watched that 100 times when we were at uni (or studiously avoiding lectures). The ultimate chick flick! I even almost shaved my head…
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Oh dream for an insomniac…Anything less than extraordinary is a WASTE of time.
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Love Actually, Bridgette Jones Diary, The secret life of Bees, Pretty woman, Steel Magnolias
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Definitely has to include:
Pretty Woman
The Titanic
Oooooh scanning AJ’s list below and will steal….
Beaches and
Steel Magnolias
And will finish up with…
Arghhhh baby crying, gotta run (that’s not a movie title by the way….but perhaps should be!?)
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1 St Elmo’s Fire
2. Pretty in Pink
3. The Breakfast Club
4. Desperately Seeking Susan
5. Ferris Bueller’s Day Off
(Bet you can’t tell I was an 80s teenager!)
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what about “sixteen candles”……happy birthday Samantha
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Yes! Thanks buster xx
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I love all these too, also 80s teenager.
I loved Blind Date, Soul Man and Mr Mom too.
My husband would object to the Breakfast Club being labelled a chick flick because he’s rather obsessed with it still.
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My list:
Muriel’s Wedding
Mamma Mia
Bridesmaids
Eat Pray Love
and…..The Holiday (awww…Jack Black in a romantic role!)
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LOVE Bridesmaids. “That f***ing cookie!”
That and Young Adult. What can I say? I like films with female protagonists who are kind of train wrecky. I guess it’s because you normally only see male characters like that, kind of slobby and perpetually adolescent. I was disturbed by how much both characters remind me of myself in certain scenes.
Er. Not proud.
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The Wedding Date (Debra Messing and Dermott Mulroony – hubba hubba)
The Notebook
Chocolat (or anything with Johnny Depp)
The Secret Life of Bees (Dakota Fanning is fantabulous)
Dirty Dancing
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BRIDGET JONES! hands down every time!
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Love all these! My other faves are:
1. Steel Magnolias
2. Beaches
3. The Notebook
4. The Hairy Bird
5. Cruel Intentions
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The Hairy Bird was on tv the other week, and I taped it so I could watch it next time my sisters are over:)
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