It’s Sunday morning and there’s a man lying next to me in my bed.
My head is throbbing, my throat is dry, my phone’s on 13 per cent battery. I know that after about 20 minutes, when this man leaves, I’ll probably never see him again. And that’s okay with me. It’s exactly what I wanted.
Most weekends, it’s the same story. Get dressed up on a Saturday night, go out with friends, down a few shots, dance, go home with someone.
Since I became single last year after a two-year relationship, I’ve wanted nothing more than casual sex. For me, it’s the best kind of arrangement. You have the sex, you have the cuddle, then you go your separate ways and don’t talk to each other until you want it again. Watch: Amy Schumer in her movie Trainwreck loves casual sex. (Post continues after video.)
Don’t get me wrong, I’m a sucker for romance. But as a successful woman in my mid-20s, I don’t want a relationship. I don’t even want to date, necessarily. I just want sex.
A Vanity Fair article recently addressed the new age of men who use dating apps to sleep around as ‘fuckboys’. These men, the article explains, view women as something to house their dicks – just for a night, or on a casual basis, until they got bored of them.
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Why is this being made a big deal? It's called women taking responsibility for her own pleasure. This is judged? Get over yourselves.
Women used to be able to command a premium for sex, in the 1950s it was worth a ring, then a relationship, then a few dates, one dinner and now a swipe of the finger on an app. 10 years ago dating sites could charge men much more than women for membership, now that's very hard to maintain.
In that sense the author has helped dropped the value of vagina to junk bond status. Maybe that's why she wants to remain anonymous, because having a vagina these days isn't valuable enough to command a relationship, as it used to be and that might annoy some women. Certainly not to protect her identity from men as she is out to meet them.
If men can now pretty much have sex on demand, it's logical to see the next step as women having to go farther than they may be comfortable with and start having porn star sex in the competitive market of relationships.
I'm not saying she is wrong, free country and all, but I wonder if lots of random dong leaves one waking up at 30 and really happy, happier than just one guy who loves and adores you and is commited to you?
Isn't she saying I'm not an object (a walking vagina) with a monetary value, I'm an independent person who will do want I want. Reverse your logic, does a man have no sexual premium because men are willing to sleep around and if so do men care or even think about that? Do they care that their penis has no premium? haha . If women are not thinking or worried about their sexual and monetary commodification and have moved the F$*! on then hoorah and maybe you should move on too. Nobody makes someone else have porn star sex unless it is a controlling and unhealthy relationship. Did you think that some women, sometimes want porn star sex too and that women are not passive vulva shaped money boxes?