It’s the biggest honour a woman can bestow on her girlfriend – to be Head Bridesmaid. But what happens when you’re the best supporting actress but your leading man doesn’t even get an invite?
When you’re asked to step in to the Maid of Honour role you feel a surge of excitement, entitlement, responsibility and absolute superiority. You’re not just a guest, or a bridesmaid handing out pamphlets of the order of service. You are the bride’s right hand woman, the Kath to her Kim and the holder of her dress when she needs to pee.
There is no other role like the Maid of Honour. You get to stand up next to the bride, your best friend and peer down at the other guests. You get to look radiant (without stealing the show) standing next to the bride. And your partner gets ALL the bragging rights.
If he’s invited that is.
The 9 stages of being a bridesmaid.
You see, I had this great role bestowed upon me – for a wedding coming up in March. I was gifted with the title – Maid of Honour late last year. And since accepting the title I have done everything to help make this day the most incredible one the bride has ever had.
For the last 6 months I have devoted my life to her. I have spoken about dresses and trawled the shops with her until we found the perfect fit. I searched online to help find the bridemaid’s dresses, I organised the perfect hen’s day and made beautiful invitations for it. And I helped craft her invites for the actual wedding day.
I waited for mine in anticipation.
I can’t afford to be your bridesmaid.
It came – two came in fact. One for my whole family and then another for me (and my partner I thought), but as I ripped open the envelope I saw one measly name on the card that I held in my hand. It simply read: Ashley Morris.
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This actually happened to me 20 years ago when my partner of then 6 months was not invited when I was the maid of honour. I did say something and he did come but was very awkward, Needless to say we are now distant friends while I am still with the same partner 22 years later and happily married. Very rude to think that they entrust you to be their very special friend and expect you to spend all that money on their wedding but think so lowly of you they won't spend $120 to cover a meal?? Bizzare. Time to move on and opt out of the wedding unless there is a very good excuse (i.e. baby brain).
Just take your partner along to the wedding and if the bride says anything about it, just say "oh I'm so sorry I thought you just forgot to put his name on the invite" and finish it with a smile 😄😄
No offence, but showing up with an uninvited guest is actually rude to the caterers/event planners etc who have to somehow to make it work....and not to mention tacky. This is not the way to handle it.