by ASHLEIGH MUTIMER I hate self help books. The kind of hate you would usually reserve for a cheating ex-boyfriend. The moment someone talks about affirmations or visualising my goals I dust off my Judgey Mc-Judgey pants, nod my head, murmur a few "Hmmms" and visualise them face-planting mid Downward Dog. As they say though, there is an exception to every rule. And no one was more surprised than I was when Gavin De Becker’s self-help book The Gift of Fear saved my life. Really. Stay with me. Gavin De... more
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Ash grew up mostly in Sydney with a brief guest appearance in Melbourne. After graduating from high school in 2005 she has either been working in hospitality or traveling. An expert procrastinator, she is renowned for her hilarious sense of direction, a co-dependent relationship with her phone and a severe addiction to all things caffeinated. She has decided 2012 will be remembered as the year she resolved to join the adults and get a real job.
by ASHLEIGH MUTIMER Show me someone who has never had a sexual fantasy and I’ll show you a liar. Now, I know it’s not exactly a 'around the dinner table' topic of conversation but hey, this is our dinner table and we're going to break some bread, pour some wine and indulge in a bit of over sharing. So I’ll go first: My top three sexual fantasy partners are Mark Bouris (yes, really), George Clooney (standard) and Cary Grant – after he went grey. And now to the sharing of what I'd like to do with... more
by ASHLEIGH MUTIMER Last week sucked. I was feeling really down and all the ice cream and cuddles in the world weren't helping. But then I caught up with one of my more practical and level-headed friends and he gave me some great advice. He said "You know Ash, that really does suck. And I don't want to go all "this too shall pass" on you...but worse things have happened to better people. So you know, chin up." That advice came complete with one of those awkward, man-friend squeeze of the shoulders. Don't you just love men? But... more
. by ASHLEIGH MUTIMER There is one word that perfectly sums up my week – whiplash. This week I finally gave up on a relationship I have spent the last 6 months fighting tooth and nail for. There is something uniquely heartbreaking about watching someone you love suffer and not being able to do a thing about it. There’s also a bittersweet freedom in making the decision to be happy and allowing yourself to let go. Never fear though, my new boyfriends Gym, Ben and Jerry... more
. by ASHLEIGH MUTIMER Two years ago I had an abortion. Two years ago to the day I had to make one of the most soul-crushing and horrific decisions of my life. Christopher* and I had been together for three years and we'd been discussing starting a family for the last six months. He was in his early 40's and starting to feel time was slipping away from him. I was in my early 20's and could think of nothing better than having children with the love of my life. We were away on a business trip... more