There are so many grey areas. Once upon a time, before the internet and video and instant messaging, there was only boldness to an affair. There was the action and reaction and nothing, really, in between.
Now the lines are so blurry. With things like video streaming of naked women doing strange things – like reading books or smoking marijuana or sexually pleasuring themselves. But he’s only watching, does this count? Apps like Tinder: is it untrustworthy to still have it on your phone when you’re in a relationship? What about the small but very significant step of moving from the intra-work messaging system to text messages and being Facebook friends?
It’s pretty clear: technology has changed infidelity.
I read an article in New York Magazine’s The Cut over the weekend posing the question: is porn cheating? This is not a new question. It’s been quietly whispered between girlfriends over long lunches and wine-filled dinners since the first Playboy was found under a boyfriend’s bed, and especially since the internet made volumes and volumes of porn so accessible.
When your boyfriend or girlfriend gets their rocks off to something else or someone else – even if they are not in the same room – does that consistent as cheating?
Not if it’s porn?
What about live cam? Where women (women are more popular on live cam than men) perform sex acts, pleasuring themselves on camera, and men or women can chat to them as they do it. Request certain things. Spanking. Sex toys. Reciting Shakespeare while touching herself? (Apparently it’s a thing).