My boyfriend and I have been together almost three years, with a few breakups in between. For a while now, I have hoped he would give me a key to his apartment, because I felt like that would show he trusts me, is committed to me and has faith that we won’t be breaking up again.
But he hasn’t yet, because he feels as if there’s too much emphasis on it. It hurts, because he has never told me he loves me, and getting this key was the one thing giving me hope that he sees a future with me.
It’s not helping that I’ve always felt that he’s still in love with his ex-girlfriend. He dated her for only a year and had no problem telling her he loved her. He is best friends with her brother-in-law and sister, and during the times we’ve been broken up, he has received texts from her and saw her at events they were both invited to. Part of me feels they hooked up when we were apart.
Do you think I’m overreacting here?
–Brooklyngirl; Brooklyn, NY
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There's always another side to hear in relationships but from what I hear it doesn't sound like she is more than a temporary measure. He is drawing and keeping boundaries in the relationship and hence limiting it to terms he is currently comfortable with. Hence charging at the fences will either end the relationship or ruin it with resentment.
In the end you can't make someone feel what you feel for them, no matter how strongly you feel and it seems he isn't ready or willing for as much as she wants.