Navigating all the rules to a lasting relationship is mind-mashing.
Don’t fight about money, we’re told. Always communicate feelings openly, we’re urged. And whatever you do, never go to bed angry.
And those are only three of the squillions of happy marriage mantras.
But an expert has put forward a far simpler way of ensuring that your relationship remains on track: the 5:1 ratio.
Famed marriage expert Dr John Gottman says the key factor that distinguishes the happy couples from the miserable is a healthy balance between their positive and negative interactions.
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But, as explained on the Gottman Institute blog, balance does not mean a 50-50 equilibrium.
Dr Gottman’s theory is that there needs to be five times as many positive interactions between partners as there are negative for the relationship to be stable.
Dr Gottman calls this the “magic ratio”.
Positive interactions include touching, smiling, paying compliments, laughing, showing empathy, being kind and showing interest.
Top Comments
Seems reasonable, doesn't hurt to try this in your relationship.
He's right.
Tonight I'm going over my notes from my lawyer in regards to my divorce.
It's hell.
If your married and want to stay that way I'd suggest reading some of this guys work, show it to your partner too.
Good luck out there.